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Room for online sex video chat Xanthia
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Birth Date: 2003-02-02
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Date: October 23, 2022
You’re both incredibly young. I wouldn’t rush it, especially since you’re having second thoughts. And I understand how you want to to focus on your carreer first. Especially since you have plenty of time to start a family given your age.
You can totally put leeway into your chores plan, you just need to communicate that before hand so she knows what to expect and isn't surprised because your ambiguous communication allowed her to imagine something different than what you actually planned.
You've got to respond with more than just “yep, okay”.
Thank you for the insightful reply! I think she does have some awareness of it even if it's subtle. Often times, I'll be alright when we spend time together, but the doubt really starts setting in when we're not and then I can act a bit distant as I focus more on other things while she wants to spend time checking in every day.
I feel like you might be raising a good point about being whole. I should clarify that I'm not entirely sure about the validation part, but I definitely feel there is some level of truth to my thoughts. She has (and still does) struggle with depression which she is taking medication for. That was something she confessed to me about a month in after we started seeing each other. Thinking about it right now, I have gotten the sense that she is increasingly using me to deal with the symptoms. She told me that she's the most happy when she's around me, and wants to come over more and more often as a result. She has also increasingly talked about wanting to move out of from her parents place after starting to see me and that also results in her wanting to spend more time with me. It can get a bit much for me as a more solitary kind of guy who's very particular about his space.
I also do not want her using me as an emotional crutch, the idea of that bothers me immensely. If we keep being together I want to help her overcome that insecurity as best as I can and find her own inner strength that doesn't rely on me. But this seems like it could naturally head in the other direction.
what? your comment doesnt make any sense. who said anything about any of that?
What was the heated discussion?
I can assure you im not leaving anything out. He knows I play on his phone because he has so many more games than I do. I’m a curious person, I have permission from him to be on his phone.
There's lots of shitty messages in here about him being awful or immature, but there is a reasonable chance that he's just fucking snake bit. He's acting like a person who's been done dirty in the past.
Before you just accept the sexist mob opinion that guys are scum you should dig a little deeper and see if his lived experience includes a cheater that gaslit the hell out of him. In my opinion, motives matter a lot. Some people are just born rotten, and others are defensive because of what life has shown them. Take the time to figure out what you are dealing with here before rushing judgment.
Just because your intentions were good, does not mean the was as well. If anything the impact of your actions led to him losing all trust in you and your possible future together. You literally rocked the foundation of your relationship because you had good intentions and “wanted to get her side of the story,” instead of wholeheartedly trusting your partner of 6 years. People don’t go NC with their family for minimal reasons.
Based on your replies, you still don’t truly understand the ramifications of your actions. He isn’t considering throwing away a committed relationship, you did. You did it by not trusting his answer for why he’s not in contact with his mother. You did it by not respecting his boundaries; by invalidating his trauma and re-traumatizing him by allowing her back in his life for even for just a second. I can guarantee you that he’s looking over his shoulder constantly, wondering if she’s just going to pop up. She knows where he lives now and she could just show up whenever. You took that security away. And not by a single mistake. All of these were decisions you made and now you have to deal with the consequences.
I can’t try and understand why you did what you did. Whether you thought you knew better, didn’t fully understand the trauma he went through, etc. What I do understand (partially, because I’m also NC with my mother, and one of my sibling gave my mother my new address) is he has absolutely no trust in you. Any kind of trust he had towards you is gone, and if you want to try and repair it, you have a long battle ahead of you.
No. Don't do this to yourself. He does not find you sexually attractive. You can't willfully change that. This isn't something you can work on like being too needy in a relationship.