My opinion is that you need to decide if a “ring” is the most important thing in your life. Even if you get a ring, that doesn't mean you'll necessarily stay together for the rest of your lives.
You need to sit down and do some thinking. He's made his boundaries and needs clear. If they don't mesh with your boundaries and needs, then yes, end the relationship.
Exactly. The way OP has worded it, he’s saying “here’s all the people that flirt with me, I won’t be discouraging them from doing so, so here’s a heads up that will be happening with X, Y, Z persons.”
Leave her alone. She deserves somebody who actually values her, and you aren’t that person. Don’t hurt her again. Stop getting in relationships with people you aren’t attracted to – it’s cruel.
You know him better than Reddit does. You know her better than Reddit does.
I've definitely had a few female friends that I could have totally shared a room with or changed in front of. Still friends with a couple of them. It's probably not the norm, but it does happen.
Honestly, you sound super understanding. And he sounds like he is making an effort to make it up to you. I would suggest just trying to soldier through it, see how you feel when he gets back, and then do some serious communicating once you've assessed at that point.
Have him go to a day program for a week while he’s there, you call his former manager, tell them he’s having a breakdown and is treating at [local psych hospital], tell him to pass along your husband’s sincere apologies to the office, and just ask for a good reference. Don’t ask for his job back. I think that’s too much.
He's lying because he is doing something he feels is wrong. In his head (and heart) he is cheating on you, so he therefore has to lie to cover it up. Your boundaries are different and you don't have a problem with him interacting with other women and that's ok. Just know that he knows what he feels for those women and he knows he is doing a bad thing on purpose, cue the plethora of lies.
It'd be like this one if you PMed me and we chatted to try to get to the root cause of the issue to find a solution. It wouldn't be like this current conversation.
It's a problem that you're hung up on her. You don't have a solution. You can't just fight every suggestion.
Well at least he has a plan lol
My opinion is that you need to decide if a “ring” is the most important thing in your life. Even if you get a ring, that doesn't mean you'll necessarily stay together for the rest of your lives.
You need to sit down and do some thinking. He's made his boundaries and needs clear. If they don't mesh with your boundaries and needs, then yes, end the relationship.
He was flirting with you and now probably realized you aren’t interested lol
Exactly. The way OP has worded it, he’s saying “here’s all the people that flirt with me, I won’t be discouraging them from doing so, so here’s a heads up that will be happening with X, Y, Z persons.”
Nope. Disrespectful AF.
Leave her alone. She deserves somebody who actually values her, and you aren’t that person. Don’t hurt her again. Stop getting in relationships with people you aren’t attracted to – it’s cruel.
You know him better than Reddit does. You know her better than Reddit does.
I've definitely had a few female friends that I could have totally shared a room with or changed in front of. Still friends with a couple of them. It's probably not the norm, but it does happen.
Honestly, you sound super understanding. And he sounds like he is making an effort to make it up to you. I would suggest just trying to soldier through it, see how you feel when he gets back, and then do some serious communicating once you've assessed at that point.
Have him go to a day program for a week while he’s there, you call his former manager, tell them he’s having a breakdown and is treating at [local psych hospital], tell him to pass along your husband’s sincere apologies to the office, and just ask for a good reference. Don’t ask for his job back. I think that’s too much.
He's lying because he is doing something he feels is wrong. In his head (and heart) he is cheating on you, so he therefore has to lie to cover it up. Your boundaries are different and you don't have a problem with him interacting with other women and that's ok. Just know that he knows what he feels for those women and he knows he is doing a bad thing on purpose, cue the plethora of lies.
It'd be like this one if you PMed me and we chatted to try to get to the root cause of the issue to find a solution. It wouldn't be like this current conversation.
It's a problem that you're hung up on her. You don't have a solution. You can't just fight every suggestion.