I know you don't like the term “abuse” being thrown around, but that's literally what he's doing. Abusers are more often than not victims of abuse themselves. Past abuse doesn't give you a pass to be insensitive, hurtful and selfish. All of which he's being right now.
Need to reel yourself in OP before you get hurt from this relationship. Your reaction was way over board and to me that is a sign of codependency issues/clingy. If you let yourself go there it’ll end badly for you, always have yourself in mind and don’t get lost in the feeling.
amazing part is if he wouldn't have gotten defensive he would have never raised suspicion. just could have said “oh my boss calling because he wants me to go to this work dinner. kind of annoying but whatever…” and gotten away with it. I guess it's good thing for OP that he isn't a very good cheater :/
Ew that gave me the ick, too. He may seem great, but luckily this stand out red flag gave you an idea of what weird views he has as early on as it was. I hope you continue to go out and date and find someone perfect for you!
My dad said something like that to my mom. He also had a problem wirh drunk driving. She kicked him out and said he's welcome back once he starts AA. He did it and they've been good for years now. Alchohol makes people into a different person. I'd give an ultimatum and stick to it.
I mean he generally sucks and if I were you I would break up with him, for me personally that’s just a whole level of incompatibility. However, if you really want to stick with him, you could ask him what he thinks about those vibrators that can be controlled through an app (like lovense). If he downloads the app, he would be able to control your vibrator with the app. Might make his little ego feel better? Idk, he’s kinda shitty.
Or just tell him to stop working out with her. She's his wife and has every right to do this. If he's any kind of decent man he will abide by her wishes. If it's not important enought o him to even mention it to her, then it's not important to him to not work out with her. No big deal he has this young female workout buddy? Ok then, no big deal to stop.
Listen, its not ok to talk to your partner like that, let alone swear and shout, but at the same time i can see you are both burnt out and need massive help. Try looking for goverment help for the boys. I can promise you that your wife is as burned out as you are. Your daughter is probably feeling put to the side too.
Maybe you can have a couple of long days out just with your parents to catch up and give him a break. One towards start of the visit and one near the end as long as he doesn't feel excluded by that but you can gauge his reaction.
Thank you, I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad to know the love isn’t what it used to be. For me nothing has changed, but it’s just barely there on her end. I know that if I push her to stay, it’ll only driver her further away. It’s the 7 years that just gets to me
Nice made up story. This exact story has been doing around on tiktok and fb for a month. You literally did a word for word copy / paste
Thats pansexual
Doesn't mean it wasn't rape
The two of you don't seem to have compatible desires. That's why things aren't working, and won't work.
B is yellow A is not
I know you don't like the term “abuse” being thrown around, but that's literally what he's doing. Abusers are more often than not victims of abuse themselves. Past abuse doesn't give you a pass to be insensitive, hurtful and selfish. All of which he's being right now.
Need to reel yourself in OP before you get hurt from this relationship. Your reaction was way over board and to me that is a sign of codependency issues/clingy. If you let yourself go there it’ll end badly for you, always have yourself in mind and don’t get lost in the feeling.
amazing part is if he wouldn't have gotten defensive he would have never raised suspicion. just could have said “oh my boss calling because he wants me to go to this work dinner. kind of annoying but whatever…” and gotten away with it. I guess it's good thing for OP that he isn't a very good cheater :/
Ew that gave me the ick, too. He may seem great, but luckily this stand out red flag gave you an idea of what weird views he has as early on as it was. I hope you continue to go out and date and find someone perfect for you!
My dad said something like that to my mom. He also had a problem wirh drunk driving. She kicked him out and said he's welcome back once he starts AA. He did it and they've been good for years now. Alchohol makes people into a different person. I'd give an ultimatum and stick to it.
I mean he generally sucks and if I were you I would break up with him, for me personally that’s just a whole level of incompatibility. However, if you really want to stick with him, you could ask him what he thinks about those vibrators that can be controlled through an app (like lovense). If he downloads the app, he would be able to control your vibrator with the app. Might make his little ego feel better? Idk, he’s kinda shitty.
Or just tell him to stop working out with her. She's his wife and has every right to do this. If he's any kind of decent man he will abide by her wishes. If it's not important enought o him to even mention it to her, then it's not important to him to not work out with her. No big deal he has this young female workout buddy? Ok then, no big deal to stop.
Listen, its not ok to talk to your partner like that, let alone swear and shout, but at the same time i can see you are both burnt out and need massive help. Try looking for goverment help for the boys. I can promise you that your wife is as burned out as you are. Your daughter is probably feeling put to the side too.
Maybe you can have a couple of long days out just with your parents to catch up and give him a break. One towards start of the visit and one near the end as long as he doesn't feel excluded by that but you can gauge his reaction.
That's the spirit lol.
In all seriousness I am truly sorry.
Thank you, I just wish it didn’t hurt so bad to know the love isn’t what it used to be. For me nothing has changed, but it’s just barely there on her end. I know that if I push her to stay, it’ll only driver her further away. It’s the 7 years that just gets to me
Oof, tough love, but there's a lot of sense in there.