Seems like she doesn’t want to stay in this relationship with you. If she’s decided that then that’s what you need to accept. People who love one another do sometimes break it off, we all have to accept this.
I will start by saying my fiancé and I have an agreement that “wake-up sex” is okay, but if the other person wakes up or seems uncomfortable even in their sleep we stop, so I’m not judging you at all there.
Consent is not a one and done thing, you have to consent every single time you have sex, and you didn’t this time, so this is assault. Especially since you actually revoked consent before going to bed.
I’m very sorry this happened to you, OP, and I truly hope you can come to terms with it and heal from it, but it’s time to rethink this relationship. On top of causing you physical harm, this is a trauma you will now carry with yourself for the rest of your life.
As far as the pain goes, when you are not physically ready for sex, you can end up with micro-tears and abrasions inside your vagina. If these are bad enough, you can end up with an infection. Furthermore, you may experience vaginal dryness which can potentially lead to BV or a yeast infection. If it’s something you can mentally handle, I would make an appointment with your gynecologist to get checked out and make sure you are all good down there to be safe, especially since you’re still in pain the next day.
Sending love your way❤️ dms are open if you need to talk
If a man wants to marry you, he will be able to give exact goals as to what needs to be accomplished before marriage. Anything vague like “soon” or “not yet because of money” is just an excuse to defer. Someone who wants to plan a future would be able to say “I want to be more financially secure before marriage. Can we work together to save $20K to make that happen?” or something along those lines. A real, tangible goal or benchmark.
Just FYI: she’s not going to be able to “press charges” in the US for things that happened in Mexico. That includes the threats.
She can report the prior stuff (she can report whatever she wants, of course), but the only way to take action on the Mexico stuff is to report it in Mexico.
And don't forget the fact that he was unable to provide any example of concrete situation where OP failed. He is full of bullshit and manipulating her. I think that break up is the best solution here really, no one should stay with a gaslighter.
Ya, that's crazy.
Seems like she doesn’t want to stay in this relationship with you. If she’s decided that then that’s what you need to accept. People who love one another do sometimes break it off, we all have to accept this.
Yeah not a fake story whatsoever
Please don't have an until. You're already walking on eggshells and afraid. Cut ties with him so you can move on and have peace.
I will start by saying my fiancé and I have an agreement that “wake-up sex” is okay, but if the other person wakes up or seems uncomfortable even in their sleep we stop, so I’m not judging you at all there.
Consent is not a one and done thing, you have to consent every single time you have sex, and you didn’t this time, so this is assault. Especially since you actually revoked consent before going to bed.
I’m very sorry this happened to you, OP, and I truly hope you can come to terms with it and heal from it, but it’s time to rethink this relationship. On top of causing you physical harm, this is a trauma you will now carry with yourself for the rest of your life.
As far as the pain goes, when you are not physically ready for sex, you can end up with micro-tears and abrasions inside your vagina. If these are bad enough, you can end up with an infection. Furthermore, you may experience vaginal dryness which can potentially lead to BV or a yeast infection. If it’s something you can mentally handle, I would make an appointment with your gynecologist to get checked out and make sure you are all good down there to be safe, especially since you’re still in pain the next day.
Sending love your way❤️ dms are open if you need to talk
“soon” and “not yet because of money”
If a man wants to marry you, he will be able to give exact goals as to what needs to be accomplished before marriage. Anything vague like “soon” or “not yet because of money” is just an excuse to defer. Someone who wants to plan a future would be able to say “I want to be more financially secure before marriage. Can we work together to save $20K to make that happen?” or something along those lines. A real, tangible goal or benchmark.
Just FYI: she’s not going to be able to “press charges” in the US for things that happened in Mexico. That includes the threats.
She can report the prior stuff (she can report whatever she wants, of course), but the only way to take action on the Mexico stuff is to report it in Mexico.
And don't forget the fact that he was unable to provide any example of concrete situation where OP failed. He is full of bullshit and manipulating her. I think that break up is the best solution here really, no one should stay with a gaslighter.