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I think you need to consider what you want to accomplish and what will be best for the long term health of your relationship. I am not saying you shouldn’t speak up for yourself, but that it could be helpful to consider if and how and what you want to say within the context of a specific goal. Is it important to you for your bf’s mother to be more thoughtful/less racist? Why is it important? What is the best way to approach her if you want her to take in what you have to say vs simply chastising her? These questions hopefully help provide a framework for the structure of that convo, if you decide you’d like to have one. You can also consider that this should be something your bf discusses with his mom and if he refuses to do so, does that signal anything about his values or how you need to adjust your relation with respect to how and when you interact with your in laws?
Why does everyone assume there’s something wrong with her? That she need therapy? She’s probably better SA’d? Hmmm Maybe she’s completely fine and just doesn’t like people staring at her unless her fella is there? We’re not all the same, we all act and think individually Maybe talk to her directly and see how she feels and what She has to say about the whole situation
I feel it’s hot to get too upset with him when he is clearly so oblivious
NO HE'S NOT. He knows what the husband stitch is so he must know it's unnecessary for you and solely for his physical enjoyment. He knows that there's a 6-week mandatory minimum before sex and is pestering you for it anyway. He is not oblivious, he is disrespectful.
Stop treating him like a dumb little boy and start treating him like the man and father he is supposed to be. He has access to the entire internet, doctors, books, videos, whatever he needs to be a good parent. If you're having to hold his hand, it's because HE IS NOT TRYING. Stop giving him passes. Tell him unequivocally that his “joke” was disrespectful and that him pestering you for sex stops NOW. Expect that he does at least 50% of the childcare. If you're not worried about the baby's safety, take a couple days relaxing somewhere else and have him take care of the baby on his own for at least 48 hours.
He is not a kid, he has a kid. He needs to act like it.
Honey I see where you are coming from I have had this problem with my MIL and believe me or not everybody blamed me for my lack of care when my 1/5 year old actually swallowed a pill. This is a big issue but the thing about my MIL is that she does these things on purpose in order to trigger me so she can cry and play the victim I believe if your FIL is not a constant resident at your place be extra careful with the kids but don’t ruin your life over it. For the spineless husbands there is no cure though
Guys don’t care, she’s right. Knew a girl that tried wearing an engagement ring out to stop guys from hitting on her. It didn’t work.
An attractive girl by herself is going to get hit on, and many guys will ignore any things like her having a bf, fiancé, husband, that you think would stop them.
Give your gf a break, she’s just trying to get through her day without conflicts with gross guys.
Maybe it's because men are used to taking snide comments from women, but it wouldn't even phase me if a woman made that joke. I would just say something snarky back and move on.
Worried that he will leave me, I would hate to choose a trip over the relationship.
If it comes down to that, choose the trip. This is the time you need to take to go travel the world and have experiences. If he doesn't trust you, you're choosing an unstable relationship that probably won't last (this is not the first time you two will ever be apart for some time and around single people! Best to handle these feelings now rather than become codependent) over an incredibly important, formative experience. Go on the trip! Let him work through his feelings. Send him post cards and bring him back a gift. If he dumps you over this, then know that he did you a favor and that you deserve better.
Why the hell would she be a virgin at the big age of 25 and then decide to get married to the first person she sleeps with if she was going to act like this?? Like THEN was the time for her to make the decision that she needed to get some experience before she commits to marriage.
This is emotional manipulation and there’s no help you can give him. He needs professional help, whether serious or not. Don’t let home guilt you into thinking you’re responsible for his actions. Anything he does is because he chose to do them.
You’ve done what you can. I would probably go no contact with him too. Nothing good will come of speaking to him anymore.
I think you need to consider what you want to accomplish and what will be best for the long term health of your relationship. I am not saying you shouldn’t speak up for yourself, but that it could be helpful to consider if and how and what you want to say within the context of a specific goal. Is it important to you for your bf’s mother to be more thoughtful/less racist? Why is it important? What is the best way to approach her if you want her to take in what you have to say vs simply chastising her? These questions hopefully help provide a framework for the structure of that convo, if you decide you’d like to have one. You can also consider that this should be something your bf discusses with his mom and if he refuses to do so, does that signal anything about his values or how you need to adjust your relation with respect to how and when you interact with your in laws?
Whats mature about openly flirting with people infront of your bf, repeatedly?
Why does everyone assume there’s something wrong with her? That she need therapy? She’s probably better SA’d? Hmmm Maybe she’s completely fine and just doesn’t like people staring at her unless her fella is there? We’re not all the same, we all act and think individually Maybe talk to her directly and see how she feels and what She has to say about the whole situation
I feel it’s hot to get too upset with him when he is clearly so oblivious
NO HE'S NOT. He knows what the husband stitch is so he must know it's unnecessary for you and solely for his physical enjoyment. He knows that there's a 6-week mandatory minimum before sex and is pestering you for it anyway. He is not oblivious, he is disrespectful.
Stop treating him like a dumb little boy and start treating him like the man and father he is supposed to be. He has access to the entire internet, doctors, books, videos, whatever he needs to be a good parent. If you're having to hold his hand, it's because HE IS NOT TRYING. Stop giving him passes. Tell him unequivocally that his “joke” was disrespectful and that him pestering you for sex stops NOW. Expect that he does at least 50% of the childcare. If you're not worried about the baby's safety, take a couple days relaxing somewhere else and have him take care of the baby on his own for at least 48 hours.
He is not a kid, he has a kid. He needs to act like it.
Honey I see where you are coming from I have had this problem with my MIL and believe me or not everybody blamed me for my lack of care when my 1/5 year old actually swallowed a pill. This is a big issue but the thing about my MIL is that she does these things on purpose in order to trigger me so she can cry and play the victim I believe if your FIL is not a constant resident at your place be extra careful with the kids but don’t ruin your life over it. For the spineless husbands there is no cure though
Thank you
Exactly. He didn't trip and end up with his penis in a random vagina. He did this with intent.
Guys don’t care, she’s right. Knew a girl that tried wearing an engagement ring out to stop guys from hitting on her. It didn’t work.
An attractive girl by herself is going to get hit on, and many guys will ignore any things like her having a bf, fiancé, husband, that you think would stop them.
Give your gf a break, she’s just trying to get through her day without conflicts with gross guys.
Yes
That isn’t treating her like a princess. It is treating her like she is disabled
Maybe it's because men are used to taking snide comments from women, but it wouldn't even phase me if a woman made that joke. I would just say something snarky back and move on.
Sounds a bit…manic, yeah?
Wow learning sucks
Worried that he will leave me, I would hate to choose a trip over the relationship.
If it comes down to that, choose the trip. This is the time you need to take to go travel the world and have experiences. If he doesn't trust you, you're choosing an unstable relationship that probably won't last (this is not the first time you two will ever be apart for some time and around single people! Best to handle these feelings now rather than become codependent) over an incredibly important, formative experience. Go on the trip! Let him work through his feelings. Send him post cards and bring him back a gift. If he dumps you over this, then know that he did you a favor and that you deserve better.
Why the hell would she be a virgin at the big age of 25 and then decide to get married to the first person she sleeps with if she was going to act like this?? Like THEN was the time for her to make the decision that she needed to get some experience before she commits to marriage.
This is leading me to believe she is being polite and doesn't actually find your pieces impressive? I know that sounds harsh. I don't mean to be.
This is emotional manipulation and there’s no help you can give him. He needs professional help, whether serious or not. Don’t let home guilt you into thinking you’re responsible for his actions. Anything he does is because he chose to do them.
You’ve done what you can. I would probably go no contact with him too. Nothing good will come of speaking to him anymore.