Girl, he's trying to get with other women if he hasn't already. Someone who isn't ready to commit to you is not worth your time. He's putting in no effort at all, but I assume still wants sex right? Like no, this guy is not worth having your heart broken over. You will find someone better, don't even spend more energy than you already have.
So yes I think you should just do the DNA test if it will ease his mind. The test itself won't hurt you, and he has already asked so fine. Tell him that the reasons for him asking means it has to come out of his own pocket, but you have no problem at all with the test itself. Do the test.
Then sit him down and tell him to his face that you no longer feel trusted or valued by him because he took the words of people he is not close to over yours. That the problem isn't the test, it is the way he went about it and his reasons for it. That if it had been advice from a close personal friend of his or his siblings or something that would be different, but just pulling it off of FB and acting like this is completely sane life advice, then treating you like a cheater over it, is just too much. And if he really truly wants to stay with you and not blow up this relationship with you over this whole situation, you guys are going to have to work on fixing this. And that means couples therapy, and deep meaningful conversations about feelings, motivations, actions, and what you guys want your future to look like. MANY of these discussions. And he can't say a single thing against it because he brought this on himself.
Absolutely not. If someone makes something like that an ultimatum instead of simply seeking a discussion it’s over. I can’t imagine anything more profoundly selfish and lacking in empathy. Honestly I would be bothered by the question after 8 years of monogamy.
No, that is definitely weird and would make me super uncomfortable too. Is he gay maybe? Sometimes I’ve had friends at work that were good looking but gay and into expensive things.
yeah i definitely feel your frustration there. just keep looking mama, save as much as you can while you’re still there. it will be worth it (and probably easier) to be a single mom and not have to deal with a man child.
he acts like you’re a fleshlight that he can use time to time whenever he’s horny.
Girl, he's trying to get with other women if he hasn't already. Someone who isn't ready to commit to you is not worth your time. He's putting in no effort at all, but I assume still wants sex right? Like no, this guy is not worth having your heart broken over. You will find someone better, don't even spend more energy than you already have.
Okay so I do have some thoughts about this.
So yes I think you should just do the DNA test if it will ease his mind. The test itself won't hurt you, and he has already asked so fine. Tell him that the reasons for him asking means it has to come out of his own pocket, but you have no problem at all with the test itself. Do the test.
Then sit him down and tell him to his face that you no longer feel trusted or valued by him because he took the words of people he is not close to over yours. That the problem isn't the test, it is the way he went about it and his reasons for it. That if it had been advice from a close personal friend of his or his siblings or something that would be different, but just pulling it off of FB and acting like this is completely sane life advice, then treating you like a cheater over it, is just too much. And if he really truly wants to stay with you and not blow up this relationship with you over this whole situation, you guys are going to have to work on fixing this. And that means couples therapy, and deep meaningful conversations about feelings, motivations, actions, and what you guys want your future to look like. MANY of these discussions. And he can't say a single thing against it because he brought this on himself.
Absolutely not. If someone makes something like that an ultimatum instead of simply seeking a discussion it’s over. I can’t imagine anything more profoundly selfish and lacking in empathy. Honestly I would be bothered by the question after 8 years of monogamy.
No, that is definitely weird and would make me super uncomfortable too. Is he gay maybe? Sometimes I’ve had friends at work that were good looking but gay and into expensive things.
Don't shower rape kit now
yeah i definitely feel your frustration there. just keep looking mama, save as much as you can while you’re still there. it will be worth it (and probably easier) to be a single mom and not have to deal with a man child.
Four whole months? Wow fairy tales exist.