Nope that's NOT normal and shouldn't be accepted as such. It's animal abuse. Something you said which also concerns me is that this triggers you? Did he act this way to you?
Yeah you can a good uncle will shut that shit right down. NAd believe me the pressure wont stop he is just laying off for a bit and will dive right back in again.
Ok. I’m not sure how “residential” housing differs (because to me that signs like the school is providing housing) but how ever you are housed you have a landlord or someone who oversees the housing that you pay to – and you should inform them that your roommate invested your room, went through your medication, is harassing you, is telling others you are mentally unwell, and that you no longer feel safe in this situation.
Even a standard landlord will work with you to either rehouse you or move her. It’s definitely worth you taking the time to inform them of this.
You’re just like my parents but reversed. My step-sister is an addict, my step-father enables her and my mom can’t say one word about anything without him taking it as an attack on his daughter.
It’s a little disappointing that she hasn’t turned to you more for advice given your own history, but seeing a similar situation play out at my own home, it’s understandable.
A mediator of some kind may help. Going to al-anon together so she can hear from other parents going through the same thing. Or a family counselor that also has experience with addiction.
What a load of BS advice in these comments. OP, you made a mistake. I know those types of groups. They are filled with bitter women making fun of the men they went out with. That is not drama he is in, that is those womens’ drama and theirs alone.
You mentioned that was 2 weeks before he met you. He was probably in his dating phase as a single guy and went out with several women over some time. It didn’t work with that girl, so he then met you and stayed with you. What a dumb reason to break up for…
What about a trouser dress like Scarlet O'Hara and her curtains?
Nope that's NOT normal and shouldn't be accepted as such. It's animal abuse. Something you said which also concerns me is that this triggers you? Did he act this way to you?
Yeah you can a good uncle will shut that shit right down. NAd believe me the pressure wont stop he is just laying off for a bit and will dive right back in again.
Are you dependent financially on him?
Ok. I’m not sure how “residential” housing differs (because to me that signs like the school is providing housing) but how ever you are housed you have a landlord or someone who oversees the housing that you pay to – and you should inform them that your roommate invested your room, went through your medication, is harassing you, is telling others you are mentally unwell, and that you no longer feel safe in this situation.
Even a standard landlord will work with you to either rehouse you or move her. It’s definitely worth you taking the time to inform them of this.
I haven't read the original post but I was just thinking, what is the girl he cheated with did not know he had a gf?
You’re just like my parents but reversed. My step-sister is an addict, my step-father enables her and my mom can’t say one word about anything without him taking it as an attack on his daughter.
It’s a little disappointing that she hasn’t turned to you more for advice given your own history, but seeing a similar situation play out at my own home, it’s understandable.
A mediator of some kind may help. Going to al-anon together so she can hear from other parents going through the same thing. Or a family counselor that also has experience with addiction.
What a load of BS advice in these comments. OP, you made a mistake. I know those types of groups. They are filled with bitter women making fun of the men they went out with. That is not drama he is in, that is those womens’ drama and theirs alone.
You mentioned that was 2 weeks before he met you. He was probably in his dating phase as a single guy and went out with several women over some time. It didn’t work with that girl, so he then met you and stayed with you. What a dumb reason to break up for…