Might be fair, or the occasion might just not have come up. I have lots of people I care deeply about but are geographically quite spread out. I've been with my partner nine years and we haven't met all of each other's closest friends. For us, it's not sus at all.
The topic of marriage came up and he gave you an opinion on it. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s not aggressive or anything, it’s part of the conversation you were having.
Getting important things out of the way (or out in the open) in the beginning will save you and the people you date time. Would you rather know you have major differences in lifestyles, wants/needs, or core values right away or weeks/months down the line after you get more invested?
I am sorry. Relationships are work. And I am willing to put in the work. To make positive changes. I just don't know if that's something he will continue to do when no one like a marriage counselor is questioning him or holding him accountable. Because I clearly feel he doesn't care how I feel. But I hope you find some resolution.
Stop having sex every time he mentions it. Immediately. React as if he said he wants to punch you. Something violent and unwanted. An unwanted sexual act is violence, and what he is doing is coercive. Stop the sex, get up and leave the room as soon as he even vaguely mentions it.
Alternatively tell him if he wants anal so bad you'll get a strap on and try fucking him. See how he responds. This usually works. If he's like ” that's not what I want” type reaction, tell him it's not what you want either.
Start associating your ass with poop and spoil his fantasy.
Confront him on his obvious porn use.
Ask him is it anal that he wants or is it the fact that it's not what you want that turns him on. Does he enjoy the idea of hurting you and forcing you to do something you don't want to do? Ask him to imagine if you kept trying to fist him, how would he feel if you just wouldn't stop trying to do it.
He won't listen of course. If you mention a trauma and they persist, they don't care how you feel.
“I don't want to loan you money anymore”
How does that change anything?
It's a scam. They “sign you up” so that you pay for the photos. Come on.
Your parents are right.
Might be fair, or the occasion might just not have come up. I have lots of people I care deeply about but are geographically quite spread out. I've been with my partner nine years and we haven't met all of each other's closest friends. For us, it's not sus at all.
Agree. This guy sounds very UNEDUCATED and CHILDISH.
It was so naked to get past that line. I guess there are some racism issues to acknowledge on top of the jealousy ones here.
Yes 100% that poster is projecting. Which happens a lot round here.
The topic of marriage came up and he gave you an opinion on it. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s not aggressive or anything, it’s part of the conversation you were having.
Getting important things out of the way (or out in the open) in the beginning will save you and the people you date time. Would you rather know you have major differences in lifestyles, wants/needs, or core values right away or weeks/months down the line after you get more invested?
I am sorry. Relationships are work. And I am willing to put in the work. To make positive changes. I just don't know if that's something he will continue to do when no one like a marriage counselor is questioning him or holding him accountable. Because I clearly feel he doesn't care how I feel. But I hope you find some resolution.
Being an ass or sticking up for yourself? Either way being hit is abuse. I don’t care if it’s once or a million times, it’s 100% abuse
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Some options:
Stop having sex every time he mentions it. Immediately. React as if he said he wants to punch you. Something violent and unwanted. An unwanted sexual act is violence, and what he is doing is coercive. Stop the sex, get up and leave the room as soon as he even vaguely mentions it.
Alternatively tell him if he wants anal so bad you'll get a strap on and try fucking him. See how he responds. This usually works. If he's like ” that's not what I want” type reaction, tell him it's not what you want either.
Start associating your ass with poop and spoil his fantasy.
Confront him on his obvious porn use.
Ask him is it anal that he wants or is it the fact that it's not what you want that turns him on. Does he enjoy the idea of hurting you and forcing you to do something you don't want to do? Ask him to imagine if you kept trying to fist him, how would he feel if you just wouldn't stop trying to do it.
He won't listen of course. If you mention a trauma and they persist, they don't care how you feel.
I just… look at the clock.