I would also ask you what you think will happen when you start making more than he does, which I suspect you will. Someone so concerned with lording his higher salary over you might not react well. Good luck.
And you don’t think she’s going to resent you for asking her to all the sudden pay her bills? That all the sudden after 5 years you’re unhappy with this arrangement and you think she has depression? I would love for you to update us because I’m predicting this is not going to go the way you think, and you are about to find out if she really is a good person or not based on her reaction to this news
You literally have people giving you genuine advice and you’re shitting on the ones that aren’t favoring your relationship. You obviously have a stance, what are you here for then? Stop wasting our time and go waste yours
Reunification after a deployment can be really tough even if you’ve got a solid relationship. You two don’t. And it doesn’t seem like you’re going to get there any time soon if ever. I’m not sure why you’d be considering starting a family with this guy unless/until you both do the individual and couples therapy and get a few solid good years under your belts. Do you want to potentially waste that much time with him hoping it will get better? You’ve had 6 years to learn to communicate in a healthy way.
Nope, this is a deal breaker and a sign of things to come.
If he made an agreement and was clear on the terms of this relationship then he just violated them.
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I would also ask you what you think will happen when you start making more than he does, which I suspect you will. Someone so concerned with lording his higher salary over you might not react well. Good luck.
And you don’t think she’s going to resent you for asking her to all the sudden pay her bills? That all the sudden after 5 years you’re unhappy with this arrangement and you think she has depression? I would love for you to update us because I’m predicting this is not going to go the way you think, and you are about to find out if she really is a good person or not based on her reaction to this news
Try again.
But it seems it went over yours.
You literally have people giving you genuine advice and you’re shitting on the ones that aren’t favoring your relationship. You obviously have a stance, what are you here for then? Stop wasting our time and go waste yours
Reunification after a deployment can be really tough even if you’ve got a solid relationship. You two don’t. And it doesn’t seem like you’re going to get there any time soon if ever. I’m not sure why you’d be considering starting a family with this guy unless/until you both do the individual and couples therapy and get a few solid good years under your belts. Do you want to potentially waste that much time with him hoping it will get better? You’ve had 6 years to learn to communicate in a healthy way.