Not always true. Some people enjoy gift giving. Some people actually get a kick out of finding and getting really cool, unique gifts to important people in their lives. Op has said she is a close relationship with his parents and brother, so it’s not totally weird for him gift her a pair of shoes that he knows she really likes. That’s the best feeling: making those you care for happy. It doesn’t automatically mean sexual/romantic. I personally LOVE gift giving and go above and beyond for all of my family- including my siblings significant others. I don’t want to be with my siblings significant others in any romantic way.
Although- ngl it does seem like lil bro might have a wee bit of a crush… but that’s only because $200 is a lot of money for a typical 20 year old to spend on the gf of his brother. If it was not as expensive, I wouldn’t think twice but that amount does seem a bit excessive…. You do have SOME points lol
I get feel saddened by what her siblings have, also these are half siblings not step siblings there is a difference. Having said that, she is 25, and if what the OP is accurate , he provided for her quite well when he was able.
Heck even with my kids, we were in a much better position by the time our youngest headed to college. She was able to go to the school of her choice. We had to tell the middle child no to her dream school, as it wasn’t affordable. Finances change, and it sounds like the dad has given her a lot and still does by doing dinners and other activities.
Being a homebody and being an asshole are two very different things.
I love to go out, either alone or meeting up with my friends, my husband loves to stay at home and relax.
We both accept who the other one is, and we make sure that we are both ok with whatever one of us have planned. I have been staying home more since we had our child (now 6 years old), but my husband accepts that I sometimes need to leave and be on my own.
Last week I took a vacation by my self for 8 days, at my husband’s recommendation, because he’d seen how exhausted I was.
Your boyfriend unfortunately seem like the type of person to guilt trip you out of doing something necessary for your mental health.
He is either extremely insecure in himself and taking it out on you or, like u/Winter-Travel5749 says, trying to isolate you from everyone so they can abuse you. Either way, I think you should leave the relationship. Since you said that you make time to stay home with him, does that mean that you are living together? If so did you notice this about him before you moved in together?
I do, and that's exactly why I'm at this point. It's gone on for far too long, and seemingly, it's only when his friends dont want to play anymore. He'll watch his friends streams and I cant even talk to him until hes done. He keeps using the sad little puppy look and at this point I can't even tell if it's real or not. Everything in me screams run, and it's like he's trying to coax me into thinking everything is okay while he slowly drowns me.
The teaspoon was a nice touch and will forever be on my mind when I cook now.
Right? Fooling around with someone isn’t the same as dating them or being in a relationship. And the friends comments that she “turned her life around” — gross.
My mom with (who had three kids at the time) told her first husband “the only thing that will change for me if we got divorced, is I would have one less person to do laundry for”. She divorced him, met my dad a few years later who she is not only is she still happily married to 30+ years later, but also helps around the house, supports her emotionally, physically (through cancer 2 times), mentally by taking mental tasks off her plate. Her first husband stepped up very hot as a dad upon their divorce too and they had a great co-parenting relationship ever since the divorce.
I haven’t an aunt that post her divorce from her on husband has been single and living a great life as well.
If your are really done know life can (and will) get better for you. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this, I’m glad your children are safe, and I hope everything goes smoothly and you come out of this better off than you are now. Be well.
Plot twist: the backpack is pregnant now, and OP is the father!
Not always true. Some people enjoy gift giving. Some people actually get a kick out of finding and getting really cool, unique gifts to important people in their lives. Op has said she is a close relationship with his parents and brother, so it’s not totally weird for him gift her a pair of shoes that he knows she really likes. That’s the best feeling: making those you care for happy. It doesn’t automatically mean sexual/romantic. I personally LOVE gift giving and go above and beyond for all of my family- including my siblings significant others. I don’t want to be with my siblings significant others in any romantic way.
Although- ngl it does seem like lil bro might have a wee bit of a crush… but that’s only because $200 is a lot of money for a typical 20 year old to spend on the gf of his brother. If it was not as expensive, I wouldn’t think twice but that amount does seem a bit excessive…. You do have SOME points lol
Can you afford therapy? You have to work to get over your lack of self esteem that's causing these issues.
Dump this guy. Work on yourself.
I get feel saddened by what her siblings have, also these are half siblings not step siblings there is a difference. Having said that, she is 25, and if what the OP is accurate , he provided for her quite well when he was able.
Heck even with my kids, we were in a much better position by the time our youngest headed to college. She was able to go to the school of her choice. We had to tell the middle child no to her dream school, as it wasn’t affordable. Finances change, and it sounds like the dad has given her a lot and still does by doing dinners and other activities.
Damn bro. Not sure she'll be your best friend for much longer.
This is not a man. Leave him and thrive
is he being inconsistent? i dont know if im being an asshole. i care about him a lot and wanted to try.
i dont know
Being a homebody and being an asshole are two very different things.
I love to go out, either alone or meeting up with my friends, my husband loves to stay at home and relax.
We both accept who the other one is, and we make sure that we are both ok with whatever one of us have planned. I have been staying home more since we had our child (now 6 years old), but my husband accepts that I sometimes need to leave and be on my own.
Last week I took a vacation by my self for 8 days, at my husband’s recommendation, because he’d seen how exhausted I was.
Your boyfriend unfortunately seem like the type of person to guilt trip you out of doing something necessary for your mental health.
He is either extremely insecure in himself and taking it out on you or, like u/Winter-Travel5749 says, trying to isolate you from everyone so they can abuse you. Either way, I think you should leave the relationship. Since you said that you make time to stay home with him, does that mean that you are living together? If so did you notice this about him before you moved in together?
What would you do?
I'd dump him so he can go fulfill his fatherly duties. I personally don't deal with situations like that.
I do, and that's exactly why I'm at this point. It's gone on for far too long, and seemingly, it's only when his friends dont want to play anymore. He'll watch his friends streams and I cant even talk to him until hes done. He keeps using the sad little puppy look and at this point I can't even tell if it's real or not. Everything in me screams run, and it's like he's trying to coax me into thinking everything is okay while he slowly drowns me.
The teaspoon was a nice touch and will forever be on my mind when I cook now.
Ouch! That is an arrow to the heart of the matter and you’re DEAD RIGHT! For God’s sake OP how much more do you need to see to know he’s bad news?
Right? Fooling around with someone isn’t the same as dating them or being in a relationship. And the friends comments that she “turned her life around” — gross.
Just hold the L and move on ???
Well, I thought saying I was getting a mixed vibe from her was enough.
I'm not sure how else I can phrase it. I avoided saying I thought she basically sent me a “You up” message. I was trying to be kind about it.
Any suggestions on what I would say that would get that point across?
Orrrrr… you go. Take a wingman buddy and online it up in the same area!
Where you are right now is a small town but it’s a big world out there. Gather resources and work to leave.
My mom with (who had three kids at the time) told her first husband “the only thing that will change for me if we got divorced, is I would have one less person to do laundry for”. She divorced him, met my dad a few years later who she is not only is she still happily married to 30+ years later, but also helps around the house, supports her emotionally, physically (through cancer 2 times), mentally by taking mental tasks off her plate. Her first husband stepped up very hot as a dad upon their divorce too and they had a great co-parenting relationship ever since the divorce.
I haven’t an aunt that post her divorce from her on husband has been single and living a great life as well.
If your are really done know life can (and will) get better for you. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this, I’m glad your children are safe, and I hope everything goes smoothly and you come out of this better off than you are now. Be well.