No one who is “head over heels” in love with someone would “leave all night for other guys”. Even if she only kissed someone else, she ditched her sisters and friends at her sisters bachelorette to hang around other random men.
I don’t like to go out and get overly drunk without my bf, but in a case of a girls event like this my last concern would be entertaining other guys in any manner. Especially during those first couple years when your really falling in love with them and “head over heels” that’s what will be on your mind, no matter how drunk you are.
I remember girls nights out when I’d probably talk about my bf way too much, text him a lot and constantly be thinking about when I could sneak outside and quickly call and talk to him or maybe to the bathroom to send him a cute selfie.
Even single I actually hate being approached by men when out drinking lol. Drinking isn’t an excuse to immediately want to become physical and hang off every strange guy you see, I just don’t get that sentiment.
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Yeah I do tend to worry a lot and overthink a lot ? would he notice me being too worried now? I hope not…
Maybe I just need to wait til he reaches out first. Now I’m thinking my last message was a bit weird. I just said I just got home babe and he responded with Okido thanks for your message and I said you’re welcome ? bit of a dry message from my side
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It’s just how we do it, when I’m at his place he would talk with his friends for 10 hours, and I would just do my own thing. But I also spoke with him when he asked me things or just said I love you etc where I did say it back
Why would you end friendships for a relationship you’re only a couple of months into?
People find people attractive and have crushes on them. Not only is that entirely normal when you’re young and single it’s also entirely normal when you age and are in committed relationships.
What matters is how you act and you and the guys seem to be totally fine and normal and not at all suspect.
I would be more concerned that my girlfriend is so seemingly willing to throw long term friendships out the window for a so far short term relationship. If she’s willing to do that what would she do to a short term boyfriend at the slightest inconvenience.
I don’t think this is any help, but the comment about the “plight of modern man” has me putting my bets on him being tied up in some kind of weird live masculinity-community. Maybe something like MGTOW.
Anyhow, my personal view is that the best thing to get men and boys out of this sort of thing is positive (non-romantic) interactions with women that challenge their views that women are a monolith. Or that male/female dynamics follow some set script.
If my guess that he’s involved in some mansophere BS is correct, it’s very cult-like and tricky. They have an answer and a counterpoint for everything. Its a complex and manipulative worldview, people who are intelligent can fall for it too.
Unless you forced yourself on him, which I’m pretty sure you didn’t, he had 100% choice in the matter. These kind of dudes always want you to make the first move so they can use that to deflect criticism of their actions, but he could and should have turned you down.
I found this extremely weird as well, he's a very robotic person. He doesn't seem to care much about anything other than video games
No one who is “head over heels” in love with someone would “leave all night for other guys”. Even if she only kissed someone else, she ditched her sisters and friends at her sisters bachelorette to hang around other random men.
I don’t like to go out and get overly drunk without my bf, but in a case of a girls event like this my last concern would be entertaining other guys in any manner. Especially during those first couple years when your really falling in love with them and “head over heels” that’s what will be on your mind, no matter how drunk you are.
I remember girls nights out when I’d probably talk about my bf way too much, text him a lot and constantly be thinking about when I could sneak outside and quickly call and talk to him or maybe to the bathroom to send him a cute selfie.
Even single I actually hate being approached by men when out drinking lol. Drinking isn’t an excuse to immediately want to become physical and hang off every strange guy you see, I just don’t get that sentiment.
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Yeah I do tend to worry a lot and overthink a lot ? would he notice me being too worried now? I hope not…
Maybe I just need to wait til he reaches out first. Now I’m thinking my last message was a bit weird. I just said I just got home babe and he responded with Okido thanks for your message and I said you’re welcome ? bit of a dry message from my side
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It’s just how we do it, when I’m at his place he would talk with his friends for 10 hours, and I would just do my own thing. But I also spoke with him when he asked me things or just said I love you etc where I did say it back
Why would you end friendships for a relationship you’re only a couple of months into?
People find people attractive and have crushes on them. Not only is that entirely normal when you’re young and single it’s also entirely normal when you age and are in committed relationships.
What matters is how you act and you and the guys seem to be totally fine and normal and not at all suspect.
I would be more concerned that my girlfriend is so seemingly willing to throw long term friendships out the window for a so far short term relationship. If she’s willing to do that what would she do to a short term boyfriend at the slightest inconvenience.
What do you answer a stupid question like that one if not with sarcasm?
If you otherwise deeply care for each other, this might be a better question for /r/personalfinance
I don’t think this is any help, but the comment about the “plight of modern man” has me putting my bets on him being tied up in some kind of weird live masculinity-community. Maybe something like MGTOW.
Anyhow, my personal view is that the best thing to get men and boys out of this sort of thing is positive (non-romantic) interactions with women that challenge their views that women are a monolith. Or that male/female dynamics follow some set script.
If my guess that he’s involved in some mansophere BS is correct, it’s very cult-like and tricky. They have an answer and a counterpoint for everything. Its a complex and manipulative worldview, people who are intelligent can fall for it too.
Exactly lmao. This shit is so cringy it hurts
Unless you forced yourself on him, which I’m pretty sure you didn’t, he had 100% choice in the matter. These kind of dudes always want you to make the first move so they can use that to deflect criticism of their actions, but he could and should have turned you down.
I mean, imo YTA. If you’re going to use that much ketchup then you pour ketchup just for you
I'd be cheaper for her to leave you. I hope she does
Trying to bathe a feral cat would be better than going back to that feral dog.