No, he didn't argue that it was unfair to him, he just accepted the five minute rule.
See I just wish my partner could do this. I can meet him halfway by making such a proposal, and I believe the proposal would be considered a reasonable enough compromise on both our parts as he would still get his chance to talk, just not for a super long time.
But he doesn't see it that way. He's said already that I'm being extremely unfair just by asking him to talk less and that he puts up with the things I talk about, so I should do the same out of respect for him…
I feel like he would be better off talking to a wall. The wall won't wish it was dead half an hour in ??♀️
op, at minimum, should probably step back for a bit as he enters therapy and gets better. it can be a trauma response but it could also be hes abusive. whatever op decides i wouldnt be able to trust anyone in that situation for a while. and that lack of trust is what would doom the relationship, regardless of anything else.
I'm not poly myself, but I do appreciate the level of honest communication involved with this type of lifestyle. I feel that she's kind of spitting in the face of that with her poor attitude.
My SO had a coworker who had a breakdown years ago (he thought he was JC), and they let him come back after some medical intervention. If the behaviour was out of character enough, there might be a way back.
Yeah, morons that toss the “sexism” and “insecure” card at perfectly reasonable reactions break my brain. Unfortunately I don’t tolerate unintelligent people’s awful advice.
You’re entitled to your preferences but you are an AH in what you said to her. Calling her a “dude” is disgusting and transphobic. You both behaved poorly here, but you were hateful and bigoted. Yes one can argue that she should have told you, but if you have deal breakers it’s on you to communicate them.
George Lopez quote, feminine version, “FTP!!!”
No, he didn't argue that it was unfair to him, he just accepted the five minute rule.
See I just wish my partner could do this. I can meet him halfway by making such a proposal, and I believe the proposal would be considered a reasonable enough compromise on both our parts as he would still get his chance to talk, just not for a super long time.
But he doesn't see it that way. He's said already that I'm being extremely unfair just by asking him to talk less and that he puts up with the things I talk about, so I should do the same out of respect for him…
I feel like he would be better off talking to a wall. The wall won't wish it was dead half an hour in ??♀️
Did you ever send her money? She may not be real…it could of been a scam
op, at minimum, should probably step back for a bit as he enters therapy and gets better. it can be a trauma response but it could also be hes abusive. whatever op decides i wouldnt be able to trust anyone in that situation for a while. and that lack of trust is what would doom the relationship, regardless of anything else.
Fiiiiiiiine
Walk away. Seriously. This relationship is a trainwreck so walk away.
I'm not poly myself, but I do appreciate the level of honest communication involved with this type of lifestyle. I feel that she's kind of spitting in the face of that with her poor attitude.
My SO had a coworker who had a breakdown years ago (he thought he was JC), and they let him come back after some medical intervention. If the behaviour was out of character enough, there might be a way back.
Yeah, morons that toss the “sexism” and “insecure” card at perfectly reasonable reactions break my brain. Unfortunately I don’t tolerate unintelligent people’s awful advice.
You’re entitled to your preferences but you are an AH in what you said to her. Calling her a “dude” is disgusting and transphobic. You both behaved poorly here, but you were hateful and bigoted. Yes one can argue that she should have told you, but if you have deal breakers it’s on you to communicate them.