this would be reasonable if she hadn’t both asked you out and picked the place. nah, man. whoever picks the place pays — that’s why girls let guys pick the place, so they can choose how much they want to spend on the date.
I wouldn't say that exact scenario he found you in makes him exceptionally paranoid. It's a reasonable conclusion to come to, but he should be willing to hear you out.
Ultimately, the only thing I think you can really do is get a paternity test, because that's the only thing that'll show him his idea about things is wrong.
You deal with patients and that is physically and mentally draining. Wear whatever you want. Practice some self care. Maybe your husband has oodles of time to primp but i doubt you do.
And now you know why he's dating someone 10 years younger. You're naive. You want to believe that this gets better, it doesn't. Abuse only escalates. Get out before he breaks your fingers or face. The suicidal threats also are a huge red flag. Healthy adults in their 30's do not behave that way. It's manipulative. What's perfect about this man? He has had multiple screaming and yelling melt downs at you. That's not normal. Far from it. He isn't sensitive, he's abusive and manipulative. He's counting on your age and inexperience to keep you tethered to him. Run. Run. Run.
She wants to go through all my messages with the girl, is that advised to let her do that, or should I hold my ground? (The conversations I have with the girl are all regarding our guy friend usually.)
Ok I don’t want to get too graphic, but I dated a man your size and honestly loved the sex. Sure there were positions we would get in where I wouldn’t feel anything but there were other positions where it was just right and really fun. But the best thing was he knew what he was doing and he wasn’t selfish. Keep in mind this was the first person I slept with after being in a 6 year relationship with the a guy that was bigger than your girlfriend’s exes were, supposedly. Beart is right. You probably have met some pretty immature women.
Why is your exit strategy “emotionally blunt until she gets the hint that you don't want to be with her?” That's horrible. It would give her no closure, you don't want to be that person.
You could just tell her that you feel like it would be inappropriate to date her, that you feel like it's predatory to take someone just starting out in life and submit them to the life of someone with a child and a demanding career. Yeah, that would hurt, rejection always hurts; but at least she would understand why you pulled back.
Which is why I said no one on one hangouts would be a reasonable boundary
She make it's seems like you was cheating. If she wants to leave then let her leave.
this would be reasonable if she hadn’t both asked you out and picked the place. nah, man. whoever picks the place pays — that’s why girls let guys pick the place, so they can choose how much they want to spend on the date.
I wouldn't say that exact scenario he found you in makes him exceptionally paranoid. It's a reasonable conclusion to come to, but he should be willing to hear you out.
Ultimately, the only thing I think you can really do is get a paternity test, because that's the only thing that'll show him his idea about things is wrong.
You deal with patients and that is physically and mentally draining. Wear whatever you want. Practice some self care. Maybe your husband has oodles of time to primp but i doubt you do.
The most intelligent thing is to break up with her and suggest she freezes her eggs
And now you know why he's dating someone 10 years younger. You're naive. You want to believe that this gets better, it doesn't. Abuse only escalates. Get out before he breaks your fingers or face. The suicidal threats also are a huge red flag. Healthy adults in their 30's do not behave that way. It's manipulative. What's perfect about this man? He has had multiple screaming and yelling melt downs at you. That's not normal. Far from it. He isn't sensitive, he's abusive and manipulative. He's counting on your age and inexperience to keep you tethered to him. Run. Run. Run.
You say that now but what when he's being embarrassing in front of people! /s
She wants to go through all my messages with the girl, is that advised to let her do that, or should I hold my ground? (The conversations I have with the girl are all regarding our guy friend usually.)
Are you sure you and your boyfriend have the same ideas about getting married and moving forward from that?
Do you have any problems with his “it's not right for a woman to propose” comment?
It seems to me that you two aren't on the same line and that you should talk it out.
Ok I don’t want to get too graphic, but I dated a man your size and honestly loved the sex. Sure there were positions we would get in where I wouldn’t feel anything but there were other positions where it was just right and really fun. But the best thing was he knew what he was doing and he wasn’t selfish. Keep in mind this was the first person I slept with after being in a 6 year relationship with the a guy that was bigger than your girlfriend’s exes were, supposedly. Beart is right. You probably have met some pretty immature women.
Why is your exit strategy “emotionally blunt until she gets the hint that you don't want to be with her?” That's horrible. It would give her no closure, you don't want to be that person.
You could just tell her that you feel like it would be inappropriate to date her, that you feel like it's predatory to take someone just starting out in life and submit them to the life of someone with a child and a demanding career. Yeah, that would hurt, rejection always hurts; but at least she would understand why you pulled back.
Shouldn’t have included the weight. People will only be able to concentrate on that now. Reddit hates fat people