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He is slow dumping you. Dump him now and kick him out.
I was in semi similar situation – me and my husband finished studies and moved to his country (mutual wish). Me as foreigner and fresh out of uni had HUGE problems finding a job and honestly, I wasn't looking that much because we were living in countryside and there wasn't great nor many offers.
Couple of months in, he had a come to jesus talk with me (idk if I was in a Funk or depressed as well), because honestly, we both hated how it was going, but he couldn't fix it for me either. After this we moved again, I applied So. Many. Times! And succeeded, after year.
As many commenters, I echo the statement – he needs a push, but in the end, heavy lifting has to be done by himself. If that won't happen now, it will not happen ever and I beg you to do better for yourself and not stay just for sunk cost fallacy.
Is the house in both your names? If it is she can put you out. Get an attorney.
Have your father, uncle or brother reach out to him. Have them start asking questions, he will leave you alone.
He's definitely checked out. He's probably trying to force you to break up with him to maintain a victim complex (ie so he can whine about how you left him for no reason, or when he was at his lowest) but no one deserves to be cheated on.
If you want to give him a chance, he has to change. Your health is being affected by him (repeated UTIs isn't good, and they can turn into kidney infections, even sepsis and organ failure, way faster than people think) and it sounds like he's not working, so what is he contributing?
Because he's 30 and she's 22, that's why it's odd. And her saying that his helping with schoolwork is one of the reasons he's a good bf is already showing dependency on him. I've helped plenty of partners with school work and vice versa but it isn't something I'd use as a “selling point” when trying to convince strangers they're a good partner. The fact she included that makes me nervous, paired with the age gap. Not many 30 year old men want to be tutoring a 22 year old after a month of dating.
You could also consider something sensory, like a scented candle or essential oils. Something to remind her of the past or something that brings her joy, even if she doesn't remember the source of the scent.
As someone who had my children in my 30’s, if I had a time machine, I would would’ve gone back and had them 10 years earlier. Pregnancy, childbirth, and caring for infants and toddlers in my 30’s was physically and mentally exhausting. I am out of it now, but there is a reason women’s bodies are at the optimal pregnancy/childbearing time much earlier in life.
I know this is devastating for you, but the good news is that because you are a man, you have another couple decades to have biological children. Perhaps it’s best to lovingly part ways now, and find a partner who shares this major life goal with you.
Yes yes yes this is more than enough to tell him to get the fuck out of your life- he’s awful, actually dont even tell him, just ghost the mf, block him everywhere move on with your life
Have you ever tried to talk about it before? I wouldn’t say “hey either we sleep together or break up,” because that’s shitty and even if she did it, it would be for the wrong reason. But just open communication. Like sitting down together, and asking her where she feels like she’s at. It could be very very possible she’s ready and doesn’t know how to express or initiate it now, and you obviously don’t want to initiate if her last known stance was that she didn’t want it. Just talk. If she does just say she’s not ready / doesn’t think she’ll be ready anytime soon and you can’t handle waiting anymore… I’d give it maybe a week or two after the talk and break up saying you think you’re incompatible. If she really pushes to know why, you can be honest that you need at least a regular sex life and you don’t want to be the type of person that pushes her into something she’s not ready for. And don’t let her offer to change her mind to make you stay. She’s already said recently she wasn’t ready, and at that point it’s just to keep you.
We have already had conversations about what Valentine’s Day means to each other. I had no problem spending money on him with no expectations of receiving anything Back but his text wasn’t enough because I received that same text from 10 other people who also did it because it was easy. He could have drawn a picture and I would’ve been fine and put it away and kept it for years. There wasn’t even and I love you said. So my point is he could have done more.
Your Bf needs to dump you. I’m Nigerian and half Igbo. My sister’s boyfriend is a Northerner, and my parents have never ever behaved that to him. You just have lousy parents and you’ve internalized their stupid tribalism. Don’t you dare come on here trying to talk about cultural insensitivity, because you know damn well that even back home your dad would have caught hands for spitting in someone’s face.
Nah, you’ve handled it perfectly mate. She isn’t interested, that sucks, but I think your last message was really mature and light. Your friends are wrong.
What are you looking for advice on?
Please dont say just break up. Jobs comes and goes and weight can always be managed.
How long has he been unemployed? Why did he leave his last job? Looking at his resume, is there a trend of a lot of short term employments? Is he trying to find the best fit job to set you guys up for future success?
It sounds like while you're worried (which is normal), you've already decided that you're committed to the relationship. Having a healthy relationship is going to have ups and downs, trials and tribulations, and cannot realistically be positive all the time.
Perhaps you could help him set up a schedule:
apply and/or follow up on job applications 3 days per week go for a jog / to the gym / workout at home 3 days per week have a date night 1 day per week work on a self improvement project or hobby 2 days per week
Working out, spending time together, and feathering in hobbies or self improvement projects are great ways to be supportive and remind him that he is more than just his job. Building confidence and a work/life balance are things that will help him in future interviews and many years to come.
Great point, do not put that responsibility on them.
I mean, it sounds like you know what you want in a partner and it sounds like you know he doesn't meet that standard.
If you want to keep waiting, then tell him: “I need a partner who is proactive about solving problems and taking care of what our household needs. For example: [list things he could have done but didn't, such as fixing the curtain rod]. This is not negotiable for me, it is a dealbreaker.”
And from then on, you don't have the excuse that he “doesn't understand” this is important, because you cannot have made it clearer.
Ultimately if you'd rather be unhappy than end the relationship, it's very likely you will continue to be unhappy.
Definitely a thing with a lot of alcoholics when they dry up but don't work on the underlying cause of their addiction. Can be the same with any kind of drug addict.
If you feel that way about your man don't be heartbroken over some pictures don't let some pictures come in between you two and cause a problem he may have forgot about them for real and it may have kind of shocked him a little bit that you were asking him about him or you know he may have thought maybe you're sleeping around or something like that but seriously I'm 48 years old I'm a man so I'm speaking from a man's point of view and I may have done that myself to where you couldn't go looking through everything I can't say that I would have or I wouldn't have but I mean if you know that he loves you and you know where it's at at night who he's sleeping next to you just had a baby and you already feel that way about him he said he's loyal and all that don't let the pictures become such a big deal and let them cause a problem between you two you know what I mean and don't definitely don't be heartbroken over it definitely don't do that be upset a little bit you know because you found them and you you know you're wondering why he hasn't but when you ask him and he gives you an answer you need to accept that answer you have some answered and if he's loyal and everything that you said at the beginning of this you have no reason not to believe him right all right well I wish you the best don't let them pictures come in between your happiness because all I'm saying good luck