Ok as a fellow new father (< 3months), I really don’t understand your husband, or your attitude towards him.
I partially understand giving him the benefit of the doubt on pregnancy and postpartum stuff to a certain degree, but honestly why hasn’t he educated himself?
As soon as we decided to try for our child , I went out of my way to find out as much information as I could, about pregnancy, child birth and the postpartum period as well as parenting . Do I get things wrong sometimes? Definitely . Are there things I was completely unaware of ? Again definitely , sometimes there’s things that you’d need to know about partially to even to look it up. But the point is I’m trying to minimise it as much as possible because that’s my job as a husband and father.
Whether he’s oblivious or not is irrelevant , he shouldn’t be. The fact that he’s pestering you for sex is bad regardless of the situation, but to do it at such an early point postpartum is awful.
Your husband needs to step the fuck up, educate himself and start supporting you .
That’s is the difficult part.. I feel like I will never love anyone as much as I loved this person. I know it’s probably not true but It feels like throwing away everything, we lived together and we had plans for the future, it hurts so much. After that time period is over if I still want to contact them should I? I just don’t want to make the wrong choice , I don’t know if it’s best to let them initiate since they are the one who broke up. Or if after a certain period of time it’s okay for me to initiate
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She obviously wants to play the field but also wants someone consistent in case something happens with her side piece. Girls who are like this desire attention and validation from other men. I’d recommend you stay single and work on yourself
I was going to say that this is not normal, but tbh I found it quite common among men. However, it’s NOT healthy & I think that is what you really need to hear (or read).
He does not love you beyond what you can do for/give to him. He is too entitled; he thinks he deserves a woman with the “right” body, etc etc. if he deserves a woman with whatever body type he is pushing on you, then please let him go “get it” He thinks he deserves models? Then let him “get them” at his work events. Time for you to focus on you and your life because these guys are a dime a dozen.
Dude stop it. She lied about hanging out with him. That's an even bigger red flag. WALK. You have my advice.
Ok as a fellow new father (< 3months), I really don’t understand your husband, or your attitude towards him.
I partially understand giving him the benefit of the doubt on pregnancy and postpartum stuff to a certain degree, but honestly why hasn’t he educated himself?
As soon as we decided to try for our child , I went out of my way to find out as much information as I could, about pregnancy, child birth and the postpartum period as well as parenting . Do I get things wrong sometimes? Definitely . Are there things I was completely unaware of ? Again definitely , sometimes there’s things that you’d need to know about partially to even to look it up. But the point is I’m trying to minimise it as much as possible because that’s my job as a husband and father.
Whether he’s oblivious or not is irrelevant , he shouldn’t be. The fact that he’s pestering you for sex is bad regardless of the situation, but to do it at such an early point postpartum is awful.
Your husband needs to step the fuck up, educate himself and start supporting you .
That’s is the difficult part.. I feel like I will never love anyone as much as I loved this person. I know it’s probably not true but It feels like throwing away everything, we lived together and we had plans for the future, it hurts so much. After that time period is over if I still want to contact them should I? I just don’t want to make the wrong choice , I don’t know if it’s best to let them initiate since they are the one who broke up. Or if after a certain period of time it’s okay for me to initiate
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She obviously wants to play the field but also wants someone consistent in case something happens with her side piece. Girls who are like this desire attention and validation from other men. I’d recommend you stay single and work on yourself
Yeah trans women know damn well that’s dangerous
I was going to say that this is not normal, but tbh I found it quite common among men. However, it’s NOT healthy & I think that is what you really need to hear (or read).
He does not love you beyond what you can do for/give to him. He is too entitled; he thinks he deserves a woman with the “right” body, etc etc. if he deserves a woman with whatever body type he is pushing on you, then please let him go “get it” He thinks he deserves models? Then let him “get them” at his work events. Time for you to focus on you and your life because these guys are a dime a dozen.
Trust your gut. If it/she doesn’t bring you joy, just say no thank you.