You need to go to therapy. I'm being genuine, and I don’t mean that in a rude or nasty way.
You recognize that you feel things more intensely than others, that he's a good guy, and that you don't want to hurt him with your actions. Just coming here to lay it all out like that, and asking for help is fantastic! It shows that you recognize it's an issYOU and that you actually want to make the change.
I think going to someone who can give you a safe place to talk about your feelings/vent frustrations and also give you strategies to deal with your insecurities and jealously would be beneficial to you. Jealously needs internal work to over, and it can take time to overcome the insecurities attached to it.
Your BMI would suggest that your weight is a healthy one, and you are on the slimmer end of the range at that. Don't let toxic comments from family members get to you. If you want the relationship to work, then you both need to sit down together and come up with a schedule that improves your quality of life together, such as taking the time to have lunch together, work through disagreements amicably and sleep together.
This happened to me in the Marines with another Marines wife, should’ve dawned on me “how is she getting on base”, he ended up coming to my barracks room while she was there, they argued and left. The next day he came to my barracks room with a bouquet of flowers because she told him I was her gay friend! I blocked her and completely left the whole thing alone
It's probably just me but I've really never understood the mentality of “you have to get married after being together for x amount of years”
If you're not feeling right/ready, let her know. Not getting married shouldn't mean you don't love her, and if it's not enough for her or if for some reason marriage is the only thing that'll convince her, then maybe go with your gut on this one.
Thank you for the advice, i have a lot to think about. She has definitely crossed a boundary and i'll be sure if telling her that now that my head is cleared up a bit. Thank you for the reply, it helped a lot.
When I knew that I could be myself, faults and all, and he loves me not in spite of that but because of it.
She was this girl at the time.
I don't understand where he's coming from, and I'm not sure why you do.
You need to go to therapy. I'm being genuine, and I don’t mean that in a rude or nasty way.
You recognize that you feel things more intensely than others, that he's a good guy, and that you don't want to hurt him with your actions. Just coming here to lay it all out like that, and asking for help is fantastic! It shows that you recognize it's an issYOU and that you actually want to make the change.
I think going to someone who can give you a safe place to talk about your feelings/vent frustrations and also give you strategies to deal with your insecurities and jealously would be beneficial to you. Jealously needs internal work to over, and it can take time to overcome the insecurities attached to it.
Your BMI would suggest that your weight is a healthy one, and you are on the slimmer end of the range at that. Don't let toxic comments from family members get to you. If you want the relationship to work, then you both need to sit down together and come up with a schedule that improves your quality of life together, such as taking the time to have lunch together, work through disagreements amicably and sleep together.
This sub is not for business nor legal advice. The only real answer is talk to a lawyer.
saying it's “not a useful addition” is a pretty disingenuous way to respond to someone straight-up saying you were incorrect
Why would you date someone who is this unstable?
This happened to me in the Marines with another Marines wife, should’ve dawned on me “how is she getting on base”, he ended up coming to my barracks room while she was there, they argued and left. The next day he came to my barracks room with a bouquet of flowers because she told him I was her gay friend! I blocked her and completely left the whole thing alone
It's probably just me but I've really never understood the mentality of “you have to get married after being together for x amount of years”
If you're not feeling right/ready, let her know. Not getting married shouldn't mean you don't love her, and if it's not enough for her or if for some reason marriage is the only thing that'll convince her, then maybe go with your gut on this one.
She should definitely go for the sliding a card under her door: “So you like-like me? Check box yes or no”
Thank you for the advice, i have a lot to think about. She has definitely crossed a boundary and i'll be sure if telling her that now that my head is cleared up a bit. Thank you for the reply, it helped a lot.