Trust me, as a dude who's had more than his fair share of Grindr hookups, 6.5″ is on the bigger side. Your dick is much closer to “too big” than “too small”. It's fair for the situation to get to you, but you're not the issue here!
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A lot of people. It’s pretty common for couples to reconcile during divorce proceedings. Some reasons could be that the gravity of the situation has pushed them into actually working on the relationship (eg custody issues tend to lead couples to just reconcile for “sake of the kids”). Legal and financial repercussions dissuade one or both partners. Lawyers sometimes act as a weird roundabout therapist (lawyers will council their clients to be on bets behavior and not to act in emotion. This can inadvertently lead to both partners communicating with each other better – ex. having to watch what they say but still having to express their intentions/feelings-
I'd suck it up and sleep with him. If it were me I'd be upset too, I rarely get a night in a hotel and I'd see it as a special opportunity to have a nice sexual time.
My husband and I are old enough to be your parents…If I walk around the house hard he's trying to get some. I could accidently touch him while his sleeping and he's ready to go. Don't settle for shity sex and a selfish partner. What he won't do for you…another man happily will. One thing I've noticed over the year…when I'm on my period men hit on me much more than any other time. He may subconsciously be aroused by your pheromones that time of the month and that's why he's frustrated with you “always being on your period”. Regardless…Who you marry is the most important decision you'll ever make so choose wisely.
1.your reaction was wrong u shouldn’t of beat dudes up 2.your wife is doing something fishy and you should’ve broke her phone cuz know u can’t get the proof off it 3.try to have an honest convo with your wife and go from there
She was asleep, not actively snooping. Ever considered the possibility he deliberately had the convo in a situation she was likely to hear it? I'm not accusing him of doing that but I'm also not accusing her of being nefarious either.
We don’t have any children. I used to be sure I wanted children but now I’m unsure. I don’t feel like I can take care of another human being if I can’t properly take care of myself. Lately I have been questioning whether or not I still want children. It’s something that is causing me anxiety too because I’m 31 and you know… social pressure.
Up until recently my time was focused on planning our wedding and trying to be okay mentally. Covid has made us cancel our wedding 3 times and it was our main focus. I do not work because my family lives across the world and usually there’s not enough time off in the US for me to go back to my home country and see my family. So I have sacrificed a potential career also. I have been blocked in the US because of immigration and Covid for a while and it has given me trauma.
When I say I don’t have any accomplishment of my own I mean that I don’t have a career or any hobby I can do when my husband is working. I also don’t have any friends in the US. I have good friends in my home country but it’s not the same. We recently moved to another part of the state where they’re a lot more to do than where we were previously, and also people to potentially connect with and that was actually my priority to focus on me a little and “get a life”. And then the obsession hit me and paralyzed me, making me question everything.
Nah man, that was half of it, but it was more like “don't be a dick to me at the wedding, which I feel like I have to ask because you've historically been a major dick to me”.
The same message could be phrased way better if OP was actually interested in smoothing things out.
Blood makes you related, but loyalty makes you family.
Those people ceased to be family the second the condoned your sister being with your husband. I know it's naked, but the best thing for you to do for you is to turn your back on them.
His attitude has nothing to do with you. You aren't part of their life and it's none of your business
You don’t love her, she is a safety net. You are scared to move on and she is there. I feel bad for your gf. She deserves to be loved by someone who isn’t as shallow as you and your family. I hope she finds the love she deserves.
As a child of divorced parents I'm telling you that long distance 50/50 is not in a best interest of your children. So much traveling is exhausting, you feel like you don't belong in either place, always stressing about packing your suitcase and not forgetting anything. Always moving houses, traveling long distances, drastically changing environment leaves you mentally drained.
What about school? Are they going to be signed up in two schools? That's ludicrous. If your wife wants to move than let her, but she can't just take the children from you. 50/50 isn't meant to be for long distances and I doubt that judge will agree to it. Your children's well being should come first.
I do not understand at all what you’re talking about regarding “fun”, but if someone said that to me, I’d help them out quickly by allowing them their single fun.
Look at his behaviors. The whole point of dating is to find a long-term partner. You are not a partner when you are being disregarded. You asked him to stop doing someone that hurts your feelings and he does it anyways. You like being treated this way? It’s not going to get better. Because you’ve ignored it and only want to see rainbows and sunshine, he been cheating in your whole relationship because he easily able to get away with it. His behavior is consistent with cheating military guys. You have been downgraded to a weekend fling and still fighting for that status.
You went to high school with her, so you have a direct connection there. Has anyone in the group tried asking her what her bloody problem is? Beyond that all you can really do is enforce some boundaries like kicking both of them out of the group as long as this relationship stands.
There is a strong sense that you are unhappy with him; marriage and kids will not change this and instead add more issues.
Now that you've confronted him, see if he'll change for long enough to convince you that he's interested in being more committed with you. If not, you know what to do.
Of course I'm just saying he should not feel guilty that she was suffering
Lots of peoples sex life is “fine” btw
Yeah, men need to be more selective in who they’re gifting with a child. Women should also be more discerning when choosing a partner.
Trust me, as a dude who's had more than his fair share of Grindr hookups, 6.5″ is on the bigger side. Your dick is much closer to “too big” than “too small”. It's fair for the situation to get to you, but you're not the issue here!
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A lot of people. It’s pretty common for couples to reconcile during divorce proceedings. Some reasons could be that the gravity of the situation has pushed them into actually working on the relationship (eg custody issues tend to lead couples to just reconcile for “sake of the kids”). Legal and financial repercussions dissuade one or both partners. Lawyers sometimes act as a weird roundabout therapist (lawyers will council their clients to be on bets behavior and not to act in emotion. This can inadvertently lead to both partners communicating with each other better – ex. having to watch what they say but still having to express their intentions/feelings-
Maybe the bf wants them there to help with the baby…
I'd suck it up and sleep with him. If it were me I'd be upset too, I rarely get a night in a hotel and I'd see it as a special opportunity to have a nice sexual time.
My husband and I are old enough to be your parents…If I walk around the house hard he's trying to get some. I could accidently touch him while his sleeping and he's ready to go. Don't settle for shity sex and a selfish partner. What he won't do for you…another man happily will. One thing I've noticed over the year…when I'm on my period men hit on me much more than any other time. He may subconsciously be aroused by your pheromones that time of the month and that's why he's frustrated with you “always being on your period”. Regardless…Who you marry is the most important decision you'll ever make so choose wisely.
You can admire beauty (attractiveness) without sexualizing them. I'm not sure why attraction means S E X to everyone.
1.your reaction was wrong u shouldn’t of beat dudes up 2.your wife is doing something fishy and you should’ve broke her phone cuz know u can’t get the proof off it 3.try to have an honest convo with your wife and go from there
I disagree. He made it clear that to him separation means they can sleep with other people.
She was asleep, not actively snooping. Ever considered the possibility he deliberately had the convo in a situation she was likely to hear it? I'm not accusing him of doing that but I'm also not accusing her of being nefarious either.
Just end it. If your obsession is that bad just leave
We don’t have any children. I used to be sure I wanted children but now I’m unsure. I don’t feel like I can take care of another human being if I can’t properly take care of myself. Lately I have been questioning whether or not I still want children. It’s something that is causing me anxiety too because I’m 31 and you know… social pressure.
Up until recently my time was focused on planning our wedding and trying to be okay mentally. Covid has made us cancel our wedding 3 times and it was our main focus. I do not work because my family lives across the world and usually there’s not enough time off in the US for me to go back to my home country and see my family. So I have sacrificed a potential career also. I have been blocked in the US because of immigration and Covid for a while and it has given me trauma.
When I say I don’t have any accomplishment of my own I mean that I don’t have a career or any hobby I can do when my husband is working. I also don’t have any friends in the US. I have good friends in my home country but it’s not the same. We recently moved to another part of the state where they’re a lot more to do than where we were previously, and also people to potentially connect with and that was actually my priority to focus on me a little and “get a life”. And then the obsession hit me and paralyzed me, making me question everything.
Thank you for this information!
Nah man, that was half of it, but it was more like “don't be a dick to me at the wedding, which I feel like I have to ask because you've historically been a major dick to me”.
The same message could be phrased way better if OP was actually interested in smoothing things out.
Here's how I look at family.
Blood makes you related, but loyalty makes you family.
Those people ceased to be family the second the condoned your sister being with your husband. I know it's naked, but the best thing for you to do for you is to turn your back on them.
His attitude has nothing to do with you. You aren't part of their life and it's none of your business
You don’t love her, she is a safety net. You are scared to move on and she is there. I feel bad for your gf. She deserves to be loved by someone who isn’t as shallow as you and your family. I hope she finds the love she deserves.
Dad needs to get a grip.
Shes only been in your life for like 1-2 years… And she's family? Yeah no.
Like this great she's a nice person, but just because she's dating your Dad doesn't automatically make her family lol.
As a child of divorced parents I'm telling you that long distance 50/50 is not in a best interest of your children. So much traveling is exhausting, you feel like you don't belong in either place, always stressing about packing your suitcase and not forgetting anything. Always moving houses, traveling long distances, drastically changing environment leaves you mentally drained.
What about school? Are they going to be signed up in two schools? That's ludicrous. If your wife wants to move than let her, but she can't just take the children from you. 50/50 isn't meant to be for long distances and I doubt that judge will agree to it. Your children's well being should come first.
You're young, this shouldn't take so much effort. Just cut your losses and move on with your life.
I do not understand at all what you’re talking about regarding “fun”, but if someone said that to me, I’d help them out quickly by allowing them their single fun.
Why in gods name would you say that to someone?
Not at all. You leave.
Look at his behaviors. The whole point of dating is to find a long-term partner. You are not a partner when you are being disregarded. You asked him to stop doing someone that hurts your feelings and he does it anyways. You like being treated this way? It’s not going to get better. Because you’ve ignored it and only want to see rainbows and sunshine, he been cheating in your whole relationship because he easily able to get away with it. His behavior is consistent with cheating military guys. You have been downgraded to a weekend fling and still fighting for that status.
That doesn't mean it couldn't be added to this phone. Bloatware can come from the manufacturer, distributor, or vendor.
There also may be a way to determine when it was installed, but I wouldn't know where to start with that.
You went to high school with her, so you have a direct connection there. Has anyone in the group tried asking her what her bloody problem is? Beyond that all you can really do is enforce some boundaries like kicking both of them out of the group as long as this relationship stands.
Hire a sex worker! They will be invested in making you both feel taken care of as a couple, and they won’t need to be taken care of themselves.
There is a strong sense that you are unhappy with him; marriage and kids will not change this and instead add more issues.
Now that you've confronted him, see if he'll change for long enough to convince you that he's interested in being more committed with you. If not, you know what to do.
Respectfully this is very naïve