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Well I mean we aren’t technically “official” we’ve had a conversation where we determined we aren’t seeing other people maybe a week before Christmas. We both celebrated with our own families in separate states but came together this past week to exchange gifts. I guess I’ll take fault for making an assumption that we would hang since we’re normally together on weekends anyway.
Only because he doesn’t want to work in the trades or have a business, he has to do something with his life eventually no? And I literally fight with my parents everyday about this
His ex is a heroin addict, I guess “crazy” isn't the proper term, but it is understandable.
I don't mind him teaching me stuff, I'm younger after all and he knows more than I do :/
Yes, he listens to me when we are arguing about serious stuff. For example, he agreed (after numerous fights) not to send his son back to his mother and leave him at our house.
I'm raising his child because nobody wants to and because I love the child. I kinda never left his house after that first night at the club, and he never asked me to leave. He went missing when his ex-wife went “crazy-mode”, also when his parents asked him to take care of the kid the first time, so he it's kind of his defence mechanisms I'd say.
UPDATE: we talked again and I explained further, my desire to provide for myself and my daughter should I need to dance again. He said that whatever I needed to do he supports me and loves me
Honestly, I think this is just a fast track to resentment and an eventual breakup. If he was actually okay with it, he wouldn't have been so upset. He may not want to lose you but he obviously isn't comfortable with you stripping. I think you need to really sit with yourself and choose between your relationship and the money from dancing.
I'm not telling you which choice to make as there is no one right answer, but you probably cannot have both in a healthy way.
He's a jerk. You don't tear down people you love like this.
Should I just go back home? ?
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Well I mean we aren’t technically “official” we’ve had a conversation where we determined we aren’t seeing other people maybe a week before Christmas. We both celebrated with our own families in separate states but came together this past week to exchange gifts. I guess I’ll take fault for making an assumption that we would hang since we’re normally together on weekends anyway.
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Only because he doesn’t want to work in the trades or have a business, he has to do something with his life eventually no? And I literally fight with my parents everyday about this
Your mother is evil and should be regarded as such.
I tried talking to her, but she just tells me it's essentially my fault. I already feel undesirable and now I'm supposed to be responsive somehow?
Move out while he’s gone. Seriously.
His ex is a heroin addict, I guess “crazy” isn't the proper term, but it is understandable.
I don't mind him teaching me stuff, I'm younger after all and he knows more than I do :/
Yes, he listens to me when we are arguing about serious stuff. For example, he agreed (after numerous fights) not to send his son back to his mother and leave him at our house.
I'm raising his child because nobody wants to and because I love the child. I kinda never left his house after that first night at the club, and he never asked me to leave. He went missing when his ex-wife went “crazy-mode”, also when his parents asked him to take care of the kid the first time, so he it's kind of his defence mechanisms I'd say.
This guy is completely testerical. Thinks he can control all of womanity by shrieking on Reddit.
Really? How so?
Going off your description of her jealous streak …
You do understand this would be a really, really awful friendship (at least for the first five or so years), right?
Oh ok! I didn't know I could just call. I know my mom's done that before, but that was mostly to re-new things. I'll definitely be doing that
UPDATE: we talked again and I explained further, my desire to provide for myself and my daughter should I need to dance again. He said that whatever I needed to do he supports me and loves me
Honestly, I think this is just a fast track to resentment and an eventual breakup. If he was actually okay with it, he wouldn't have been so upset. He may not want to lose you but he obviously isn't comfortable with you stripping. I think you need to really sit with yourself and choose between your relationship and the money from dancing.
I'm not telling you which choice to make as there is no one right answer, but you probably cannot have both in a healthy way.