My wife told me he said he's even in love with her. She told me not to worry and that's he's just friends.
Your wife is completely mishandling this. Someone telling you they love you and inviting to go on holiday is totally over the line and a clear reason to go no contact.
Your wife either is openly trying to leave your relationship or has completely blundered handling this situation.
You need to explain to your wife the need to go no contact and if she tries to spin it around and say you are controlling I think you need to rethink your marriage.
on the very small off chance that this isn’t some middle Schooler trolling please learn to control yourself. The erection totally normal, jerking off in the bathroom – completely disrespectful. Your excuse in your edit is nonsense. You are an adult who at this point should know what appropriate behavior is and know how to control themselves once aroused. All adults get aroused at weird times. Most of us have learned that we don’t need to run and rub one off in the bathroom to deal with it.
Try driving with blue balls and a sensitive freshly waxed dick in tight pants
Get over it. Be an adult and recognize that it's inappropriate for a grown man to jerk off in a public bathroom anywhere. And no, being aroused is not an excuse And if you honestly can't drive your car because you're aroused without potentially causing an accident, that's an extremely condemning of you. Get some self-control.
Very few people are judging you for getting aroused, shit happens. But you absolutely deserve to be judged for thinking that a man getting aroused is a carte blanch a-okay for him to act upon those feelings, anywhere, regardless of context or whether or not it's an appropriate time or place.
So technically, she didn't cheat on you. She dumped you to date someone else.. You, on the other hand, technically DID cheat (at least emotionally) when you were busy entertaining your self with another woman while dating her at the same time. THIS causes a different kind of feeling.
Dumping you in order to date someone else was hurtful, but imagine how you would be feeling IF she was fucking around with him while playing girlfriend to you. In that case, you would feel hurt AND betrayed. That's how she feels about you playing with other women while dating her, hurt and betrayed. That tends to take a lot more work to rebuild trust, and most often it will never fully be built to the way it was before. She can claim to forgive and forget, but in her mind she will always remember you flirting with women when she was the one that was suppose to be the Apple of your eye. That will annoy her thinking about it and she won't trust that it won't happen again.
So if you really want this to work, you need to be patient, and focused on earning trust back gradually rather than expecting it to just be handed out to you.
My wife told me he said he's even in love with her. She told me not to worry and that's he's just friends.
Your wife is completely mishandling this. Someone telling you they love you and inviting to go on holiday is totally over the line and a clear reason to go no contact.
Your wife either is openly trying to leave your relationship or has completely blundered handling this situation.
You need to explain to your wife the need to go no contact and if she tries to spin it around and say you are controlling I think you need to rethink your marriage.
on the very small off chance that this isn’t some middle Schooler trolling please learn to control yourself. The erection totally normal, jerking off in the bathroom – completely disrespectful. Your excuse in your edit is nonsense. You are an adult who at this point should know what appropriate behavior is and know how to control themselves once aroused. All adults get aroused at weird times. Most of us have learned that we don’t need to run and rub one off in the bathroom to deal with it.
Try driving with blue balls and a sensitive freshly waxed dick in tight pants
Get over it. Be an adult and recognize that it's inappropriate for a grown man to jerk off in a public bathroom anywhere. And no, being aroused is not an excuse And if you honestly can't drive your car because you're aroused without potentially causing an accident, that's an extremely condemning of you. Get some self-control.
Very few people are judging you for getting aroused, shit happens. But you absolutely deserve to be judged for thinking that a man getting aroused is a carte blanch a-okay for him to act upon those feelings, anywhere, regardless of context or whether or not it's an appropriate time or place.
So technically, she didn't cheat on you. She dumped you to date someone else.. You, on the other hand, technically DID cheat (at least emotionally) when you were busy entertaining your self with another woman while dating her at the same time. THIS causes a different kind of feeling.
Dumping you in order to date someone else was hurtful, but imagine how you would be feeling IF she was fucking around with him while playing girlfriend to you. In that case, you would feel hurt AND betrayed. That's how she feels about you playing with other women while dating her, hurt and betrayed. That tends to take a lot more work to rebuild trust, and most often it will never fully be built to the way it was before. She can claim to forgive and forget, but in her mind she will always remember you flirting with women when she was the one that was suppose to be the Apple of your eye. That will annoy her thinking about it and she won't trust that it won't happen again.
So if you really want this to work, you need to be patient, and focused on earning trust back gradually rather than expecting it to just be handed out to you.