I cheated on my husband in the first week of our relationship (we were dumb teenagers, if that makes any difference) and regretted it immediately. But I didn't tell him for 3 years. It's 9 years later and it still hurts us both. I'm really glad he forgave me but will he ever forget? No way, and it sucks. I would never in a million years do it again though, it taught me a very valuable lesson.
Cancel the reservations… tell her youre sorry a GAME has ruined the relationship so much that u cannot take her to the planned dinner she had u cancel. Then explain u will no longer game with her bc she over reacts If she cannot communicate better than this at 27 years old perhaps some distance would be good.
Oh no, that’s just the times he doesn’t come home or comes home very late. He socially drinks weekly. He takes a few trips a year. He had a camping trip 2 weeks ago, does a fishing trip when the weather is nicer, and a trip with his dad and their friends in September.
I worked on a boat in Alaska all summer away from my partner (24M) , i left him on bad terms, I fell in love with someone (29M) on the boat, I didn’t have any cell service to talk to my partner much, and I quit the job early to break up with him. I’m not saying these as excuses but more to say that it was very much a decision that doesnt represent who I am at all.
Ah, the standard cheater excuses.
I’m wondering if you all think I should disclose to him about what I did?
I would say, yes. Your new partner deserves to know who he is getting into bed with, so to speak.
I don’t want to get him nervous that I would ever do it again but it does feel like something he should know.
You've done it before and rationalized it away. Who says you won't do it again when you have a good enough 'reason'?
hope the ravens win
It can't be fixed if he won't take ownership of his side of the problem.
Lol give me a break, what a naive comment. People cheat ALL THE TIME and the most likely explanation is that she cheated.
Or the chicks are lying because they don’t like the heat they get
Tbh they’re expensive
I cheated on my husband in the first week of our relationship (we were dumb teenagers, if that makes any difference) and regretted it immediately. But I didn't tell him for 3 years. It's 9 years later and it still hurts us both. I'm really glad he forgave me but will he ever forget? No way, and it sucks. I would never in a million years do it again though, it taught me a very valuable lesson.
Cancel the reservations… tell her youre sorry a GAME has ruined the relationship so much that u cannot take her to the planned dinner she had u cancel. Then explain u will no longer game with her bc she over reacts If she cannot communicate better than this at 27 years old perhaps some distance would be good.
Oh no, that’s just the times he doesn’t come home or comes home very late. He socially drinks weekly. He takes a few trips a year. He had a camping trip 2 weeks ago, does a fishing trip when the weather is nicer, and a trip with his dad and their friends in September.
At least you know now. If it was that easy to lose her than probably wasn’t meant to be ?
The comment wasn’t aggressive. People aren’t gonna sugar coat things for you when you’re so deep in denial.
I think this is overall a really, really, REALLY bad idea, Op.
You have only known this person for 18 months! And all you know about her is what she has told you. People tend to tell only the best of themselves.
And you ALREADY know that she is
*admittedly not the most proactive about financial / logistical stuff and tends to “wing it.”*
In addition, she
*also had trouble with keeping jobs due to health issues*
I think you even considering having her move in with you is extremely bad judgement on your part.
I wouldn't do it if you put a gun to my head, Op.
I worked on a boat in Alaska all summer away from my partner (24M) , i left him on bad terms, I fell in love with someone (29M) on the boat, I didn’t have any cell service to talk to my partner much, and I quit the job early to break up with him. I’m not saying these as excuses but more to say that it was very much a decision that doesnt represent who I am at all.
Ah, the standard cheater excuses.
I’m wondering if you all think I should disclose to him about what I did?
I would say, yes. Your new partner deserves to know who he is getting into bed with, so to speak.
I don’t want to get him nervous that I would ever do it again but it does feel like something he should know.
You've done it before and rationalized it away. Who says you won't do it again when you have a good enough 'reason'?
So much for in sickness and in health
So you only blocked him on one platform? That’s not really blocking him.
Hmmmm…….