If you are looking for a comment that will give you a clear answer on what to do, you won’t find it. Ranting about him lying isn’t going to help you. You have to act instead of speak.
Find a lawyer. Talk to one. If you get a good one, you can get a DNA test.
Maybe tell the husband of your H’s AP and talk to him.
I asked for insight and appreciate your answers. I promise I'm not gonna get in my feelings about the responses. I asked a question…thanks for answering for sure
There are two things that cannot be compromised on in a relationship without causing a LOT of resentment.
Marriage and children. You need to dump him. You not wanting kids and him specifically wanting more than one is a deal breaker no matter how badly you don't want it to be. Children don't deserve to be born to a mother that never wanted them and the way your boyfriend acts on this subject, he will 100% expect you to do a majority if not all of the heavy lifting when it comes to caretaking. You will not only resent your bf for pushing you into having children but you will resent the kid/s bc you never wanted them in the first place.
This is a ridiculous hang up he’s got. Especially if you have a child. I’d tell him absolutely not and if he wants to die on this hill, let him. He did you a favor.
The rational thing would be to change your name to his when you’re married and the fact that he can’t see that….
You don't sound like a very good friend. It's perfectly normal to do things to spend time with friends, regardless of gender.
If you are looking for a comment that will give you a clear answer on what to do, you won’t find it. Ranting about him lying isn’t going to help you. You have to act instead of speak.
Find a lawyer. Talk to one. If you get a good one, you can get a DNA test.
Maybe tell the husband of your H’s AP and talk to him.
I asked for insight and appreciate your answers. I promise I'm not gonna get in my feelings about the responses. I asked a question…thanks for answering for sure
There are two things that cannot be compromised on in a relationship without causing a LOT of resentment.
Marriage and children. You need to dump him. You not wanting kids and him specifically wanting more than one is a deal breaker no matter how badly you don't want it to be. Children don't deserve to be born to a mother that never wanted them and the way your boyfriend acts on this subject, he will 100% expect you to do a majority if not all of the heavy lifting when it comes to caretaking. You will not only resent your bf for pushing you into having children but you will resent the kid/s bc you never wanted them in the first place.
This is a ridiculous hang up he’s got. Especially if you have a child. I’d tell him absolutely not and if he wants to die on this hill, let him. He did you a favor.
The rational thing would be to change your name to his when you’re married and the fact that he can’t see that….