I fully believe that communication is the key to a strong relationship, and you're doing well on your end for that. But, as a person who has an extremely hard time expressing emotions myself, he needs a workaround that he is comfortable with to be able to express himself.
My idea is something that would work for me if I were him. But I can't say how he will respond.
Here's my idea, explain to him that you understand he may not be comfortable expressing himself, and you want to try a purely logical approach to communicating.
Now, write down what you're feeling in a non aggressive way. Ask him to provide a solution for each specific issue. An action either he, or both of you together, can take.
Then, ask him to write his feelings and concerns as well. And you do the same.
I am going to get down voted for this, but you did make a commitment, when you said you would be her bridesmaid. I understand life changes and now you don't value this relationship, but you made a commitment and are now wanting to back out of it with less than two months for her to try to replace you.
Have you tried a middle step of communicating how you feel and setting reasonable boundaries? Telling her, 'no I will not be paying for hair and makeup, I will do my own and match the style of the other women'. Or just plain asking her if she'd be able to find someone to take your place?
Embrace the freedoms that come from being single and take your time before starting any new relationship.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's given me some things to think about
I fully believe that communication is the key to a strong relationship, and you're doing well on your end for that. But, as a person who has an extremely hard time expressing emotions myself, he needs a workaround that he is comfortable with to be able to express himself.
My idea is something that would work for me if I were him. But I can't say how he will respond.
Here's my idea, explain to him that you understand he may not be comfortable expressing himself, and you want to try a purely logical approach to communicating.
Now, write down what you're feeling in a non aggressive way. Ask him to provide a solution for each specific issue. An action either he, or both of you together, can take.
Then, ask him to write his feelings and concerns as well. And you do the same.
See how it works. 🙂
Thank you
I am venturing into tmi territory lol
Not everyone follows that life path. I’ve gone to college with many people well over 25.
I am going to get down voted for this, but you did make a commitment, when you said you would be her bridesmaid. I understand life changes and now you don't value this relationship, but you made a commitment and are now wanting to back out of it with less than two months for her to try to replace you.
Have you tried a middle step of communicating how you feel and setting reasonable boundaries? Telling her, 'no I will not be paying for hair and makeup, I will do my own and match the style of the other women'. Or just plain asking her if she'd be able to find someone to take your place?
He doesn’t treat you right – you’re unhappy.
people can break up without having a reason, but YOU CERTAINLY have multiple!!
Drop that man and block his number.
INFO: Have you ever met her irl?