Yeah cause you never really expect him to find other girls prettier, people ask these questions for reassurance, not to hear the “truth”, trust me, ignorance is bliss.
Continually, we had counselors tell him he was ‘too intense’ and ‘no one could stand up to the expectations he put on me’- ex responded with he’d ‘eventually break me’. What eventually happened was a battle of wills. Ex is extremely charming, charismatic, and intelligent. He was physically demanding in size and could work a room. It took years to find a counselor (she was solely mine for about 8 sessions) that actually saw through his BS. First time he met her, he reached out to shake her hand, pulled her in close, put other hand on her shoulder and said, “there are somethings you need to know about my wife” and she shut him down. That counselor gave me the strength and direction to get out.
Don't add her to the deed even if you do get married. It's a per-marital asset. You'd lose everything for no reason. She didn't pay anything for the house, so there's no money she would need to recoup. In the event of a divorce you both would just part ways.
I know its cynical to think about, but this isn't a situation where you guys split the down payment and spent years paying a mortgage. You shouldn't add her to the deed even if you do get married. And someone who pushes that as a condition should set off red flags.
Do you really want to be with a man who sees you and your entire gender as the enemy out to get him?
Also a bit of additional advice, proposals should be a surprise but engagement shouldn't be. You need to talk about marriage and engagement long before you're expecting a proposal so that you do not miss any very clear incompatibilities like this.
You are not compatible just end it now so don’t feel worse about it later. It is like he wants to be wanted but doesn’t want to give that is return. IMO I would stop asking please reply in your text messages. It looks desperate. If someone doesn’t respond get indication where you stand with that person.
jeez that’s a mean response i’m sorry he should’ve been like obviously u are the most beautiful to me duh end of conversation
Yeah cause you never really expect him to find other girls prettier, people ask these questions for reassurance, not to hear the “truth”, trust me, ignorance is bliss.
You're right. He's gross.
Find a safe way to cut him out.
Only date guys your age for a while.
Better advice is just don't date at all for a while but, see above if that's not an option.
All you need to do is search “age gap” in this sub to see how badly OPs are groomed and abused by age gap partners older than them.
Read up on those then come back to your post here. This relationship isn’t special, just another creep using and abusing someone younger.
Yeah you're the one hurting her because you're waffling around and saying the WORST possible things to her.
Continually, we had counselors tell him he was ‘too intense’ and ‘no one could stand up to the expectations he put on me’- ex responded with he’d ‘eventually break me’. What eventually happened was a battle of wills. Ex is extremely charming, charismatic, and intelligent. He was physically demanding in size and could work a room. It took years to find a counselor (she was solely mine for about 8 sessions) that actually saw through his BS. First time he met her, he reached out to shake her hand, pulled her in close, put other hand on her shoulder and said, “there are somethings you need to know about my wife” and she shut him down. That counselor gave me the strength and direction to get out.
I didn’t say it was accidental I said it was a mistake. I didn’t see where it said she didn’t feel bad about it?
Why was the ex there in the first place?
What I think she’s really trying to do…is her you to admit, “No, Hun…it’s not my dick. It’s your vagina that’s getting tighter.”
Don't add her to the deed even if you do get married. It's a per-marital asset. You'd lose everything for no reason. She didn't pay anything for the house, so there's no money she would need to recoup. In the event of a divorce you both would just part ways.
I know its cynical to think about, but this isn't a situation where you guys split the down payment and spent years paying a mortgage. You shouldn't add her to the deed even if you do get married. And someone who pushes that as a condition should set off red flags.
Yes, it would be. It's none of their business.
Also $160 less than half is $320 less than him
Do you really want to be with a man who sees you and your entire gender as the enemy out to get him?
Also a bit of additional advice, proposals should be a surprise but engagement shouldn't be. You need to talk about marriage and engagement long before you're expecting a proposal so that you do not miss any very clear incompatibilities like this.
You are not compatible just end it now so don’t feel worse about it later. It is like he wants to be wanted but doesn’t want to give that is return. IMO I would stop asking please reply in your text messages. It looks desperate. If someone doesn’t respond get indication where you stand with that person.