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Date: December 29, 2022
I was married to someone and gained weight. He was not happy. Constantly ridiculed me. Called me “beef on the hoof.” Was unfaithful and blamed me — said it was because I gained weight. Etc. Lots more but that's the gist.
We broke up. Finally found out there was a medical problem causing the weight gain. Once it was addressed, I began to lose the weight. Met a lovely man who cared for ME, no matter what I weighed.
Guess who wanted me back after the weight loss? Naked nope.
This man does not truly care about YOU. If he did, a few pounds would not matter. He is already shown that he doesn't really care. He wants a “break” to pursue and have sex with other women, if he hasn't already begun to do so behind your back. The “break” terminology as opposed to “breakup” means you are relegated to a “back burner” and are his backup plan. Additionally, if y'all reconcile, the pressure to maintain a low weight will continue and could even get worse.
You need to cut your losses and find someone who will truly care for YOU. Breaking up with him now is going to hurt, no doubt. But if you reconcile, it's going to be ongoing heartache for you. Better to deal with that heartache now as opposed to the “death by 1,000 cuts” ongoing heartache.
Good luck to you. There's a better partner out there for you. All you gotta do is find them. Go out with your friends. Take a course in something that interests you. Take up a new hobby. There are better days ahead.
You did, and I was expressing my appreciation for your feedback. I was asking a question again to get an honest answer so I can reflect and determine if I agree with your assessment 🙂
I am very effective at communication and have expressed to him that this is important to me. He has expressed to me that it’s important to him as well. Hence my confusion with his response.
My friend, she sounds incredibly toxic. My question to you is why do you put up with this? Why do you put up with her being controlling, dismissive, assuming the worst intention, and being totally unable to communicate and listen to your concerns?
Is that a partner you want to continue to put effort into? It sounds like she's attached to her trauma and is happy to weaponize it to the detriment of your relationship. She doesn't sound like a person who is doing the work to overcome and manage some of the painful events that she's been through.
Why are you choosing that? Why are you tolerating that? And how do you respond when you try and talk to her and she shuts you down? I mean this with all kindness, but it sounds like you really need to stand up for yourself and stop being this doormat that she feels entitled to control and shut down at her own whim.
Here how it looks like to me. He was testing the waters and is in the process or alredy found a new option. Wont be suprised if he is pubic in a few days, weeks.
W/e it may be, best option is to move on. Resolve your demons if there may be any and continue on. Dating is a numbers game, but its better that way. As my dad told me, “you gotta learn the bad so you know how to find and respect the good”.
About your ex, grayrock him.
Good luck.
sounds like a netflix show
Yeah…not good. My friend was in a LDR for over a year with her (now ex) boyfriend and she lent him money for a down payment for a new Jeep. Ya, she never saw any of that back.
Commenters are mostly saying it his his guilt and shame over doing gay things. May be true. It could also be he has feelings for you, thinks you are just “relieving tension” and he feels hopeless about that. You two should talk more.
It doesn't matter if she lives at home and has no financial responsibilities. She has no responsibility to pay for his utility bills or groceries! If he doesn't want her eating his food, he should stop inviting her over. Doesn't want to use his gas? Tell her to drive her own car over and not pick her up! However, literally no one is inviting their girlfriend over and then getting mad she's not helping pay for the utilities in a house that isn't theirs. That's just ridiculous. Imagine a friend with benefits asking you to pay a percentage of the water bill because they take a shower every time they come over. See how dumb that sounds? I'd literally never invite my partner over and then make them pay ultities to MY place.
What’s the advice you’re looking for?