Just remember, it wasn't a drunken one night stand. She had a full relationship with him while married to you. Within six months. They stayed together, went on dates, went on vacations together for the whole time she was there. While making you think everything's good between you two. And she even kept in touch with him. That's insane. Don't even think twice about ending this sham marriage. You're young, loyal and deserve someone much much better.
Just remember, it wasn't a drunken one night stand. She had a full relationship with him while married to you. Within six months. They stayed together, went on dates, went on vacations together for the whole time she was there. While making you think everything's good between you two. And she even kept in touch with him. That's insane. Don't even think twice about ending this sham marriage. You're young, loyal and deserve someone much much better.
So you will drive yourself crazy trying to think of the reason, so instead of trying to figure out what is wrong with you, you should focus on what is wrong with HIM.
He lied to you, he left you out, he was out with his ex (and a group) and he is just like “meh, I don't know.” That is not how you treat a partner. So instead of pondering what you did wrong, make him explain himself and make it clear that what he is done and how he has made you feel isn't okay, at all.
I saw in your comments that he was out with his ex, but also with other people too. Just because he was there with others doesn't mean he isn't cheating, or testing the waters to cheat. The whole group could be in on him cheating. If it isn't about cheating and just about him wanting time away with his friends, then he should be a good partner and tell you that. If his friends don't like you, he should be dealing with that.
All of this circles back to HIM being the problem. Don't tie yourself in knots, get mad and force him to deal with this.
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Awwwww just go as is. She’s lucky to have so many great parents
Just remember, it wasn't a drunken one night stand. She had a full relationship with him while married to you. Within six months. They stayed together, went on dates, went on vacations together for the whole time she was there. While making you think everything's good between you two. And she even kept in touch with him. That's insane. Don't even think twice about ending this sham marriage. You're young, loyal and deserve someone much much better.
Just remember, it wasn't a drunken one night stand. She had a full relationship with him while married to you. Within six months. They stayed together, went on dates, went on vacations together for the whole time she was there. While making you think everything's good between you two. And she even kept in touch with him. That's insane. Don't even think twice about ending this sham marriage. You're young, loyal and deserve someone much much better.
So you will drive yourself crazy trying to think of the reason, so instead of trying to figure out what is wrong with you, you should focus on what is wrong with HIM.
He lied to you, he left you out, he was out with his ex (and a group) and he is just like “meh, I don't know.” That is not how you treat a partner. So instead of pondering what you did wrong, make him explain himself and make it clear that what he is done and how he has made you feel isn't okay, at all.
I saw in your comments that he was out with his ex, but also with other people too. Just because he was there with others doesn't mean he isn't cheating, or testing the waters to cheat. The whole group could be in on him cheating. If it isn't about cheating and just about him wanting time away with his friends, then he should be a good partner and tell you that. If his friends don't like you, he should be dealing with that.
All of this circles back to HIM being the problem. Don't tie yourself in knots, get mad and force him to deal with this.
No depression or porn that I know of. Possibly from medication or diet but the problem is how can I make him aware something might be wrong
Porn is a problem when it’s been used while your sex life as a couple suffers.
Enjoy your life. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Maybe he has had to work really hard for his muscles.
That I agree with and wouldn't feel comfortable having someone in my home who'd stolen from me. Just saying it's not always as easy as work more.