So here’s the thing… my last ex abused me. And guess what? He also abused his ex before him I found out and they are still besties. They openly talked about an argument where he broke the couch on anger. Yeahhhhhh, I know, WEIRD AF!
Anyway….
When someone has anger problems, they do t just suddenly get over it. Unless they deal with their inner demons and get some therapy to help properly cope, a person is always going to do it again. All it takes is one single spark of a proverbial match in their life for history to repeat itself.
Op, just because he said he’s changed, doesn’t he has. People lie to themselves till reality throws a curve ball to test them if they truly have. Not everyone is capable of catching a curveball.
I however, if I was in your shoes, I wouldn’t give him the benefit of the doubt and split. I say this as someone whose been to therapy and definitely know better than to stick around after you hear about someone who has a violent steak hidden in their closet.
OP, do you really want your kids to grow up with that mindset? He's clearly shown his true colors here. I can only imagine what would happen if one of your kids came out
He doesn't sound ready for a full relationship, TBH. Relationships are so much more than sex, and numbers of partners and knowledge based on porn aren't what make a good lover. His attention should be on you and what happens between you.
So she's just been a placeholder until someone more attractive comes along because you are afraid to be alone? Otherwise, why would you have gotten with her to begin with if you find her so unattractive and then stay with her for a year?!
Break it off and absolutely do not tell her it's because she's “ugly”. The grass isn't always greener, my friend, and looks fade. In the end, you want someone whose personality carries you through life.
Stop being lame that’s what you should do don’t be the type of dude that gets fucked by their hot ass female teacher and end up snitching
We've both experienced that “working life”, although we're both currently enrolled in college.
So here’s the thing… my last ex abused me. And guess what? He also abused his ex before him I found out and they are still besties. They openly talked about an argument where he broke the couch on anger. Yeahhhhhh, I know, WEIRD AF!
Anyway….
When someone has anger problems, they do t just suddenly get over it. Unless they deal with their inner demons and get some therapy to help properly cope, a person is always going to do it again. All it takes is one single spark of a proverbial match in their life for history to repeat itself.
Op, just because he said he’s changed, doesn’t he has. People lie to themselves till reality throws a curve ball to test them if they truly have. Not everyone is capable of catching a curveball.
I however, if I was in your shoes, I wouldn’t give him the benefit of the doubt and split. I say this as someone whose been to therapy and definitely know better than to stick around after you hear about someone who has a violent steak hidden in their closet.
Oh, that's awful.
OP, do you really want your kids to grow up with that mindset? He's clearly shown his true colors here. I can only imagine what would happen if one of your kids came out
He doesn't sound ready for a full relationship, TBH. Relationships are so much more than sex, and numbers of partners and knowledge based on porn aren't what make a good lover. His attention should be on you and what happens between you.
So she's just been a placeholder until someone more attractive comes along because you are afraid to be alone? Otherwise, why would you have gotten with her to begin with if you find her so unattractive and then stay with her for a year?!
Break it off and absolutely do not tell her it's because she's “ugly”. The grass isn't always greener, my friend, and looks fade. In the end, you want someone whose personality carries you through life.