You are describing a deeply depressed person. I think she needs some “professional conversation”. Like with a medically trained person ( aka: a Psychiatrist NOT a counselor or a Psychologist)
Would you want to be around a pampered chef party, or probably one of those sex toy parties?
Personally, I'd be out of the house for the entire duration and then some so I didn't have to hear women squealing over whatever toy the salesperson is showing.
Is it both of your houses? If so, while it's kind of inconvenient from time to time to leave to allow your spouse to have the space without you, it's fair of her to ask from time to time in my opinion. She may not feel totally comfortable for you to be around when her friends are there because she or they won't be able to be fully free with their discussions knowing you are in the area.
Do her and her friends have a rotating girls night that she has to host from time to time? I think that's reasonable for her to ask for the space in a situation such as that for a few hours once in a while.
On the contrary, you are doing too much for him. He's lazy, using you and your parents, and him ignoring you when you get home should be the least of your worries. He's not adding anything at all to the “relationship.”
it’s my place her name is not on the lease only mine
Ok man I get that you're angry but in most places (these laws are highly location dependent) getting her out like that is goddamn illegal. That could get you into trouble.
Check your local laws and do things the right way.
Simple – unless he understand you are his priority and ex partners have NO demands on his time – then it is clear your relationship will not continue.
Talk with him. Does he want to have a relationship with you or with her. If with you – he needs to block her. Otherwise break up. Not worth spending the next 20-30-40 years having him being in a “relationship with her”.
First: He is literally never going to leave if you don't force him. Why would he? He has no job and nowhere else to go.
Your roommate is an asshole who doesn't give a shit about you, so don't worry about preserving a friendship with her.
There might not be a lot you can do as long as he is there as her guest, but whenever she leaves the apartment, make him leave, too. Tell him you will call the police to remove him if necessary.
(Honestly, he probably already has tenant rights. He doesn't need to be there for 30 days, he just needs to have established it as his home. But hopefully he and your roommate don't know that.)
This screams insecure and will make you look childish and creepy/obsessed after the smoke clears
It kinda sounds like she likes the attention. You should talk to her about it because it's not fair to you if it makes you uncomfortable.
If he's unwilling to work through this with a professional, let him go
You are describing a deeply depressed person. I think she needs some “professional conversation”. Like with a medically trained person ( aka: a Psychiatrist NOT a counselor or a Psychologist)
Would you want to be around a pampered chef party, or probably one of those sex toy parties?
Personally, I'd be out of the house for the entire duration and then some so I didn't have to hear women squealing over whatever toy the salesperson is showing.
Is it both of your houses? If so, while it's kind of inconvenient from time to time to leave to allow your spouse to have the space without you, it's fair of her to ask from time to time in my opinion. She may not feel totally comfortable for you to be around when her friends are there because she or they won't be able to be fully free with their discussions knowing you are in the area.
Do her and her friends have a rotating girls night that she has to host from time to time? I think that's reasonable for her to ask for the space in a situation such as that for a few hours once in a while.
On the contrary, you are doing too much for him. He's lazy, using you and your parents, and him ignoring you when you get home should be the least of your worries. He's not adding anything at all to the “relationship.”
it’s my place her name is not on the lease only mine
Ok man I get that you're angry but in most places (these laws are highly location dependent) getting her out like that is goddamn illegal. That could get you into trouble.
Check your local laws and do things the right way.
Simple – unless he understand you are his priority and ex partners have NO demands on his time – then it is clear your relationship will not continue.
Talk with him. Does he want to have a relationship with you or with her. If with you – he needs to block her. Otherwise break up. Not worth spending the next 20-30-40 years having him being in a “relationship with her”.
Cripes.
First: He is literally never going to leave if you don't force him. Why would he? He has no job and nowhere else to go.
Your roommate is an asshole who doesn't give a shit about you, so don't worry about preserving a friendship with her.
There might not be a lot you can do as long as he is there as her guest, but whenever she leaves the apartment, make him leave, too. Tell him you will call the police to remove him if necessary.
(Honestly, he probably already has tenant rights. He doesn't need to be there for 30 days, he just needs to have established it as his home. But hopefully he and your roommate don't know that.)