Yeah, I didn't have a problem not having sex with her for 7 months, because we can connect otherwise. So it would be totally fine with me, if it came out that she's ace. But yes, therapy is the way to go.
1) “Long-distance relationship isn’t for you“ until it’s with the right guy, and suddenly it works. (And if it doesn’t work, you weren’t right for each other after all.)
2) You are already his best friend and want him to spread his wings and use his chance at betterment. Hold on to that thought. And since you are already aware that comparing your lives and envy/jealousy will be a problem for you, work on that consciously and use the opportunity to grow out of those feelings. In addition you could also think about ways to make your own life more interesting while he is away.
3) If indeed he has a romantic interest in you, he will appreciate knowing it’s not one-sided, and that will also make him more or less immune to the advances that other girls might make on him. If you misinterpreted the situation, his time away will give you time to detach yourself from him emotionally.
Okay I’m gonna say something but not sure how accurate it will be to your situation. I do think it’s possible for him to have had a lot of anxiety and thought the best thing to do was to break up. And have been wrong about that.
I do think it’s possible for this to still work. But only if you guys approach this as a team. Having problems in a marriage isn’t a sign things need to end it’s part of life. But that’s only good as long as both people want to work towards it. Therapy, chore redistribution, and coming up with strategies of what to do next time he gets flooded that aren’t BREAKING UP are a must.
Personally I would be like next time he says divorce- it’s done. But if things are otherwise mostly good idk I would work towards it
Okay I’m gonna say something but not sure how accurate it will be to your situation. I do think it’s possible for him to have had a lot of anxiety and thought the best thing to do was to break up. And have been wrong about that.
I do think it’s possible for this to still work. But only if you guys approach this as a team. Having problems in a marriage isn’t a sign things need to end it’s part of life. But that’s only good as long as both people want to work towards it. Therapy, chore redistribution, and coming up with strategies of what to do next time he gets flooded that aren’t BREAKING UP are a must.
Personally I would be like next time he says divorce- it’s done. But if things are otherwise mostly good idk I would work towards it
Are you sure he is over his ex?
Your title is enough to know you need to leave
Yeah, I didn't have a problem not having sex with her for 7 months, because we can connect otherwise. So it would be totally fine with me, if it came out that she's ace. But yes, therapy is the way to go.
I see why you don’t want to have sex with him…
You seem to have a shitty girlfriend. You should reevaluate your relationship with her.
Either she is stupid or she thinks you are.
1) “Long-distance relationship isn’t for you“ until it’s with the right guy, and suddenly it works. (And if it doesn’t work, you weren’t right for each other after all.)
2) You are already his best friend and want him to spread his wings and use his chance at betterment. Hold on to that thought. And since you are already aware that comparing your lives and envy/jealousy will be a problem for you, work on that consciously and use the opportunity to grow out of those feelings. In addition you could also think about ways to make your own life more interesting while he is away.
3) If indeed he has a romantic interest in you, he will appreciate knowing it’s not one-sided, and that will also make him more or less immune to the advances that other girls might make on him. If you misinterpreted the situation, his time away will give you time to detach yourself from him emotionally.
Okay I’m gonna say something but not sure how accurate it will be to your situation. I do think it’s possible for him to have had a lot of anxiety and thought the best thing to do was to break up. And have been wrong about that.
I do think it’s possible for this to still work. But only if you guys approach this as a team. Having problems in a marriage isn’t a sign things need to end it’s part of life. But that’s only good as long as both people want to work towards it. Therapy, chore redistribution, and coming up with strategies of what to do next time he gets flooded that aren’t BREAKING UP are a must.
Personally I would be like next time he says divorce- it’s done. But if things are otherwise mostly good idk I would work towards it
Okay I’m gonna say something but not sure how accurate it will be to your situation. I do think it’s possible for him to have had a lot of anxiety and thought the best thing to do was to break up. And have been wrong about that.
I do think it’s possible for this to still work. But only if you guys approach this as a team. Having problems in a marriage isn’t a sign things need to end it’s part of life. But that’s only good as long as both people want to work towards it. Therapy, chore redistribution, and coming up with strategies of what to do next time he gets flooded that aren’t BREAKING UP are a must.
Personally I would be like next time he says divorce- it’s done. But if things are otherwise mostly good idk I would work towards it