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My pregnant wife kicked me out accusing me of cheating on her and getting my coworker pregnant after she found “my secret reddit account. ” even though there were obvious differences in the post as well as when the post was made.
I that night drove 1 hour to my in-laws. (My family are not close) when I showed up they wouldn't let me in until I started crying (I know not manly) and explained that I am worried for my wife's mental state and child's safety and asked if they would please hear me out. They finally let me in. I put everything on the table. They did not hear the full story and my wife. She said that I cheated and then got in her face blaming everything on ther. None of it was true.
I showed them the post that she suspected was made by me. Then pointed out the obvious differences.
I next pulled up footage from one of our outside cameras that caught some of the argument.(caught audio only) They could tell I was not the aggressor and she was not acting like her normal self. While in the camera app I notciced a car was parked across the street. One I reconized. That I should have never seen again.
Up to this point I relised that I also messed up. 1. My wife is off some of her medications and switched to different ones for the pregnancy.
I have spent more times at work lately due to trying to save up more money for our future. Thus means I have been neglecting my wife.
I now know why my wife was acting this way.
My wife had a friend/ coworker that never approved of the relationship between my wife and I. We will call her Satan. She kept trying to get between us by causing fights or bring up false red flags of mine. When she confessed her love for my wife and said she wanted me out of the picture. When she told my wife this she told me and decided to cut contact. And move to a different department.
I told my in-laws that we have to go to my wife. My in-laws contacted my wife and told her that they were coming over. She accepted it. She was crying and still very emotional. My in-laws told me to give them a few minutes to talk to her first. When we pulled up it was about 8 or 9 at night.
From my in-laws: When they walked in my wife was crying to Satan's who was happy we had a fight. They knew about what that woman tried to do in the past and told her to give them a few minutes alone. She agreed after some arguing. They had her talk about her side again and gave the evidence from my point of view. It turns out that Satan was taking advantage of the fact that my wife is pregnant, I'm working more hours, my wife is on different medications and the info from our past that painted me In a bad way. She also had been showing me other “evidence.” like somehow she had a picture of me and my female pregnant coworker when we went out to get food foe the team.
My wife accepted this and kicked Satan out and blocked her again. We are going to try to get a restraining order placed on her.
Things are better but not back to the way we were. I got her a doctors appointment on Tuesday about her medicine and scheduled an “emergency” therapy session with her therapist on Wednesday.
For now I'm sleeping in the guest room and trying my best to not break up our 8+ year marriage. I feel betrayed that she would take someone's side who has already proven they will do anything to get what they want. Lie about her bing no contact then accuse me of cheating and not listen to what I have to say.
But at the same time I love my wife. I know that she was not in her proper state of mind. I want to get marriage counseling but the wait list is over 2 months long.
I will tell my boss on Monday about cutting back on hours to help my wife. I have saved up time off that should help. Luckily out company provides 3 months of paternity leave. Hopefully we can get things right.
My inlawas have also been staying close just incase my wife needs them or if they have to step in.
ETA: I have told my actual pregnant coworker what happened. Her and her husband are understanding of the situation. They said that they would be willing to sit down with us and talk. I believe she is due in the coming month so she won't be at work for a while.
Why would they tell you the note existed and then not give it to you, that’s weird. I’d point that out and say while you would have been fine not knowing, but the fact that they told you means it is hanging over you is damaging your mental health and you’d rather just know instead of catastrophizing in your head what it says.
I get it and agree. Sometimes these days I feel a bit like 'old man yelling at clouds'. Ironically when I was dating I remember my parents being perplexed – why would I immediately 'go steady' with one girl instead of dating multiple girls until I found the right one to go steady with?
Look the answer is no you shouldn't but of course you should
Even if you both agree not to discuss the past which is very difficult , if you meet someone later who new her back then and they say something like “ooh man you should have seen her in college ” it's going to grind on you all over again.
Our past helps shape us , good or bad.
I mean has she cheated on anyone before , did she use protection before , what's her stance on abortion …. All things you should know and she should know about you and unfortunately sexual history is one of them.
Now this doesn't have to be a one hit conversation but as you date certainly things you should understand.
Well you decided to do exactly that. You could have chosen not to date him, instead you decided to date him and demand he drop said friend. Now he's either stupid enough to drop a long time friendship and will in all likelihood end up resenting you for it, or he's stupid enough to lie about it and continue the friendship behind your back. Either way, the chances this ends well are fairly low.
Next time pick a guy you don't feel the need to change or interfere with their personal life and friendships.
This relationship was ruined at the moment your husband said he wanted to shag your friend. Even if you said 'no' and he would have accepted that, what did he expect? That you two could just go on as if nothing happened?
If I’m going to read creative writing, it had better be split into paragraphs. F!
I am a woman to Cunt me in
You don’t think she should pay a bigger share if she also has a baby? She and baby will consume more utilities than you. Where is the baby’s father?