What do you mean you don't know what to do? Respect your grand cut this 'friend' off, simple, if she asks just tell her she is making you uncomfortable and you don't need face to face, you can text her. Simple as that!
She's caring, loving, forgiving, relatively open-minded and even excited to have new experiences, hardworking, kind, takes care of her body, super loyal and dedicated to me, can cook, cleans well, supports me, sees a future with me and already is planning it, values a lot of the same things as me, we're eachother's closest and best friends not only love birds, she's selfless and looks at me like an equal, she accepts and even encourages me to be open about my emotions, she's fond of my family.
She just has a lot of good traits and I see her as a really good partner to live my life with.
Great that you identify that you struggle with communicating! Now the next step is working together so you both improve your communication with each other.
It’s great that you aren’t opposed to couples therapy… but look at it from your wife’s perspective. When you raised the idea of therapy, it was after you enacted a big final decision without her then told her that she needs therapy and you don’t.
“Getting off your ass” would have been “hey after all the scares, I’ve spoken to a doctor about getting the snip- looks like I can book in next week, this is the type of recovery time and medical risks” and then having another discussion.
Also what happened if there was a complication with your surgery? It’s rare, but what if she got a call out of the blue that you’d need to be hospitalised or had some sort of reaction to the anaesthetic and she had no idea you’d popped off to the clinic to get it done. It wouldn’t surprise me if part of her being upset is worry about this type of situation happening again.
I hope you both can get support to communicate better going forward.
Usually overly religious people are also not a fan of birth control, hence, PIV always comes with a risk of pregnancy, and having kids outside marriage is not okay.
I say train the dogs and the kid. I got a 2 year old GSD I raised from a puppy. I know I could leave my switch and games out over night and he wouldn't touch them. It took a lot of consistent training and redirection to get him there though.
You should have gone with 50/50 from the start. It would have been best for the emotional health of the dog, which should have been your first concern.
As for making your breakup harder, sure a bit, but couples with children navigate this custody/visitation issue all the time and are still able to move on. You two will be able to also.
Your window of using the “it’s our dog but I bought everything so I should get it” is closed now. Clearly he is providing for all the dog!s needs on his dime and on his time so absent real and ongoing abuse this isn’t the trump card you think it is legally.
You’re young, but you’re an adult. You can control your emotions and prevent yourself from being used. If you can’t do so, get a new dog and ice out the ex completely.
It still sounds to me like you tried to for e the issue in your favor at the beginning while acting in a way which made the outcome you wanted unlikely then and impossible now. That’s unfortunate for you and your dog. But own your miscalculation and realize that burglarizing his residence to recover the dog would be a very bad choice for you now, with likely adverse legal consequences.
What do you mean you don't know what to do? Respect your grand cut this 'friend' off, simple, if she asks just tell her she is making you uncomfortable and you don't need face to face, you can text her. Simple as that!
She's caring, loving, forgiving, relatively open-minded and even excited to have new experiences, hardworking, kind, takes care of her body, super loyal and dedicated to me, can cook, cleans well, supports me, sees a future with me and already is planning it, values a lot of the same things as me, we're eachother's closest and best friends not only love birds, she's selfless and looks at me like an equal, she accepts and even encourages me to be open about my emotions, she's fond of my family.
She just has a lot of good traits and I see her as a really good partner to live my life with.
Great that you identify that you struggle with communicating! Now the next step is working together so you both improve your communication with each other.
It’s great that you aren’t opposed to couples therapy… but look at it from your wife’s perspective. When you raised the idea of therapy, it was after you enacted a big final decision without her then told her that she needs therapy and you don’t.
“Getting off your ass” would have been “hey after all the scares, I’ve spoken to a doctor about getting the snip- looks like I can book in next week, this is the type of recovery time and medical risks” and then having another discussion.
Also what happened if there was a complication with your surgery? It’s rare, but what if she got a call out of the blue that you’d need to be hospitalised or had some sort of reaction to the anaesthetic and she had no idea you’d popped off to the clinic to get it done. It wouldn’t surprise me if part of her being upset is worry about this type of situation happening again.
I hope you both can get support to communicate better going forward.
Usually overly religious people are also not a fan of birth control, hence, PIV always comes with a risk of pregnancy, and having kids outside marriage is not okay.
You're fine. Stop overthinking things.
I say train the dogs and the kid. I got a 2 year old GSD I raised from a puppy. I know I could leave my switch and games out over night and he wouldn't touch them. It took a lot of consistent training and redirection to get him there though.
No living person texts that much unless vagina/dick are at the end of the rainbow. Yeet her.
You should have gone with 50/50 from the start. It would have been best for the emotional health of the dog, which should have been your first concern.
As for making your breakup harder, sure a bit, but couples with children navigate this custody/visitation issue all the time and are still able to move on. You two will be able to also.
Your window of using the “it’s our dog but I bought everything so I should get it” is closed now. Clearly he is providing for all the dog!s needs on his dime and on his time so absent real and ongoing abuse this isn’t the trump card you think it is legally.
You’re young, but you’re an adult. You can control your emotions and prevent yourself from being used. If you can’t do so, get a new dog and ice out the ex completely.
It still sounds to me like you tried to for e the issue in your favor at the beginning while acting in a way which made the outcome you wanted unlikely then and impossible now. That’s unfortunate for you and your dog. But own your miscalculation and realize that burglarizing his residence to recover the dog would be a very bad choice for you now, with likely adverse legal consequences.
As a big sis I cannot IMAGINE causing that kind of emotional harm to my siblings. Its like….in our blood to protect them. Don't get it.