I did say to him “what's more important? Your need to debate with my horrifically abusive ex, or me feeling safe and protected?” There wasn't much of an answer, just saying again that I have no right to control who he talks to. He also said he just won't mention when he talks to him but I told him that I'll still know it's happening so that's not a good enough alternative.
People who were cheated on will likely seek ‘safe’ people to seek validation from, usually of the opposite sex for obvious reasons. I think I’ve read this story one too many times on Reddit by now
OP is right to not feel comfortable with this at all and I would also ask to restrict 1 on 1 meetings with this friend
Yes you are being toxic and no you shouldn’t make it her problem
Some people just have naturally lower libidos. How do you suggest she changea that?
You fucked up. Invasion of privacy.
This.
I did say to him “what's more important? Your need to debate with my horrifically abusive ex, or me feeling safe and protected?” There wasn't much of an answer, just saying again that I have no right to control who he talks to. He also said he just won't mention when he talks to him but I told him that I'll still know it's happening so that's not a good enough alternative.
It most certainly is not
People who were cheated on will likely seek ‘safe’ people to seek validation from, usually of the opposite sex for obvious reasons. I think I’ve read this story one too many times on Reddit by now
OP is right to not feel comfortable with this at all and I would also ask to restrict 1 on 1 meetings with this friend
Okay bye lmao