Unfortunately, you can't go back and make this not happen. At this point, the best things that you can do are:
Apologize, apologize, apologize. Avoid anything that suggests that you are not taking responsibility for hurting your partner. Let your partner know that you appreciate their taking care of you. Know that you cannot handle this level of inebriation and never approach it again.
That's the messed up part, I got a place with my sister to get away and my sister messed me over. She left me holding the bag and went back to her ex bf and broke the lease without paying a thing.
He tells you after three kids and it’s now suddenly a shock? Like you didn’t realise before? None of his behaviour was untoward? Nothing made you question your relationship until he suddenly slapped a label on it..
This post is complete horseshit. Absolute non sensical rubbish.
Give the ride. Ask gf to ride along. What does gf think is going to happen? Friend is going to whip those puppies out and show you, ask your opinion? Ask if want to squeeze them?
HEY! I have dealt with depersonalization and derealization in the past and also had an “epiphany” moment where my emotions were super messed up and I just needed CHANGE. That’s what helps. These types of things happen when you repress emotions. And it’s ok for your emotions to change. Change is a part of life. But if you need to see what else is out there in the world, now is a chance to do that. Sure you may not fly all over Europe and date celebrities, but there is still a lot of world to see. Get consumed by a new hobby. Meet some new people. Go on a trip to see an old friend. Start thinking about what YOU want to do. If your emotions are overwhelming or the depersonalization persists, seek psychiatric advice on your symptoms. Therapy helped me deal with my shit so I could start listening to myself better. You may regret your choices, but you’ve made them. Make the best of this freedom you have.
And delete/block/stop talking to people who know your ex. She will always be a reminder of the life you’re leaving behind. Put some distance between you if you can. Mourn what is lost, but moving on so you can shape your future is your next step. Godspeed!
So the chat that I found out about happened in 2019, he tried to convince me it was a one time thing. He manipulated me so much I believed him. But deep down I thought there was more and I finally got my mom to admit 2 years later ( 4 years in total now) that it was mroe than one chat. They interacted sexually for 2 weeks and he had preyed on her and persisted in her so much that she finally gave in. My mom and dad relationship is not great and they’re divorced.
You’re in a abusive relationship. You need an exit strategy because your boyfriend is a manipulative, controlling dick. You are so much better than this. Don’t waste your time with him any longer and leave him.
Why not? She broke your trust and your heart. Hanging out with her “friend”/affair partner is just unconscionable. She needs to choose.
Unfortunately, you can't go back and make this not happen. At this point, the best things that you can do are:
Apologize, apologize, apologize. Avoid anything that suggests that you are not taking responsibility for hurting your partner. Let your partner know that you appreciate their taking care of you. Know that you cannot handle this level of inebriation and never approach it again.
That's the messed up part, I got a place with my sister to get away and my sister messed me over. She left me holding the bag and went back to her ex bf and broke the lease without paying a thing.
He tells you after three kids and it’s now suddenly a shock? Like you didn’t realise before? None of his behaviour was untoward? Nothing made you question your relationship until he suddenly slapped a label on it..
This post is complete horseshit. Absolute non sensical rubbish.
Lame opinion, definitely not popular.
Sounds like a “wife bad” boomer moment.
Give the ride. Ask gf to ride along. What does gf think is going to happen? Friend is going to whip those puppies out and show you, ask your opinion? Ask if want to squeeze them?
HEY! I have dealt with depersonalization and derealization in the past and also had an “epiphany” moment where my emotions were super messed up and I just needed CHANGE. That’s what helps. These types of things happen when you repress emotions. And it’s ok for your emotions to change. Change is a part of life. But if you need to see what else is out there in the world, now is a chance to do that. Sure you may not fly all over Europe and date celebrities, but there is still a lot of world to see. Get consumed by a new hobby. Meet some new people. Go on a trip to see an old friend. Start thinking about what YOU want to do. If your emotions are overwhelming or the depersonalization persists, seek psychiatric advice on your symptoms. Therapy helped me deal with my shit so I could start listening to myself better. You may regret your choices, but you’ve made them. Make the best of this freedom you have.
And delete/block/stop talking to people who know your ex. She will always be a reminder of the life you’re leaving behind. Put some distance between you if you can. Mourn what is lost, but moving on so you can shape your future is your next step. Godspeed!
If she doesnt like little kids or her young siblings then why would you invite her on a trip to disneyland.
You might be able to convince her to stay, and even have sex with you, but you won't be able to change how she feels about sex with you.
So the chat that I found out about happened in 2019, he tried to convince me it was a one time thing. He manipulated me so much I believed him. But deep down I thought there was more and I finally got my mom to admit 2 years later ( 4 years in total now) that it was mroe than one chat. They interacted sexually for 2 weeks and he had preyed on her and persisted in her so much that she finally gave in. My mom and dad relationship is not great and they’re divorced.
Yeah I guess your right there actually, thankyou
You’re in a abusive relationship. You need an exit strategy because your boyfriend is a manipulative, controlling dick. You are so much better than this. Don’t waste your time with him any longer and leave him.