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Date: October 7, 2022
How often do you initiate vs how often does he have to?
This might be resentment on gis part that has been building up for a while.
Sorry this is happening to you. Happy Birthday.
Ambien is some crazy stuff and will have people doing something and they not remember it at all the next day. I had a cousin whose bf sometimes thought he was in a war and would put a pot on his head and hide from the enemies when he took ambien. Or he would not even act drowsy for hours after taking it he would act mostly normal until he would just pass out. He would watch whole movies and have conversations he would never remember. I witnessed some of this behavior and it was truly odd, he was either complete normal or completely insane. Needless to say he didn’t stay on ambien for more than a few months. I think you should have your husband record your “frisky” behavior or put a camera up to see what’s going on. It’s just an odd situation and I see why you are distrustful and need to find out what’s going on for yourself. Also maybe try something else for your sleep issues, if ambien is causing these supposed “side effects” there’s gotta be a better option.
The worst part is that for the new smokers, it might even be true, just not for long.
Your boyfriend doesn't care enough about your comfort and feelings to engage about this subject.
It's way easier for him to just ignore the problems that don't affect him personally. Especially the problems that he directly benefits from.
And if he can get you to shut up about it, so that he gets the benefits of the relationship with you, without having to deal with your “female drama and made-up problems”? All the better.
It's the same as dating a white person who either denies or doesn't care that POC experience racism, because they're not affected by it personally.
Or a straight person who doesn't care about the problems of gay people, because they're not gay.
That's the sort of person you're dating.
Do with that information what you will.
I'd have already dumped him, myself. But you don't have to – it's your life and you can make whatever choices you want.
But if you stay with someone who dismisses the problems you experience as a woman/astronaut/vampire/whatever, don't be surprised when he… continues to do that.
Don't act surprised, 10 years from now, when he sabotages your birth control, or just ignores you whenever you have a problem and need his help.
You know what kind of person you're dating. It's not a surprise.
What happens if she wants to date only one of you? What happens if she also wants to date other people? For that matter, what happens if either of you wants to date other people?
Polyamory is usually multiple relationships, not one big relationship, and a situation where all three of you are involved with each other is inherently more complex than dating separately. It's not impossible, but it is harder.
Have you read any nonfiction on polyamory? It might also help to lurk r/polyamory and r/nonmonogamy for a while.
Why do you say I lied to him? When i quit my job he was still bring responsive and he had quit jobs 2 or 3 times over the course of all this. Separate ways can't happen until I recover.
She will twist this into “I never did anything” but her actions speak volumes. She didn't “technically” cheat but the intention was there.
I would be making preparations to leave.
I think he’s making his intentions/feelings clear. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to be with you. It should be an equal enthusiasm between both of you. People need to have a sense of self worth and know when to give up a cause.
You’ll find someone much better who you don’t have to basically “guilt” into going out with you. Best of luck OP
Why don't u take them both? /s
Wow, I’m totally shocked that your wife who gave you herpes and tried to sleep with your best friend actually slept with another one of your friends!! What a shocking twist for a completely healthy relationship with a solid foundation!!
Good point.
I feel if he is not upset or offended by it, is because he liked that confession. He is either happy to know he causes that feeling on her, or sees that confession as a potential opportunity for the future. He should respect you enough to stop that, even if the other girl remains in the group. He should be telling her (without you asking him to) that she knows he has a gf and he is very happy with his relationship. And it was disrespectful to you what she did, and he is not interested in her in the same way. And that she should refrain from continue texting him in that way.
Ehh the rule is 1/2 +7. It's close enough
Ur sister is a bigot for denying sociology
I’ll say this as gently as possible. There is a difference between compromise in a relationship and emotional blackmail. That’s what your boyfriend did to you. He made you an unwilling participant in his kink, and that’s abhorrent behavior. He is supposed to love, protect, and comfort you, and instead he held your love for him over your head to force you to do something you didn’t want to do.
Was the other man aware that you weren’t doing this willingly? I dont even know how to describe it in legal terms, but to me it sounds like your boyfriend orchestrated your rape. You’re having all the symptoms of PTSD from SA.
I dont like the general “break up, it’s over” advice that you see in this sub, but it does not sound like you are in a safe relationship. How long will it be before he needs you to do this for him again? Please, for your own sake, find support outside of your boyfriend. Talk to your friends, family, etc. Make a plan, and get the fuck out.
a few days is too much for you? …days?!
Will he go along to some therapy sessions with you?
What are the laws in your area? Is she legally considered a tenant even though she’s not on the lease? If so you might have to give her a written eviction notice to be out in a month or whatever. Talk to your landlord about this situation. Maybe they are the one that has to kick them out or will do it for you.
From now on I’d treat her like a roommate. I’d also let her know that the relationship is over. No matter if things fall apart with her new boyfriend, she still has to get out of your apartment. She doesn’t get to hang around and mooch off you after blowing up your relationship.
She said she doesn’t like having sex and only does it because she feels bad for you. This isn’t a question of reducing your drive, it’s asking whether or not you’re okay with intimacy with your wife eventually approaching zero.
I don’t think there is a way to make this work. Look through all of the forums, and a very common theme is that disappointment in the bedroom affects everywhere else in the relationship. If she wanted to have sex, but only every couple of weeks, that would be a very workable situation. But that’s not what she said, based on this post. She seems to not want any sex.
I’d give it some more time before doing anything drastic. She’s still potentially dealing with postpartum hormonal stuff and how she feels now isn’t necessarily how she’ll feel a year from now. But keep an eye on it.
If you were made for each other —- he wouldn't be hurting you as much as he does. I can feel the pain in your writing. He wants what he wants and he doesn't care about you at all. He says he does. And maybe he does. but he doesn't care for you in the way YOU want to be cared for. there will be people who come in our lives and they are like the seasons. They come and go. They are what we needed at that moment and then we move on. he sounds like that person.
5 years is never a waste if you learn what you effectively don't want for the future for yourself. Take the lesson and move on. You will find someone else. Or hey maybe you wont. and you know what, thats ok too! Learning to be alone without feeling alone is the most free we ever feel. Everyone should feel that for a moment in their lives.
My thoughts: It is absurd to contemplate marriage in this situation.
Questions:
What is the duration of this relationship?
Why do you object to clubbing?
Do you go to nightclubs without your boyfriend?
Can you explain how he might 'have to' go clubbing? (you mention birthdays but why would that mean that he has to go to a club)
Are you formally engaged? With a ring? And a wedding date?
Do you have any children?
But it seems like his views on gay marriage, guns, police, abortion, ALL differ from mine. It’s odd that these views are overpowering our relationship now more so than they ever have been even when we were best friends.
Not really. A friendship has lower standards than a relationship.
You build a relationship with someone who agrees with you on everything you think is important. (And, of course, vice versa: you agree with them on everything they think is important.) And while some people can say that politics are not important, I disagree. Politics is the rough and uncomfortable business of turning ethics into law. Politics is the answer to the question, “Who gets rights? Who, according to the state, actually counts as a full-fledged, fully-righted person?” And I wouldn't marry someone who disagreed with me on human-rights issues.
What should you do? Walk away. It really is as simple as that. Know your worth, OP!
I'm sure you're a kind and empathic person but this sounds more like trying to keep yourself safe than not hurting someone else's feelings… I don't think you lack courage either. Have you checked your local women's services? Safety is important.
Well said and I appreciate that a ton.
The statistics for late 20s are not worse than the statistics for people in their 30s though. OP is not wanting to get married now and was fine waiting until they have careers and are done with their educations, but he is pushing it back further.
I'm not saying it does. But barely knowing each other before marriage makes it much, much more likely that your marriage either will not last or will not be healthy.