I can move out, but I don’t want to if I can help it because stepdad is pretty useless
But move out anyway. Your help is not appreciated and your continued presence living there has allowed your mother to form some wacky ideas about her and the family being entitled to your money. No. That is her and stepdad’s job. If stepdad sucks, that’s not your problem either, that’s her fault for picking him and staying with him, and her responsibility to fix if she doesn’t like it.
JFC. She coerced you; this is called “polyamory under duress” and is considered unethical. You did not cheat. You never discussed any details. No one did research and it’s clear neither did she. She only considered her plan and didn’t care to ensure your relationship would remain stable and thriving.
Honestly, what did she expect? We are humans and sometimes we just click with someone. This is something you would have discussed if you had prepared.
This is not a stable, healthy relationship. You fucked up by missing your wife’s birthday. You don’t feel the need to physically, mentally, or emotionally connect sexually with your wife. This is indicative of you falling out of love. How can you come back from that?
Honestly, this relationship sounds broken and I don’t know if you can recover from this. If you breakup, that won’t fix your emotional connection to this other relationship. If you stay, your wife will probably divorce you. Try therapy.
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We've known I was pregnant for around 2 weeks, I am approx 9 weeks. When I told him I was getting an abortion, he simply said okay and kissed me. My boyfriend has therapy sessions and I always leave the room when he does them. I nap a lot lately (as expected), and he did them right outside the room yesterday. I woke up during the middle of one of his sessions, and I admit, I eavesdropped. I was hearing my name, and he told his therapist that I was pregnant, he wanted the baby but I didn't and although he's supportive, he can't help but feel sad. I just laid in the same position until he was done so he didn't think I heard, but I did, loud and clear. I just don't feel confident in my decision anymore. I assumed that he was on the same page as me. Now that I know he's not, it changes everything. Hearing him go on and on about it for 30 minutes…My appointment is in a couple days, but I don't know if I can go through with it now. What should I do?
What a selfish gf. You get animals they are for life. You don’t just get rid of them bc your gf is throwing a temper tantrum. God how awful for the dogs to be rehomed bc your selfish gf is selfish and manipulative. Sheesh. Get out of there !!
There won’t ever be a right time for this. And if you two already have a super toxic relationship, your breakup will likely also be super toxic and volatile.
That doesn’t mean you should wait.
You can’t wait around for this relationship to be something different before you leave. You just need to leave. Make a plan for how you can detach yourselves from each other. Get your therapists help. And maybe download Bumble BFF to meet some new friends in your area.
I was being a bit annoying to him. Wasn't the first time I was annoying or that I was shoved for being annoying
No kissing? Nude pass.
Good luck. ❤️
I can move out, but I don’t want to if I can help it because stepdad is pretty useless
But move out anyway. Your help is not appreciated and your continued presence living there has allowed your mother to form some wacky ideas about her and the family being entitled to your money. No. That is her and stepdad’s job. If stepdad sucks, that’s not your problem either, that’s her fault for picking him and staying with him, and her responsibility to fix if she doesn’t like it.
JFC. She coerced you; this is called “polyamory under duress” and is considered unethical. You did not cheat. You never discussed any details. No one did research and it’s clear neither did she. She only considered her plan and didn’t care to ensure your relationship would remain stable and thriving.
Honestly, what did she expect? We are humans and sometimes we just click with someone. This is something you would have discussed if you had prepared.
This is not a stable, healthy relationship. You fucked up by missing your wife’s birthday. You don’t feel the need to physically, mentally, or emotionally connect sexually with your wife. This is indicative of you falling out of love. How can you come back from that?
Honestly, this relationship sounds broken and I don’t know if you can recover from this. If you breakup, that won’t fix your emotional connection to this other relationship. If you stay, your wife will probably divorce you. Try therapy.
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We've known I was pregnant for around 2 weeks, I am approx 9 weeks. When I told him I was getting an abortion, he simply said okay and kissed me. My boyfriend has therapy sessions and I always leave the room when he does them. I nap a lot lately (as expected), and he did them right outside the room yesterday. I woke up during the middle of one of his sessions, and I admit, I eavesdropped. I was hearing my name, and he told his therapist that I was pregnant, he wanted the baby but I didn't and although he's supportive, he can't help but feel sad. I just laid in the same position until he was done so he didn't think I heard, but I did, loud and clear. I just don't feel confident in my decision anymore. I assumed that he was on the same page as me. Now that I know he's not, it changes everything. Hearing him go on and on about it for 30 minutes…My appointment is in a couple days, but I don't know if I can go through with it now. What should I do?
What a selfish gf. You get animals they are for life. You don’t just get rid of them bc your gf is throwing a temper tantrum. God how awful for the dogs to be rehomed bc your selfish gf is selfish and manipulative. Sheesh. Get out of there !!
If he want to help he’ll get off his ass and help. This is a lie.
There won’t ever be a right time for this. And if you two already have a super toxic relationship, your breakup will likely also be super toxic and volatile.
That doesn’t mean you should wait.
You can’t wait around for this relationship to be something different before you leave. You just need to leave. Make a plan for how you can detach yourselves from each other. Get your therapists help. And maybe download Bumble BFF to meet some new friends in your area.
baby just throw the whole damn girlfriend out. she can't or won't communicate, this behaviour is only going to get worse.