This is pretty selfish. The only reason you’d tell her is because of you? Not because there’s another human being who is getting played and oblivious to the betrayal? This is revenge on him. This has nothing to do with doing the right thing and that’s just incredibly selfish. Try having some empathy for this poor woman.
As someone who’s been cheated on, I would want to know. She deserves to know her boyfriend is an asshole.
Maybe because of paternity fraud which still happens quite a lot and because the parent/child deserve to know with certainty. It wouldn't be about trust if it was a mandatory thing
Mmmm You are a rebound Let her go with her Ex Don’t be plan C ( not even B) Good scenario. Bf :Hello I don’t think you are over your x yet and I don’t want to intrude to something special that you have with your Ex Gf: no …..bla bla BF : an Ex should remain an Ex otherwise he is not Gf: but ……. Bf: I m not someone shadow or a rebound Life is to short for this shit
No, we use lube, a very thick lube as well. We used to never had to because foreplay got her really wet. But there have been a few times in the morning where we aren't sure where the lube is so I use a lot of saliva and try and get her really wet, which again before BC wasn't a problem at all, but now it always hurts her. We never go in dry, but her V just isn't getting wet anymore since being on BC
I don’t anymore no. I got bullied when I was in college and stuff so I kinda – she said all I needed was her, but I don’t think that’s true anymore. It’s clearly not for her, ya know? So. Yeah. I’m gonna try to make new friends.
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You protect yourself legally by discussing it with her and signing a financial agreement. Putting assets in others name to avoid liability tax or divorce wise can backfire very hot. Its literally trying to avoid your legal obligations – if it can be proved you attempted to hide assets to remove them from a common marital pool you might actually be in deep shit and have to pay even more.
I am not sure that some people read the whole thing, so here’s the part that seems not everyone read. He has a photo and video library of me and my body in lingerie. I do not shame him for masturbation(which is usually daily or several times daily activity)
Here is something I have realized. You almost never need to tell people when they are wrong. It helps nothing. Tell them they are wrong if they are driving the wrong direction on a one way street.
Anything less dire just get curious instead of proving them wrong. It's the secret to making people like you instead of hate you.
Instead of “I don't think that's right I haven't heard of that” just say “oh that's interesting tell me more about that!” Or “what do you think about that?” Even “oh that's interesting I had heard about x but I didn't know Y. Do you think Y was a good thing for the company?”. Or any number of curious questions.
Do NOT ask questions that seem like you are questioning the validity of what the person is saying. Remember, you are curious, not judgemental.
Give it a try. Watch as people walk away from the conversation feeling good about themselves. Feeling like somebody was interested in them. And throughout the conversation you might learn something or you might not. Or the person you are talking with might reveal that they know much more than you or they might reveal that they got their info from a tabloid. You might lead them to question their information. Who knows. Doesn't matter.
You can date him, and it doesn't have to be super serious. But that may be something you both want to acknowledge before it heads into serious territory.
I think this is part of it, a very sociable person would be finding someone to do those things with, by joining a club or something. Or they would do something else instead rather than do things alone. I'm more like your boyfriend where I'd rather do my own thing than compromise but I think it's harder to make friends.
Dated med student > married first year intern > divorced Specialist trainee . I'm 33F, and I spent 10 years around the medical world. Physician trainee blah blah.blah. You legit have NO life…..
no it’s not fine, you are really uneducated in that topic, it is definitely not fine. Please educate yourself more. Do you know how damaging it is when you take hormones or do bottom surgerey? There's no going back, you'll never be the same again if you regret it.
2/3. yeah like i said, you always felt like a woman but how does a woman feel? Can you explain to me how a woman should feel? How is it being a woman? What even is a woman? „Everyone feels different“ how can you feel like a woman?
“I saw your texts. First, everybody shits and the girl who left the door open acts like a 4 year old bully in kindergarten. When I asked to close the door you sided with them. You could have closed the door for me and tell them that their shit also stinks. But you didn’t. Your are not the person I thought you were. It wasn’t a joke, it was bullying. It wasn’t the alcohol, or a mistake, it was the real you being an asshole. We’re done.”
Then, if you are leaving together or have things of him, add one text about where he can get his stuff or where you’ll go. I’d add an “FYI your shit stinks too” for shits and giggles.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
He wasn’t that drunk, and even if he was, that’s no excuse to not close the door and tell his friends to shut up and apologize. This is to say he doesn’t love you and respect you the way that you think. When he said to “lighten up” he wasn’t trying to make you feel better, he was trying to make himself feel better to convince himself that it was a light joke.
If you two live together figure by yourself if he or you should leave, if it’s shared, just give the 30day notice to your landlord and stay with some friend or relative while searching for a new place.
I’d advice you make a clean breakup, don’t listen to what he says any more. Don’t argue. You don’t need to “agree” on anything. You heard enough. You leave him and it’s better if you never see him again.
This is going to cause problems throughout your career. Even people who say they understand and can deal with it will eventually get annoyed with you canceling on plans or running out to go to work when you're on call. You're going to miss out on social events and family gatherings because of work. Unless you get with someone who needs very little attention from you, you're not going to be able to meet their needs. This isn't about her not understanding; it's about you not having compatible lifestyles to each other. You've offered what you're willing to offer and it's not enough. You've decided that your career is your top priority. You can't also be upset that she's not okay with your lack of flexibility.
The face he loves will go. Just google 'Jennifer Grey' and the effect her nose job – just a simple reshape – had on her face. She became unrecognisable and lost work because she no longer looked like herself.
The you that emerges from surgery will not look like the you that goes in (I get that this is the whole point) and you seem to be forgetting that your BF loves the face that you came with. He's going to need time to readjust and, bluntly, this could be the start of the end of your relationship if you aren't careful.
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Psychological warfare is what it’s called.
The first part is so stupid lol
Don't mess with people in relationships. Find someone else who can fulfill your needs without destroying someone else's life.
This is pretty selfish. The only reason you’d tell her is because of you? Not because there’s another human being who is getting played and oblivious to the betrayal? This is revenge on him. This has nothing to do with doing the right thing and that’s just incredibly selfish. Try having some empathy for this poor woman.
As someone who’s been cheated on, I would want to know. She deserves to know her boyfriend is an asshole.
If you do shit like that then yes you are a rapist. You guys should learn what consent is, it’s showing that none of you men knows that.
Maybe because of paternity fraud which still happens quite a lot and because the parent/child deserve to know with certainty. It wouldn't be about trust if it was a mandatory thing
Mmmm You are a rebound Let her go with her Ex Don’t be plan C ( not even B) Good scenario. Bf :Hello I don’t think you are over your x yet and I don’t want to intrude to something special that you have with your Ex Gf: no …..bla bla BF : an Ex should remain an Ex otherwise he is not Gf: but ……. Bf: I m not someone shadow or a rebound Life is to short for this shit
NC
Your ex-boyfriend wanted you to shave every day so you told him to get fucked and now you’re happy!
Idk cheating dickhead. You seem invested in the definition, so share yours.
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No, we use lube, a very thick lube as well. We used to never had to because foreplay got her really wet. But there have been a few times in the morning where we aren't sure where the lube is so I use a lot of saliva and try and get her really wet, which again before BC wasn't a problem at all, but now it always hurts her. We never go in dry, but her V just isn't getting wet anymore since being on BC
I don’t anymore no. I got bullied when I was in college and stuff so I kinda – she said all I needed was her, but I don’t think that’s true anymore. It’s clearly not for her, ya know? So. Yeah. I’m gonna try to make new friends.
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You protect yourself legally by discussing it with her and signing a financial agreement. Putting assets in others name to avoid liability tax or divorce wise can backfire very hot. Its literally trying to avoid your legal obligations – if it can be proved you attempted to hide assets to remove them from a common marital pool you might actually be in deep shit and have to pay even more.
I hope it’s not an affair, but if your gut is telling you somethings up then I think you should investigate.
I am not sure that some people read the whole thing, so here’s the part that seems not everyone read. He has a photo and video library of me and my body in lingerie. I do not shame him for masturbation(which is usually daily or several times daily activity)
Here is something I have realized. You almost never need to tell people when they are wrong. It helps nothing. Tell them they are wrong if they are driving the wrong direction on a one way street.
Anything less dire just get curious instead of proving them wrong. It's the secret to making people like you instead of hate you.
Instead of “I don't think that's right I haven't heard of that” just say “oh that's interesting tell me more about that!” Or “what do you think about that?” Even “oh that's interesting I had heard about x but I didn't know Y. Do you think Y was a good thing for the company?”. Or any number of curious questions.
Do NOT ask questions that seem like you are questioning the validity of what the person is saying. Remember, you are curious, not judgemental.
Give it a try. Watch as people walk away from the conversation feeling good about themselves. Feeling like somebody was interested in them. And throughout the conversation you might learn something or you might not. Or the person you are talking with might reveal that they know much more than you or they might reveal that they got their info from a tabloid. You might lead them to question their information. Who knows. Doesn't matter.
You can date him, and it doesn't have to be super serious. But that may be something you both want to acknowledge before it heads into serious territory.
He has a positive male role model in his life… he is dating the girl OP wants to marry
Ok thank you
My lawyer is drawing up a postnup. AP's wife has been informed.
The cat is not fixed…make an appointment with the vet for spay or neuter or you can find a low cost spay/neuter program in your town.
I think this is part of it, a very sociable person would be finding someone to do those things with, by joining a club or something. Or they would do something else instead rather than do things alone. I'm more like your boyfriend where I'd rather do my own thing than compromise but I think it's harder to make friends.
Dated med student > married first year intern > divorced Specialist trainee . I'm 33F, and I spent 10 years around the medical world. Physician trainee blah blah.blah. You legit have NO life…..
no it’s not fine, you are really uneducated in that topic, it is definitely not fine. Please educate yourself more. Do you know how damaging it is when you take hormones or do bottom surgerey? There's no going back, you'll never be the same again if you regret it.
2/3. yeah like i said, you always felt like a woman but how does a woman feel? Can you explain to me how a woman should feel? How is it being a woman? What even is a woman? „Everyone feels different“ how can you feel like a woman?
“I saw your texts. First, everybody shits and the girl who left the door open acts like a 4 year old bully in kindergarten. When I asked to close the door you sided with them. You could have closed the door for me and tell them that their shit also stinks. But you didn’t. Your are not the person I thought you were. It wasn’t a joke, it was bullying. It wasn’t the alcohol, or a mistake, it was the real you being an asshole. We’re done.”
Then, if you are leaving together or have things of him, add one text about where he can get his stuff or where you’ll go. I’d add an “FYI your shit stinks too” for shits and giggles.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
He wasn’t that drunk, and even if he was, that’s no excuse to not close the door and tell his friends to shut up and apologize. This is to say he doesn’t love you and respect you the way that you think. When he said to “lighten up” he wasn’t trying to make you feel better, he was trying to make himself feel better to convince himself that it was a light joke.
If you two live together figure by yourself if he or you should leave, if it’s shared, just give the 30day notice to your landlord and stay with some friend or relative while searching for a new place.
I’d advice you make a clean breakup, don’t listen to what he says any more. Don’t argue. You don’t need to “agree” on anything. You heard enough. You leave him and it’s better if you never see him again.
Yah, I am wondering why this wouldn't be considered theft?
This is going to cause problems throughout your career. Even people who say they understand and can deal with it will eventually get annoyed with you canceling on plans or running out to go to work when you're on call. You're going to miss out on social events and family gatherings because of work. Unless you get with someone who needs very little attention from you, you're not going to be able to meet their needs. This isn't about her not understanding; it's about you not having compatible lifestyles to each other. You've offered what you're willing to offer and it's not enough. You've decided that your career is your top priority. You can't also be upset that she's not okay with your lack of flexibility.
Finding something interesting != admission.
You are a fool in a black and white world.
In a metaphorical way you are going to 'die'.
The face he loves will go. Just google 'Jennifer Grey' and the effect her nose job – just a simple reshape – had on her face. She became unrecognisable and lost work because she no longer looked like herself.
The you that emerges from surgery will not look like the you that goes in (I get that this is the whole point) and you seem to be forgetting that your BF loves the face that you came with. He's going to need time to readjust and, bluntly, this could be the start of the end of your relationship if you aren't careful.
Break up with him, this is just a taste of what a hell being married to him will be. He sides with your abuser because he is one too
Sure ,no problem