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? Hey Hey Guys I, ‘m Amanda,very gald to see U in my room, anything you want, you can see it in my PVT room ?, 18 y.o.
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Live Live Sex Chat rooms ? Hey Hey Guys I, ‘m Amanda,very gald to see U in my room, anything you want, you can see it in my PVT room ?
Date: October 13, 2022
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So you are more interested in keeping a high school friend that you donāt love so you can like her soft porn pics than doing what your gf who you are supposed to love asks?
Youāre too immature to be in a relationship. You need to do some proper growing up.
Personally it is pretty obvious that your father hasnt changed one bit and I would not have any contact. However, as a mother I would never tell you not to.
I hope your health is improving.
I think at that time we were both more trying to āwinā instead of compromising. Her approach to conflict is deflection and I also do not think we had the best counselor for our personalities. We abruptly stopped due to Covid so it is tough to say what would have happened. Ultimately, we spent the majority of time talking through superficial items instead of both getting vulnerable.
My view is this time is different. Iām going in with the mindset that we both need to own our shortcomings and make tangible steps for change. Prior to that, she needs to take the first steps in showing remorse for whatever did or did not happen over the last six months. Last time when we went to counseling, I enabled her to not get vulnerable. This time, if she is not willing or able to get to that place for real change, that tells me a divorce is in my best interest.
Never gone through this and if kids were not involved, this would be a lot more straight forward. Really looking for any advice on how to navigate the beginning stages of counseling. Also, itās an hour a week so for the rest of the time, doās/donāt with her to show her I am a great guy she may lose over this and putting forth effort balancing with her not taking advantage of my actions to have an upper hand.
you'll get there haha I agree lol
I beg to differ; equal standing is a huge crux of successful poly relationships because without it, there can be little foundation for fair treatment and proper respect. And a lot of the problems here have arisen because the GF clearly either doesn't care as much for her husband, or she doesn't particularly care much for either.
“Gf is just avoiding conflict; that's typical human behavior and isn't inherently malicious or disrespectful.”- Disagree, the whole way she has treated her BF is disrespectful. If you really care about someone, you don't buddy up with someone who is treating them badly and ignore how they're feeling.
I'm not a particularly confrontational person, but if someone was treating my partner this way? It'd be an absolute no-brainer for me to defend them and confront the other person. And not because its easy, but simply because when you really care about someone, you care about how they feel.
If you have to fight for fair & decent treatment in a relationship, its not a good relationship.
If they want you to stop walking around in your underwear then they need to do the same.
It would absolutely be a deal breaker for me. Itās disgusting. I would expect that behaviour from a teenager not a 35 year old.
Can you elaborate why you think you should stay with someone who does not believe you should have bodily autonomy?
Well if youāre good at it, the person will not even realize he/she was manipulatedā¦itās not like manipulation works as you announce it to the world, i shall manipulate you into getting my wayā¦no, you play the long game you start slowly, you take times between the little suggestions and ideasā¦this isnāt a today we do it type of thing, this can take months, even years sometimes, but in the end you get your way.
You decide what is important to you, i donāt view the world in good or bad, i view it as you do you and what you consider best for you, and everyone is doing the sameā¦badā¦ok bad for who? And who decides that? If it works for me, works for me, donāt care what society/people may thing about itā¦
Wouldn't surprise me if Ashley's husband would show up at this encounter. It's a typical trick dudes try to get their wife to find a partner, get her a bit buzzed and going, then he shows up and suddenly everything is on the table.
Get divorce papers filed. The shock of it should sober her up pretty quickly, then decide what you want to do. If you decide to stay with her, get consoling and define better boundaries.
OP is a sucker for punishment it seems. Jesus doormats of 2023! I dont wana break up with the chick that acts crazy and emotionally manipulative because i care about her ?
OP likes wasting his time. Oof i cannot imagine this woman as a mother and OP as a pushover dad raising bratty ass kids who act like the mom does.
Did you consider this very long list of issues before getting pregnant with his child?
To be 100% honest, even if it was in the past, the past doesn't excuse you from future repercussions.
I don't think I could be in a relationship knowing the person participated in such an event. Much like you don't have to date an ex-KKK member, you sure don't need to make excuses like, “the past is the past” because that excuse is just a coping mechanism to hide pain and accountability.
Lemme answer your questions first:
He lives with his parents on the weekend because he's Indian (we both are) and normally you on-line with your family til you're married, so this is a big shock for his parents as it is. I'm a secret because he doesn't want his strict Indian parents to know, and he's a secret from my parents for the same reason. Neither of us have a problem with this, it's very common amongst Indian kids brought up in the west to hide relationships.
He is contributing but his funds are running low which is why I was getting worried.
He's trying to move forward with things, I just don't know if he feels it's urgent or not.
On the upside, he's budgeting right now as I'm typing this which is great because he realised he only worked 9 hours last week.
Same town first makes sense before moving in together. If your relationship is completely long distance the reality is you donāt actually really know each other that well.
That's just mean. If he has an issue with you, then he needs to be blunt because the logical conclusion of what he was up to would be a deal breaker for me.
He sounds like a real winner, that one. Lies about saving money, spends lavishly, loves to show off, feels totally ok mooching off his brother for an insane loan (anyone with half a conscience would feel super guilty), had the audacity to go into bankruptcy in his early 20s probably because he had delusions of grandeur, now heās gaslighting you.
He has narcissist written all over him. Red flags all the way. What else is he lying about? Run!
My husband and I were able to save up for a 50k down payment in exactly a year and a half making less than 6 figures between the 2 of us (fortunately now things are better but it was tough then!) If your fiancĆ© makes 7x any salary heās probably able to save up at least 100k in a year if heās not a moron. if your fiancĆ© canāt stop being a baby and save up some money then how do you expect him to have the maturity to have kids, not spend you into the poorhouse, not cheat on you? Iāve never met a ālive for the momentā guy whoās been faithful to his girlfriend/wife. That type of immaturity and impulsivity is simply not conducive to that. Look, im not trying to generalize, im sure they exist, im just speaking from experience.
Piggybacking off of this, if you are getting a mortgage this isnāt going to fly. The bank is going to want to know where that down payment came from including a long line of deposit history. $150k from his brother wonāt work.
You should of been the one to abruptly end the sex and walk away. WTF
Itās quite simple really, you need to slap some sense into him. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twiceā¦fool me four timesā¦Let him know that it was a āgoodā interesting experience to be so in love but thereās others out there that wonāt stray once, let alone 4 times.
He probably does have what your friend group is saying but remind him of the cycle and the pain it causes. 5 years is a long time yes but let him know you donāt want his whole life to be a waste.
By contrast, are you saying you've been an amazing person wince your 20's because you're terribly ugly? Attractive men are into their looks just as much as women.
I think you should just tell her you're sexually attracted to her and ask if she feels the same, but also let her know that you want to continue the friendship either way. Also, I doubt she would be having you sleep over if she wasn't interested on some level. Unless she thinks you're gay.
I play FF as well, love it! I wish more of my friends played. And Wow. My SO is a gamer as well but we put each other first. No one else is more important, but as I said my SO is a gamer too so if he needs something it is important and vice versa.
But if he has important and happy news he wanted/needed to share with someone and wanted to share with me I wouldnāt make him wait nor he I. And we game with close friends too. It is just how we are. I am not saying your wrong but there is a balance and since we are both gamers we get that.