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I' ve written and rewritten this a few times, hopefully it' s clear and to the idea.
I am 33f plus my partner 35m, we have 3 amazing children through 10 to 4. We' ve been together almost 14 years
I found out 2 years ago I had been pregnant and we both agreed it was something that we couldn' t do for various reasons so I ended the particular pregnancy.
I was the SAHM for 8 many years, getting back into work when our youngest started nursery, loved being back. Lastly felt like i was a person once again, not just a mother. We both made a decision after I ended the maternity that I should get our tubes tied, and I has been on a wait list.
In August I discovered I had been pregnant. We used 2 types of contraception but it occurred anyway. I discussed finishing the pregnancy again and was, for lack of better word, cruel. Said that once i murdered our last child he' d hoped I' d of grown cardiovascular. That he managed to forgive me personally for what I did final time, but didn' to know what he' d perform if I did it again.
I' m currently twenty-four weeks pregnant, but I actually don' t want this baby. I love my kids, I love my partner, I really like our life. But We spent so long being just “a mum”, I can' t go back to it.
I had a phone call 2 times ago from the hospital to talk about an appointment for sterilisation, but obviously couldn' t. So I' m back at the wait list for who knows how long.
I tried to discuss adoption with him, but he refuses. Says I' m not allowed to give their baby away, that I' ve done it before so I can do it once again. I asked if he’d take the time off and be the SAHD but he stated no . When I kept wanting to talk to him, he simply took himself to bed and has refused to talk about it since.
I' ve voiced to his sister, (SIL), who has had previous reproductive problems and she is more than happy to take the baby on from birth, but We don' t know how to talk to my partner about it.
Its OUR baby, and he is a really amazing father, I can' t simply say “this is happening”
Any help would be appreciated. Thank you
UPDATE: I' m going to go to bed today as it is late, so I won' t be replying anymore. Thank you for your comments, you' ve all given myself alot to think about.
I will examine the condoms when my companion is at work and then talk to him in the evening. I think remedies are a must for us both, from minimum.
Thank you all of again
Ask them if they'd have preferred you to have hit her back & break her nose too. You could have easily done so & you didn't. They should recognise the respect you have for your girlfriend. I'm sure there are a number of men who'd have reacted badly in your position.
She needed to know the full situation before she made any further moves with you. It's not like you could have lied about this only to have it fall on her like a ton of bricks after she'd made legal commitments to you. You did the right thing in telling her. She did the right thing in removing herself from the situation. You might be an amazing guy, but having to deal with a racist father-in-law just isn't something most people would be up for.
She is putting loads of effort into her daughter's fully grown adult boyfriend and he's just like 'everything sucks and is too naked I'm going home' is a pretty gross way to act.
once before punching me in the gut midst an argument.
I would have ended things there tbh
Maybe some perspective from someone like your partner. I have a textbook case of ADHD. All the symptoms, I have them. The ADHD part of my brain that liked when I did coke was also the part of my brain that kept addiction from becoming a problem for me because I have a really hard time forming habits normally. I think his friend is enabling, yes , and if husband is like me, he does it cause it’s there and fun to be normal for bit, but I doubt you’d find him going to extremes to get it. Wait till he gets proper meds which carry addictive properties as well and he will still forget to take them some days.