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Date: December 31, 2022
For real. Only seeing the part she wants to see (bad marriage) and not the other parts (person she barely knows, only knows thru long distance, who her children do not know, etc.)
Well then enjoy your life with abusive in laws and a man that do not value you
Is this kind of Münchhausen by proxy somehow?
This isn’t cards, and that tactic can backfire with judges. The point of family court is WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD. The parents who show a willingness and openness to coparent tend to be looked on more favorably.
West, your wife's abusive behaviors cannot be excused — but perhaps can be explained, especially if you would speak to a psychologist in your city. They may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no chance to learn in childhood). My exW has that problem. If it is an issue for your wife, you likely would be seeing 4 other red flags.
The first is a strong abandonment fear. I therefore ask whether, a few months into your relationship, she started showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other women — or tried to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? She would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over her. Moreover, she usually would hate being alone by herself.
Second, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes/mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to “validate” her victim status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Third, you generally would not see her directing her anger at casual friends, coworkers, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her outbursts and temper tantrums almost exclusively would be directed against a close loved one (e.g., against you, a sibling, or her parents).
Fourth, you are convinced that she truly loves you. But you frequently see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing or hating you) — often making you feel like you're walking on eggshells around her. Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do. A few hours or days later, she can flip back just as quickly.
West, have you been seeing strong occurrences of all 4 of these red flags?
You should definitely tell her. Also…an obituary??
She would probably do the same thing and realize she misses me and come back a week later like nothing happened lol. Maybe I should just let it keep going on like that. She's an adult and if there's an issue she should tell me right?
My guess is your traumatized brain was trying to deal with things the best it could.
How do you know if someone is right for you? When you stop asking if they are. It literally is a “You just know they are” type feeling.
And this:
Wanting to Look for a house next year and living together.
Is quite concerning.
Not saying you're not mature for that step in life, but to buy a house with a person at the age of 21, is a massive mature marriage type of commitment… meaning, its a decision that should not be made lightly.
The mistake I see being made here… is you're still building your relationship.
You've been dating for 3 months and that is a small amount of time. Yet, you're talking about serious end game moves. When right now, you two should be focusing on building your relationship dynamics and enjoying each-others company.
Its like going from comfortable to extreme… and that extreme can be enough to detach people from relationships.
You don't meet someone, go for a few dates, and go “Okay, I guess we're life long partners”.. You can't plan to have a long term relationship with someone… long term relationships are something two people achieve together over time.
He's just a cheating bitch. You're gonna be better off in the long, short, and medium run if you end things