There is no set time regarding your age/ stage in life. The best time is when you’re ready and you feel that spark with someone! I totally get the conflicting advice with putting yourself out there/ don’t force it. Ride that middle line where you’re open to new opportunities, but not out there purely looking for any old opportunity just for opportunities sake.
Pretty much everyone I talk to (including my fiancé) has said that their best/final relationship is the one they find when they stop looking for a relationship and instead are just leaving themselves open to a relationship while they’re just looking for friends/companionship/fun times/pursuing their own interests… I reckon that’s because they’re more relaxed about the whole situation and have stopped worrying if they’re going to find someone and just accept that they might not and then lo and behind some amazing person just walks into their life and everything is easy and chill.
Best of luck! The whole thing is a fun experience if you have a fun with it, and can be a hot experience if you’re nude on yourself. So try to not to overthink and just have fun and get some life experience and some funny stories!
Ah I apologize, I completely misunderstood. I’m close with someone who got catfished and it hurt her, so I was definitely biased. But no one can put 100% of the detail in a Reddit post, that’s ridiculous. But reading what he actually said and did to you, I completely understand why this hurt. Partly because having a child means committing completely to everything about your child and loving them, a disability shouldn’t be an issue, but also partly because it’s extremely crappy of him to only be thinking about your baby making potential in a relationship, and even more importantly he’s making assumptions about your health and well-being without even consulting you. It always really sucks to be dumped, but honestly you’re better than this a-hole. I’m honestly sorry if I caused you any distress, especially when you’re already feeling bad. I really think you can and will find someone so much better though.
I’ve also noticed you ignore most of the reasons people give you of why this is wrong. We can assume you’re either a troll or extremely immature and emotionally stunted. Like I said I’m around your age and it’s gross to me.
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Listen to your gut feelings. You are doubting because you say you feel immature. This the reason for waiting.
How do your parents feel about this. They haven’t met him to see what kind of man he is. You yourself don’t know him at all. ‘Have you been going out with other boys before him?
The red flag is the pressure to get married. Why the rush? Because he’s getting older?
He tells you he wants you to continue your education but he prefers a non working woman.
You don’t know nothing about him. What his character is in real life. How he’ll deal with stress and problems and with a wife that will not say and do what he’d like you to do.
You ‘ll be getting a big surprise. The honeymoon phase will last only for a while then reality will kicked In.
Someone who doesn't have the arrogance to assume I know better than people who are literally the best in the world at what they do. I haven't offered Messi advice on how play soccer, haven't provided driving tips for Lewis Hamilton, and haven't tried to coach Sean White on how to snowboard.
You seem bitter and believing the whole world is full of asholes,
How in the hell does me saying “don't tell the best in the world how to do the thing they're best at doing” mean I'm bitter?
don't know how young you are, but the fella attitude in the restaurant wasn't of a jerk* but you clearly are one. Good luck in life
You’d 100% be the asshole if you take the kid’s bed away.
Anyway…..it sounds like you’ve made up your mind and are already living apart. Go pick up your things and be done with it. Be sure he won’t be home if it feels even a little unsafe.
People in happy relationships who are living together generally don’t keep track of who owes whom a penny here, a dollar there. He’s unhappy, you’re unhappy. There’s a kid involved (who it seems you resent). It’s fine to end things and never look back.
If you don’t want to bring it up again I don’t know what to tell you. He can’t read minds and if you stay angry without getting everything off your chest you’re going to harbor resentment so
Your wife sounds unempathetic. I can’t really imagine not asking my partner if he’s okay if I notice he’s a bit standoffish/unresponsive. Not to mention I’d definitely let him know if I had someone over. Her berating you immediately after laying down is an overreaction and very inconsiderate/unattuned of her.
Sure you could have said a couple sentences but jfc, how about cutting you some fucking slack lmao
The thing is, you weren’t. He did nothing wrong. And you need to think about how well he treats you. You also said this is the only thing you argue about. You should really stop bringing it up if you want to keep him. He is going to get tired of arguing about who he was with before he committed to you.
She’s always been a negative person, I think she had a rough childhood but she doesn’t speak to me about it, I’ve offered to hear her out as sometimes talking is good or pay for therapy but she gets annoyed, but lately we’ve been clashing so much and seems to have gotten worse.
It kind of seems like he gave you a reason, (or excuse) that was more feelings based rather than something that you might be able to improve about yourself. I feel like asking for feedback might be a bit like the expression “beating a dead horse”.
No . It was the first time that he was like that and i literally felt like he’s lost his mind and doesn’t even know what’s he doing
There is no set time regarding your age/ stage in life. The best time is when you’re ready and you feel that spark with someone! I totally get the conflicting advice with putting yourself out there/ don’t force it. Ride that middle line where you’re open to new opportunities, but not out there purely looking for any old opportunity just for opportunities sake.
Pretty much everyone I talk to (including my fiancé) has said that their best/final relationship is the one they find when they stop looking for a relationship and instead are just leaving themselves open to a relationship while they’re just looking for friends/companionship/fun times/pursuing their own interests… I reckon that’s because they’re more relaxed about the whole situation and have stopped worrying if they’re going to find someone and just accept that they might not and then lo and behind some amazing person just walks into their life and everything is easy and chill.
Best of luck! The whole thing is a fun experience if you have a fun with it, and can be a hot experience if you’re nude on yourself. So try to not to overthink and just have fun and get some life experience and some funny stories!
Only on a re-read was it supremely obvious. I think it's 100% a negative reaction to the word “evil” as that's satanic yada yada
Ah I apologize, I completely misunderstood. I’m close with someone who got catfished and it hurt her, so I was definitely biased. But no one can put 100% of the detail in a Reddit post, that’s ridiculous. But reading what he actually said and did to you, I completely understand why this hurt. Partly because having a child means committing completely to everything about your child and loving them, a disability shouldn’t be an issue, but also partly because it’s extremely crappy of him to only be thinking about your baby making potential in a relationship, and even more importantly he’s making assumptions about your health and well-being without even consulting you. It always really sucks to be dumped, but honestly you’re better than this a-hole. I’m honestly sorry if I caused you any distress, especially when you’re already feeling bad. I really think you can and will find someone so much better though.
I’ve also noticed you ignore most of the reasons people give you of why this is wrong. We can assume you’re either a troll or extremely immature and emotionally stunted. Like I said I’m around your age and it’s gross to me.
Bit of a jump here but she's definitely not considering the other woman's or her husbands feelings
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Listen to your gut feelings. You are doubting because you say you feel immature. This the reason for waiting.
How do your parents feel about this. They haven’t met him to see what kind of man he is. You yourself don’t know him at all. ‘Have you been going out with other boys before him?
The red flag is the pressure to get married. Why the rush? Because he’s getting older?
He tells you he wants you to continue your education but he prefers a non working woman.
You don’t know nothing about him. What his character is in real life. How he’ll deal with stress and problems and with a wife that will not say and do what he’d like you to do.
You ‘ll be getting a big surprise. The honeymoon phase will last only for a while then reality will kicked In.
Like if you need strangers to convince you to marry someone…
You right.
Cool, then who are you?
Someone who doesn't have the arrogance to assume I know better than people who are literally the best in the world at what they do. I haven't offered Messi advice on how play soccer, haven't provided driving tips for Lewis Hamilton, and haven't tried to coach Sean White on how to snowboard.
You seem bitter and believing the whole world is full of asholes,
How in the hell does me saying “don't tell the best in the world how to do the thing they're best at doing” mean I'm bitter?
don't know how young you are, but the fella attitude in the restaurant wasn't of a jerk* but you clearly are one. Good luck in life
He was. And so are you if you do the same.
I would probably just block someone on whatever application we use to message the most. In the moment, I might not think to block them on everything.
You’d 100% be the asshole if you take the kid’s bed away.
Anyway…..it sounds like you’ve made up your mind and are already living apart. Go pick up your things and be done with it. Be sure he won’t be home if it feels even a little unsafe.
People in happy relationships who are living together generally don’t keep track of who owes whom a penny here, a dollar there. He’s unhappy, you’re unhappy. There’s a kid involved (who it seems you resent). It’s fine to end things and never look back.
If you don’t want to bring it up again I don’t know what to tell you. He can’t read minds and if you stay angry without getting everything off your chest you’re going to harbor resentment so
Don't date coworkers.
So talk to him. Ask him wtf was that shit they were spewing the other night, and if they're always like that?
And if the answer is yes – bounce. Your bf is complicit to trash.
You are 100% correct meeting his friends is important, for just this reason. If he's fine with their bullshit you gotta go.
It's not the size that counts its how you use it that matters
Yeah was thinking this too… The guilt tripping is common for cheaters too displace the guilt. It Ain't looking good bruh.
Your wife sounds unempathetic. I can’t really imagine not asking my partner if he’s okay if I notice he’s a bit standoffish/unresponsive. Not to mention I’d definitely let him know if I had someone over. Her berating you immediately after laying down is an overreaction and very inconsiderate/unattuned of her.
Sure you could have said a couple sentences but jfc, how about cutting you some fucking slack lmao
She’s lost attraction to you. It’s a common thing that happens once a woman gets off of birth control. You’re fucked mate
The thing is, you weren’t. He did nothing wrong. And you need to think about how well he treats you. You also said this is the only thing you argue about. You should really stop bringing it up if you want to keep him. He is going to get tired of arguing about who he was with before he committed to you.
She’s always been a negative person, I think she had a rough childhood but she doesn’t speak to me about it, I’ve offered to hear her out as sometimes talking is good or pay for therapy but she gets annoyed, but lately we’ve been clashing so much and seems to have gotten worse.
It kind of seems like he gave you a reason, (or excuse) that was more feelings based rather than something that you might be able to improve about yourself. I feel like asking for feedback might be a bit like the expression “beating a dead horse”.