Women make less for doing the same job. I think if the poster was Elon Musk and the date works as a house cleaner then he should pick up the tab even though both have jobs.
Well, what you've learned is that the friend group is much more your friend's friends than yours. That they didn't want to “step in” is bullshit, because they all stepped in the second the didn't invite you to group events that you normally would have been invited to. They chose your friend and your ex – they can't claim neutrality. Neutrality would have been inviting everyone and letting the chips fall where they may.
I'd say something to my “friend” along the lines of “Hey friend, I maybe could have eventually gotten past the fact that you started dating my long term bf weeks after we broke. But what I can't get past? You lying to me for almost a year. You convincing people I thought were my friends to lie to me for almost a year. You convincing my supposed friends from excluding me from friend events for almost a year because you wanted to get away with your lie. You made a concerted effort for an entire year to lie to me, betray my friendship, convince my other friends to betray our friendship, and to exclude and isolate me from the friend group. That isn't something I can just get over now that YOU have decided you want me back in the group that you kicked me out of. Life doesn't work that way.”
You obviously do have some ingrained beliefs that 2 men loving one another is wrong. You acted totally on instinct. Acknowledge that. Educate yourself and learn from this. You can’t play the I have gay friends card after what you did instinctively.
While that is absolutely true, destroying a family's relationship is something that would weigh heavily on my mind. Not everyone is a dangerous rapist and maybe the bro got these pics off gonewild and simply likes her because he knows her or something. Is it still the right thing to tell her and the older brother? It's wierd yes, but does it require telling the gf and potentially ruining the brothers relationship? There is always a grey area that I think needs to be scrutinized before important decisions are made
No and your relationship is over. If she wanted you there she’d likely express it. If you want to be kind, send flowers maybe but tbh you’ve already done too much. I don’t have a positive outlook on breaks they’re only done for one of two reasons
How to move on.. keep yourself so busy you don’t have time to think about her all the time. Keep her blocked. It gets easier with time, but will never be easy. Time and distance will help you move on. Every time you talk, it reopens the wound. Best of luck for a happy, monogamous future.
yeah ikr.. maybe in future ill use and wear them again but for now its in the box, out of my sight ?
Thanks. She agreed. 🙂
Women make less for doing the same job. I think if the poster was Elon Musk and the date works as a house cleaner then he should pick up the tab even though both have jobs.
Well, what you've learned is that the friend group is much more your friend's friends than yours. That they didn't want to “step in” is bullshit, because they all stepped in the second the didn't invite you to group events that you normally would have been invited to. They chose your friend and your ex – they can't claim neutrality. Neutrality would have been inviting everyone and letting the chips fall where they may.
I'd say something to my “friend” along the lines of “Hey friend, I maybe could have eventually gotten past the fact that you started dating my long term bf weeks after we broke. But what I can't get past? You lying to me for almost a year. You convincing people I thought were my friends to lie to me for almost a year. You convincing my supposed friends from excluding me from friend events for almost a year because you wanted to get away with your lie. You made a concerted effort for an entire year to lie to me, betray my friendship, convince my other friends to betray our friendship, and to exclude and isolate me from the friend group. That isn't something I can just get over now that YOU have decided you want me back in the group that you kicked me out of. Life doesn't work that way.”
You wouldn't sound crazy but he will just deny everything.
OP 100% got mouthy and the other person told her to shut up.
Break up with her- you don’t stay with someone who sexually assaults you.
You obviously do have some ingrained beliefs that 2 men loving one another is wrong. You acted totally on instinct. Acknowledge that. Educate yourself and learn from this. You can’t play the I have gay friends card after what you did instinctively.
While that is absolutely true, destroying a family's relationship is something that would weigh heavily on my mind. Not everyone is a dangerous rapist and maybe the bro got these pics off gonewild and simply likes her because he knows her or something. Is it still the right thing to tell her and the older brother? It's wierd yes, but does it require telling the gf and potentially ruining the brothers relationship? There is always a grey area that I think needs to be scrutinized before important decisions are made
Once you open that door it'll be very hot to close it
No and your relationship is over. If she wanted you there she’d likely express it. If you want to be kind, send flowers maybe but tbh you’ve already done too much. I don’t have a positive outlook on breaks they’re only done for one of two reasons
How to move on.. keep yourself so busy you don’t have time to think about her all the time. Keep her blocked. It gets easier with time, but will never be easy. Time and distance will help you move on. Every time you talk, it reopens the wound. Best of luck for a happy, monogamous future.