Yeah, but it's paid for one year at a time or even a term by term basis. Nobody's on the hook for life changing money. No reason to double down and complete the degree at the cost of mental health breakdown if CS is the wrong major for OP.
well i know that people can have rough spots in any sort of relationship between 2 people, but by working together they can fix it. im trying really hard, idk what shes doing. my one friend suggested a little bit of time apart, i partially agree but naked to know
Even if you were a straight couple it would be unprofessional for you to show affection at work. He's clearly got some issues with his coworkers. Who knows, maybe they are all criminal bigots willing to go to prison just to beat up a gay guy. Probably not, but if that's his perception you kind of have to take it at face value. Try to negotiate the ability to just say hi in passing as you would with anyone else. Remind him that if you obviously ignore him while you're talking to everyone else you're likely to get tarred as “homophobic” (since it's almost a certainty others know he's gay). Tell him you don't want to get the rep of being the idiot who ignores the gay guy. He's being a little extra (in a bad way) here. Good luck.
Oh My Goodness! The only people you seem to want to listen to are those telling you what a great guy you are and how tortured your life is.
Frankly, I seriously doubt your description of you Wife as Low Libido. She more likely is just so over you minimizing everything she does (as you have here) while pumping up what a great provider you are (while only doing YOUR chores).
That Dead Bedroom is directly related to you minimizing your Wife, making your life just transactional, itemizing all you do, while negating what she does. I’m guessing that Wife from two years ago that you crave was the last time you showed any appreciation or true affection towards her (outside of wanting to get laid).
Life is too short to be with someone that doesn’t show you respect, care, understanding and love. There are millions of men out there that are willing to put in the self work to love how you need. Don’t settle. Just know that type of guy expects the same things.
Why did you get an arranged marriage? Was it for religious/social reasons?
How does your religion/society feel about divorce? It would strike me odd that you would follow whatever rules for an arranged marriage but be ok getting divorced
Parents should never make their kids decide between parents.
Just know that your mom choosing to go no contact with you is on her and not you choosing sides.
I get that she’s hurt but remaining bitter about what happened is letting the hurt someone did to her continue on. Hopefully she finds a way to heal and not let it continue to ruin her life.
Yeah but I do think the majority of guys would be turned on by an attractive girl doing a workout routine, so idk, there's a line that has to be drawn somewhere
She’s throwing off all sorts of red flags. Relationships should empower you to be yourself, and she wants you to feel ashamed. You won’t be happy with her, I’m afraid.
Why did he not use this excuse. Don’t get me wrong I don’t condone cheating or lying to your partner at all, but if you’re going to then don’t be fucking stupid about it
Start documenting her abuse, and how your child is copying her behaviors. Get your child into therapy if possible. Tell your wife that she's teaching your children abusive behaviors and it's unacceptable. Record everything you can. Then reach out to a lawyer about divorce and custody options.
If the gift is diamonds, emeralds or something valuable, keep it, sell it for the cash and then write him saying you're not interested in the friendship. If it is not valuable, send it back with the same message. Also inform his gf is one exists.
As a man near his age, he's a creep. What he is doing is wrong on so many levels it's scary.
1st, you are young enough to be his daughter.
2nd, he's abusing his position as your supervisor to be massively inappropriate.
3rd, he's willing to betray his wife to chase after a young lady.
Report him to whoever he needs to be reported to, if your internship is in jeopardy due to reporting him then the company isn't worth it as they obviously don't care about low level employees
Jesus do not go to the wedding.. the only response I'd give your so called father would be to tell him how ashamed and disgusted your mother would be of him for how he hurt you.
Never speak to these people again. They are in all purposes dead to you and treat them accordingly.. they don't exist.
Aside from the age difference there's the coworker issue. If you want to be taken seriously at this workplace you won't let yourself be used as a toy by this guy. If you can't resist trying to date him you're going to have to find another job first.
I don't know a lot about the “community” involved in the type of work he does, but one of the guys in the friend group mentioned another person who does what he does on an affiliated channel was fired for behaving in a way that could have led to someone discovering their real identity, so I know anonymity is potentially really important for his career.
Her husbands only fault is he’s too damn patient. Lol.
Yeah, but it's paid for one year at a time or even a term by term basis. Nobody's on the hook for life changing money. No reason to double down and complete the degree at the cost of mental health breakdown if CS is the wrong major for OP.
Yes she's cheating on you.
well i know that people can have rough spots in any sort of relationship between 2 people, but by working together they can fix it. im trying really hard, idk what shes doing. my one friend suggested a little bit of time apart, i partially agree but naked to know
Even if you were a straight couple it would be unprofessional for you to show affection at work. He's clearly got some issues with his coworkers. Who knows, maybe they are all criminal bigots willing to go to prison just to beat up a gay guy. Probably not, but if that's his perception you kind of have to take it at face value. Try to negotiate the ability to just say hi in passing as you would with anyone else. Remind him that if you obviously ignore him while you're talking to everyone else you're likely to get tarred as “homophobic” (since it's almost a certainty others know he's gay). Tell him you don't want to get the rep of being the idiot who ignores the gay guy. He's being a little extra (in a bad way) here. Good luck.
Oh My Goodness! The only people you seem to want to listen to are those telling you what a great guy you are and how tortured your life is.
Frankly, I seriously doubt your description of you Wife as Low Libido. She more likely is just so over you minimizing everything she does (as you have here) while pumping up what a great provider you are (while only doing YOUR chores).
That Dead Bedroom is directly related to you minimizing your Wife, making your life just transactional, itemizing all you do, while negating what she does. I’m guessing that Wife from two years ago that you crave was the last time you showed any appreciation or true affection towards her (outside of wanting to get laid).
Life is too short to be with someone that doesn’t show you respect, care, understanding and love. There are millions of men out there that are willing to put in the self work to love how you need. Don’t settle. Just know that type of guy expects the same things.
Why did you get an arranged marriage? Was it for religious/social reasons?
How does your religion/society feel about divorce? It would strike me odd that you would follow whatever rules for an arranged marriage but be ok getting divorced
Oof. I’m sorry.
Parents should never make their kids decide between parents.
Just know that your mom choosing to go no contact with you is on her and not you choosing sides.
I get that she’s hurt but remaining bitter about what happened is letting the hurt someone did to her continue on. Hopefully she finds a way to heal and not let it continue to ruin her life.
I think I’m being extra paranoid because of the past. Should I just let it go?
Was it this boyfriend who cheated on you in the past?
Because if not, it is really unfair to take out your past issues on him.
Yeah but I do think the majority of guys would be turned on by an attractive girl doing a workout routine, so idk, there's a line that has to be drawn somewhere
She’s throwing off all sorts of red flags. Relationships should empower you to be yourself, and she wants you to feel ashamed. You won’t be happy with her, I’m afraid.
No.
That is the response her question.
You don’t want an open relationship, so the answer is no.
The she needs to decide if her wanting to fuck other people is more than her desire to be in a relationship with you.
If she leaves, then all good.
If she stays, look out for signs that she cheated (again) on you.
Dang if that were real she would have put it in the post
Why did he not use this excuse. Don’t get me wrong I don’t condone cheating or lying to your partner at all, but if you’re going to then don’t be fucking stupid about it
She, and her sister just want to take advantage of you for as long as they can. End it now!!
Start documenting her abuse, and how your child is copying her behaviors. Get your child into therapy if possible. Tell your wife that she's teaching your children abusive behaviors and it's unacceptable. Record everything you can. Then reach out to a lawyer about divorce and custody options.
If the gift is diamonds, emeralds or something valuable, keep it, sell it for the cash and then write him saying you're not interested in the friendship. If it is not valuable, send it back with the same message. Also inform his gf is one exists.
…and end relationship.
As a man near his age, he's a creep. What he is doing is wrong on so many levels it's scary.
1st, you are young enough to be his daughter.
2nd, he's abusing his position as your supervisor to be massively inappropriate.
3rd, he's willing to betray his wife to chase after a young lady.
Report him to whoever he needs to be reported to, if your internship is in jeopardy due to reporting him then the company isn't worth it as they obviously don't care about low level employees
This is some AI generated bs
Jesus do not go to the wedding.. the only response I'd give your so called father would be to tell him how ashamed and disgusted your mother would be of him for how he hurt you.
Never speak to these people again. They are in all purposes dead to you and treat them accordingly.. they don't exist.
She wouldn’t let it go and told me that I didn’t go and defend her honor.
She doesn't care about your well-being.
Aside from the age difference there's the coworker issue. If you want to be taken seriously at this workplace you won't let yourself be used as a toy by this guy. If you can't resist trying to date him you're going to have to find another job first.
I don't know a lot about the “community” involved in the type of work he does, but one of the guys in the friend group mentioned another person who does what he does on an affiliated channel was fired for behaving in a way that could have led to someone discovering their real identity, so I know anonymity is potentially really important for his career.