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A good standard for a boyfriend is “Is this man at least as careful of my feelings as my friends are? As I am of his? Does he act like he loves me, as opposed to what I bring to the table? Does he support me in dealing with my problems, rather than aggravating them or causing me more? Does he help me become my best self?”
TL;DR: Your boyfriend is not a good boyfriend in general, and especially not for you in particular. Please find someone whose personal baggage doesn't add to your own.
Yes I saw the messages. After the initial hookup they decided to be friends and that it was a one time thing. When he was in town she invited him over and one thing led to another. She still had an ex boyfriend she was communicating with and was open about that. They had a blow up because she thought she was pregnant and he blew her off (this was when we officially were back together) and then he apologized. Once she wasn’t pregnant they then talked just friendly about platonic things (it was like once a week or every two weeks). Their second to last convo she realized (assuming from social media) that we were back on and asked him about it. The “blow up” was that he told her he would only ever be with me and I’m the only woman he’s ever loved. Her ex boyfriend then contacted my fiancé to tell him to back off (I’m sure she put him up to it out of anger) and that’s when my fiancé blocked her because he saw her crazy pattern returning.
My husband and I have a 6 1/2 yr age difference and it’s never been an issue. However, we did meet in our 30’s. Maybe give it some time. I see both sides of the argument. I would say it depends on the people involved.
Im Probably getting even but I appreciate ur advice because People don’t know how much something stings until you do it back and show them how it feels. But I appreciate ur advice
Be careful of what you wish for. You obviously wanted him for some reason and now you have him. He won't change and now you are stuck with him, YOU have to be the one to make changes unless you want to stay in a very obviously financially abusive marriage.
It sounds like you put up with a load a crap to get a ring and now you realise you made a VERY poor bargain.
Please don't have kids. Either get tough and keep your money or divorce. You don't have to be nice about it or get him to agree , he is also stuck with you remember!
Yes, this is my take as well. He quits his job and goes NC with Samantha and CRAZY is gonna bust loose!!
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A good standard for a boyfriend is “Is this man at least as careful of my feelings as my friends are? As I am of his? Does he act like he loves me, as opposed to what I bring to the table? Does he support me in dealing with my problems, rather than aggravating them or causing me more? Does he help me become my best self?”
TL;DR: Your boyfriend is not a good boyfriend in general, and especially not for you in particular. Please find someone whose personal baggage doesn't add to your own.
Why does he need your permission, anyway?
Yes I saw the messages. After the initial hookup they decided to be friends and that it was a one time thing. When he was in town she invited him over and one thing led to another. She still had an ex boyfriend she was communicating with and was open about that. They had a blow up because she thought she was pregnant and he blew her off (this was when we officially were back together) and then he apologized. Once she wasn’t pregnant they then talked just friendly about platonic things (it was like once a week or every two weeks). Their second to last convo she realized (assuming from social media) that we were back on and asked him about it. The “blow up” was that he told her he would only ever be with me and I’m the only woman he’s ever loved. Her ex boyfriend then contacted my fiancé to tell him to back off (I’m sure she put him up to it out of anger) and that’s when my fiancé blocked her because he saw her crazy pattern returning.
My husband and I have a 6 1/2 yr age difference and it’s never been an issue. However, we did meet in our 30’s. Maybe give it some time. I see both sides of the argument. I would say it depends on the people involved.
Im Probably getting even but I appreciate ur advice because People don’t know how much something stings until you do it back and show them how it feels. But I appreciate ur advice
Be careful of what you wish for. You obviously wanted him for some reason and now you have him. He won't change and now you are stuck with him, YOU have to be the one to make changes unless you want to stay in a very obviously financially abusive marriage.
It sounds like you put up with a load a crap to get a ring and now you realise you made a VERY poor bargain.
Please don't have kids. Either get tough and keep your money or divorce. You don't have to be nice about it or get him to agree , he is also stuck with you remember!