Hindsight is 20/20. If I were to do it again, I'd start with the most romantic pics we took and went from there.
And yeah, I was super confused about the brother situation. They seemed to be really close and thinking back on it, it might have been something they got a kick out of.
I would literally just ask if anyone is interested in what I'm making.
As someone else said I meal plan for the week and my kids (who are 16, 13 and 11) can all decide if they want to eat what I'm making, most of the time they do, but sometimes they won't fancy what I'm making or just don't like something. I'm not in the habit of cutting out food in the house because someone doesn't like it and even cook things for them and eat something different myself when I don't like what I've made them. If they decide they don't want something that particular day I buy enough to make the rest and buy whatever they want as a replacement meal which I either make alongside if it's ready enough to do so, or they make themselves if they're out with friends/it's a time consuming meal when I'm already doing a time consuming meal. All my kids have been taught to cook.
You could meal plan and ask who would be interested in what/what days and buy accordingly.
This means you know who to cook for, there's no waste and there's no pressure if noone wants anything and you are just cooking for yourself.
You deserve all those things, plus for the man to keep those things in the relationship and not take them outside. Good relationships aren't a lot of work. (Also, you said in your op that communication was an issue, but in my view you personally seem just fine at it.)
I know either way it will be tough on you, but you know these relationships best. I think it's important to note they will have many bonds throughout their life; losing a grandma who treats their dad poorly is, at best, a low tier relationship to try to salvage at the cost of your sanity, and again, at worst, could lead to behavioral and relationship complications for you and the kids down the line. I hope things improve for you
I’m fine with her being around me, even living with me, but I don’t want to stay so far from home. I know she doesn’t want to move cross country due to her little sister being stuck here, so crossroads
Yea, you are right. Probably most of it will go over her head.
So, just tell her, “Come pick up your stuff, I thought about it and am no longer interested in the talk?”
Tell ur gf that Alive Skirt AKA Uncle Urda said she's cringe and a total weenie and to get a real job
Hindsight is 20/20. If I were to do it again, I'd start with the most romantic pics we took and went from there.
And yeah, I was super confused about the brother situation. They seemed to be really close and thinking back on it, it might have been something they got a kick out of.
I would literally just ask if anyone is interested in what I'm making.
As someone else said I meal plan for the week and my kids (who are 16, 13 and 11) can all decide if they want to eat what I'm making, most of the time they do, but sometimes they won't fancy what I'm making or just don't like something. I'm not in the habit of cutting out food in the house because someone doesn't like it and even cook things for them and eat something different myself when I don't like what I've made them. If they decide they don't want something that particular day I buy enough to make the rest and buy whatever they want as a replacement meal which I either make alongside if it's ready enough to do so, or they make themselves if they're out with friends/it's a time consuming meal when I'm already doing a time consuming meal. All my kids have been taught to cook.
You could meal plan and ask who would be interested in what/what days and buy accordingly.
This means you know who to cook for, there's no waste and there's no pressure if noone wants anything and you are just cooking for yourself.
You deserve all those things, plus for the man to keep those things in the relationship and not take them outside. Good relationships aren't a lot of work. (Also, you said in your op that communication was an issue, but in my view you personally seem just fine at it.)
I know either way it will be tough on you, but you know these relationships best. I think it's important to note they will have many bonds throughout their life; losing a grandma who treats their dad poorly is, at best, a low tier relationship to try to salvage at the cost of your sanity, and again, at worst, could lead to behavioral and relationship complications for you and the kids down the line. I hope things improve for you
“Possibly” would be a better choice of words. The only way to know for sure is to do a DNA test
Jfc no wonder he is depressed. Doomed. Why on earth would anyone have a wedding that size, insanity. Poor guy.
I’m fine with her being around me, even living with me, but I don’t want to stay so far from home. I know she doesn’t want to move cross country due to her little sister being stuck here, so crossroads