I can get her results already but don’t want to go behind her back and do so. I am hoping she will finally open up to me now. My granddaughter just left and she is getting her bath and then we will chat about it
Try to be patient with him, he may be struggling with the fact that he's paralyzed. He's probably angry. He trusts you and feels safe taking it out on you. He doesn't mean to, it happens to a lot of caregivers. Try not to take it personally, you're having a hot enough time already.
I don't see her that way. She might be projecting some insecurities, but I don't think it is the issue there. We didn't have this conversation about boundaries, cause we apparently never crossed each other's limits until now. I understand your opinion, but that's not what I want to do with my relationship. If it can be fixed, I'll do my best to fix it. If it ends up not being enough, I'll have no regrets about not trying
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She'll probably dig for specific reasons why but it's best to just leave it vague if it's not a longterm relationship. I definitely wouldn't mention her past as a reason why.
I’ve been very vocal with him about how fucked all of this is and I haven’t been putting up with his shit over the past few months. My bf has severe depression and probably bipolar disorder, it’s not an excuse to treat someone like shit and I told him that. He can’t justify treating me badly and use mental illness as an excuse. He threatened to kill himself a few times when I tried to leave. I know it made it seem like I don’t love myself enough but I do, I have been choosing myself over him more and more and it has been making him mad to see himself losing me slowly. Anyone who’s been in an abusive relationship would understand the feeling of being pulled back into something you don’t want. Im at a point where I’m not sad about leaving him anymore, I feel unburdened and want to be carefree and happy again. I’m not someone that ‘needs’ to be loved by someone else, I can love and take care of myself very well. I probably do need counselling though because of the amount of trauma I’ve experienced in this relationship. I actually told him I only read such things about relationships like ours live and never thought I’d go through it myself. I’ve kept this to myself out of embarrassment for putting up with all this bs knowing I deserve better.
Yeah she has her own job and we're very independent with our money. It's more like it's gross to ask for money and you shouldn't interact with people like that attitude vs what are you doing with your money. That and the time taken away from us hanging out but she could of came with me
He is a grown man. He can go back to his parents. If you feel unsafe doing this, do it over the phone. It is never a bad call(accidental pun) to break up over the phone if it will keep you safe or protect your mental health. I personally would pack my things and look for a different apartment, have an escape plan ready. When he is out, i would have friends help me pack my things out asap and move to new place. Then i would tell him, then maybe text his parents/guardians/best friends so he has backup , then move forward and be happy. I think he is better back at home since he is not flourishing. He is holding back your growth. You got this.
He's projecting his guilt on you.
I can get her results already but don’t want to go behind her back and do so. I am hoping she will finally open up to me now. My granddaughter just left and she is getting her bath and then we will chat about it
Try to be patient with him, he may be struggling with the fact that he's paralyzed. He's probably angry. He trusts you and feels safe taking it out on you. He doesn't mean to, it happens to a lot of caregivers. Try not to take it personally, you're having a hot enough time already.
I don't see her that way. She might be projecting some insecurities, but I don't think it is the issue there. We didn't have this conversation about boundaries, cause we apparently never crossed each other's limits until now. I understand your opinion, but that's not what I want to do with my relationship. If it can be fixed, I'll do my best to fix it. If it ends up not being enough, I'll have no regrets about not trying
Your friend isn’t a friend.
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She did say she brought them a lot of popcorn for feeding the cats…I thought that too.
“I'm just not feeling it.”
She'll probably dig for specific reasons why but it's best to just leave it vague if it's not a longterm relationship. I definitely wouldn't mention her past as a reason why.
He's such a catch
I’ve been very vocal with him about how fucked all of this is and I haven’t been putting up with his shit over the past few months. My bf has severe depression and probably bipolar disorder, it’s not an excuse to treat someone like shit and I told him that. He can’t justify treating me badly and use mental illness as an excuse. He threatened to kill himself a few times when I tried to leave. I know it made it seem like I don’t love myself enough but I do, I have been choosing myself over him more and more and it has been making him mad to see himself losing me slowly. Anyone who’s been in an abusive relationship would understand the feeling of being pulled back into something you don’t want. Im at a point where I’m not sad about leaving him anymore, I feel unburdened and want to be carefree and happy again. I’m not someone that ‘needs’ to be loved by someone else, I can love and take care of myself very well. I probably do need counselling though because of the amount of trauma I’ve experienced in this relationship. I actually told him I only read such things about relationships like ours live and never thought I’d go through it myself. I’ve kept this to myself out of embarrassment for putting up with all this bs knowing I deserve better.
I blocked him as soon as I said I’m leaving.
Of you both immediately didn't suggest plan b then ypu both knew this was a possibility
That's fine. We are all individuals, my point was that making a new friend and going out to eat with a friend are both perfectly normal things to do
I have ADHD and I'm in a rage for you. He's talking complete advantage of you!
She earns her money your friend should be able to buy whatever the heck she wants
Yeah she has her own job and we're very independent with our money. It's more like it's gross to ask for money and you shouldn't interact with people like that attitude vs what are you doing with your money. That and the time taken away from us hanging out but she could of came with me
He is a grown man. He can go back to his parents. If you feel unsafe doing this, do it over the phone. It is never a bad call(accidental pun) to break up over the phone if it will keep you safe or protect your mental health. I personally would pack my things and look for a different apartment, have an escape plan ready. When he is out, i would have friends help me pack my things out asap and move to new place. Then i would tell him, then maybe text his parents/guardians/best friends so he has backup , then move forward and be happy. I think he is better back at home since he is not flourishing. He is holding back your growth. You got this.