I kind of agree with you BF here. I know you want to get out of your house and get on with your life but 19 is very young to move in with a BF. You want to do it for the right reasons. Start with a roommate. Get used to living with you, then move on to BFs once you get the hang of it.
Omg thank you for seeing me! I’ve tried communication compromises like note taking, we’ve used code words in the past but they weren’t really respected when I dropped them. Is there anything that you and your partner employed that really made it “stick” for them/what communication compromise works best for you?
The best way to treat this, maybe its immature though. Is to pretend like it doesn't bother you. Its not your wife's fault.
This guy is a total dick, and it sounds like you wouldn't like him even if he didn't do this.
And it seems like you can't just never see him again, because its a wife's friend husband.
So just never invite him anywhere, if he's there already, be polite but not friendly, focus on your real friends, doing everything you can to make them feel chill. Never look this guy in the eye again, just say hello in passing, and ignore him the rest of the time, eventually he will not feel welcome around you and wont be around as much,
You don't owe him shit, don't give him shit.
The worst thing one adult can do to another is remove all friendship, when he arrives and talks to you just say “hay man” and walk off.
When another friend arrives “MIKE its so good to see you do you want a beer I bought some I know you just have to try, follow me to the fridge, Ill give you a backrub…”
This guy will get the hint.
He will either disappear on his own, or change. At that point you have the right to forgive him or not.
Whatever you do though, stop talking about this, stop mentioning it to your wife, and other friends, stop thinking about it if you can, just focus on the real people in your life and how much you love them,
Some random guy shouldn't be able to get between you and your wife. Don't let him.
If the issue is the kids deserving their medical history, would you be in favor of men having to register, so that if an ONS or anything like that resulted in a baby, the mother and baby would be able to identify the father?
It would also identify cases where cheating fathers resulted in a baby, rather than just identifying cases where it's the mother who cheated.
This is so clearly a shitpost ??
You don’t seem like you’re in a position to be throwing stones bucko, being “thick and juicy” doesn’t mean you’re unclean
I kind of agree with you BF here. I know you want to get out of your house and get on with your life but 19 is very young to move in with a BF. You want to do it for the right reasons. Start with a roommate. Get used to living with you, then move on to BFs once you get the hang of it.
I can’t imagine giving up that much control over my life to someone else.
Omg thank you for seeing me! I’ve tried communication compromises like note taking, we’ve used code words in the past but they weren’t really respected when I dropped them. Is there anything that you and your partner employed that really made it “stick” for them/what communication compromise works best for you?
Not worth it.
Let the guy go immediately.
The best way to treat this, maybe its immature though. Is to pretend like it doesn't bother you. Its not your wife's fault.
This guy is a total dick, and it sounds like you wouldn't like him even if he didn't do this.
And it seems like you can't just never see him again, because its a wife's friend husband.
So just never invite him anywhere, if he's there already, be polite but not friendly, focus on your real friends, doing everything you can to make them feel chill. Never look this guy in the eye again, just say hello in passing, and ignore him the rest of the time, eventually he will not feel welcome around you and wont be around as much,
You don't owe him shit, don't give him shit.
The worst thing one adult can do to another is remove all friendship, when he arrives and talks to you just say “hay man” and walk off.
When another friend arrives “MIKE its so good to see you do you want a beer I bought some I know you just have to try, follow me to the fridge, Ill give you a backrub…”
This guy will get the hint.
He will either disappear on his own, or change. At that point you have the right to forgive him or not.
Whatever you do though, stop talking about this, stop mentioning it to your wife, and other friends, stop thinking about it if you can, just focus on the real people in your life and how much you love them,
Some random guy shouldn't be able to get between you and your wife. Don't let him.
If the issue is the kids deserving their medical history, would you be in favor of men having to register, so that if an ONS or anything like that resulted in a baby, the mother and baby would be able to identify the father?
It would also identify cases where cheating fathers resulted in a baby, rather than just identifying cases where it's the mother who cheated.
Leaving aside the chlamydia, this is not the time to propose. An amazing weekend is not enough. Possibilities of cheating are not exactly helping.
Slow down.
In reality you’ve been a prisoner to this poor excuse of a man and now the parole board has set u free , fly far far away ….