Only share what you are comfortable sharing. Many abusive people utilise past abuse against new partners. Share triggers if they're likely to come up and get to know him slowly over time before deciding which parts you want them or need them to know.
Also, it's important to note, of course you don't have to be ok with it. You can choose whatever guy you want, and there's plenty without these dark fantasies as well
Read any of my other responses and stop trying to push a narrative you've made up in your head. Countless people saying very different things and I'm considering them all.
I understand you want your ability to tell them to their face…. But will it be worth it when they honestly don’t care? These people are so far down their sex addiction they let you go. Nothing will change. They won’t start crying for your forgiveness. And if they do it’s momentary. They don’t deserve ANYTHING you give them, good or bad, bc they lost all of you when they did what they did. Even the bad… bc when you give bad you expect some sort of reaction that helps you with closure or gives a bit of relief. This won’t give you that. They’re too far up someone else’s ass to give you what you need. Accept that they’re sick bastards and live! the life you would want with the family you have. If THEY make the effort one day… that will be on you. They’re expecting it from you. What child wouldn’t want to be able to hammer theyre POS parents? Nah Fuck them. Hold your head high, live! your best life, make a family that means something that you want it to be.
This is surely not even real from OP’s replies. In the unlikely event it is, I hope someone calls animal welfare on both of you.
Only share what you are comfortable sharing. Many abusive people utilise past abuse against new partners. Share triggers if they're likely to come up and get to know him slowly over time before deciding which parts you want them or need them to know.
You still would care about the alcohol if it didn't make her gain weight and she was still 110 lbs?
Also, it's important to note, of course you don't have to be ok with it. You can choose whatever guy you want, and there's plenty without these dark fantasies as well
Read any of my other responses and stop trying to push a narrative you've made up in your head. Countless people saying very different things and I'm considering them all.
The porn I like is very different from who my wife is. I love my wife with all my heart. I wouldn’t change a thing about her.
porn is just there to get you off. It has nothing to do with your desires in your partner. Just ignore it and move on.
this might be a dumb question but is it normal to text many girls because of this?
I understand you want your ability to tell them to their face…. But will it be worth it when they honestly don’t care? These people are so far down their sex addiction they let you go. Nothing will change. They won’t start crying for your forgiveness. And if they do it’s momentary. They don’t deserve ANYTHING you give them, good or bad, bc they lost all of you when they did what they did. Even the bad… bc when you give bad you expect some sort of reaction that helps you with closure or gives a bit of relief. This won’t give you that. They’re too far up someone else’s ass to give you what you need. Accept that they’re sick bastards and live! the life you would want with the family you have. If THEY make the effort one day… that will be on you. They’re expecting it from you. What child wouldn’t want to be able to hammer theyre POS parents? Nah Fuck them. Hold your head high, live! your best life, make a family that means something that you want it to be.
Hold on my man, you're saying looking 15 means looking good? 15 year olds look good? I get what you were going for but that was quite a slip lol
I forget men aren't allowed to express themselves privately. You're right.