OK. So if you decide to have children, then FIL and wife will totally think it normal to have the kiddo circumcised. That's not ok. Basically stand your ground because it will get worse.
Yeah its easy for him to change his mind because its not him giving up his body, mental health and subsequent free time for the rest his life. Mens lives do not change the same way womens do in parenthood. Do not just have a child to appease him and make him stay. You will resent him, you might resent the child for the changes you go through, and you have to be realistic here youll probably be the one doing most of the childcare. If this was not in your life plan dont do it. Now if youre just on the fence you could always freeze your eggs and wait so that youre not at a total loss if you change your mind later in life. Regardless, im sorry this is happening OP and wouldnt wish this situation on my enemy it is very heartbreaking to realize you and your partner want different things suddenly.
If she is insensitive enough to bring up a former partner and compare you, you should seriously reconsider being in a relationship with her. Someone who genuinely cares about you and respects you will not be cruel to you.
As far as experience, you can improve. Sex also requires communication. Good sex also requires a connection. Perhaps, you do not have that with her, because she is a selfish person.
She’s living her life going out with friends etc.., it’s time you decide to live! your life and not worry about getting back together. You don’t seem to be a priority to her..
He loves you more than you love yourself. Of course he's going to miss that. Every moment and every memory he's ever had with you..your face now is what he pictures. When he thinks, dreams or looks at photos. Your face is the image in his head. That will change permanently.
If after 6 good years together you still have doubts she's The One, she's not The One. Set this woman free and find your One with the right cultural upbringing and family and friends and who could hold deep conversations with you. Marry her and let her make your life miserable but picture perfect for the rest of your life.
You’re dumb as FHUCK!
OK. So if you decide to have children, then FIL and wife will totally think it normal to have the kiddo circumcised. That's not ok. Basically stand your ground because it will get worse.
Yeah its easy for him to change his mind because its not him giving up his body, mental health and subsequent free time for the rest his life. Mens lives do not change the same way womens do in parenthood. Do not just have a child to appease him and make him stay. You will resent him, you might resent the child for the changes you go through, and you have to be realistic here youll probably be the one doing most of the childcare. If this was not in your life plan dont do it. Now if youre just on the fence you could always freeze your eggs and wait so that youre not at a total loss if you change your mind later in life. Regardless, im sorry this is happening OP and wouldnt wish this situation on my enemy it is very heartbreaking to realize you and your partner want different things suddenly.
This is like the saying
“you can get the guy out of the ghetto but you can't get the ghetto out of him”
If she is insensitive enough to bring up a former partner and compare you, you should seriously reconsider being in a relationship with her. Someone who genuinely cares about you and respects you will not be cruel to you.
As far as experience, you can improve. Sex also requires communication. Good sex also requires a connection. Perhaps, you do not have that with her, because she is a selfish person.
She’s living her life going out with friends etc.., it’s time you decide to live! your life and not worry about getting back together. You don’t seem to be a priority to her..
OP, this is why you don't date a cop. Anything goes wrong and the whole group of them can literally ruin your life.
Are you moving any time soon? Is there any way to get info anonymously to her?
He loves you more than you love yourself. Of course he's going to miss that. Every moment and every memory he's ever had with you..your face now is what he pictures. When he thinks, dreams or looks at photos. Your face is the image in his head. That will change permanently.
If after 6 good years together you still have doubts she's The One, she's not The One. Set this woman free and find your One with the right cultural upbringing and family and friends and who could hold deep conversations with you. Marry her and let her make your life miserable but picture perfect for the rest of your life.
Oh honey your list of mistreatment is too long. Leave him