Past trauma never stays hidden forever. It can reveal itself while someone is young and hasn't yet built a life, or it can wait until there are the real gravities of a marriage, career and children to consider. So if she was going to have to experience this eventually it's better than it's happened while she still has time to resolve it without destroying too many other people's lives. For you to wish that she'd just left it untreated for who knows how many more years is kind of messed up. You're only thinking about yourself here. It is a fact that it's difficult (if not impossible) to embark on this kind of healing journey while still trying to keep a romantic partner happy. Perhaps if you could be more supportive her feelings for you would still be there once she's completed treatment.
OP, it might be nice to also create a special solemnity for your grandmother(s). Some grandmas do flower girl duty, or act as bridesmaids, sometimes there's a special dance . . . You can honor your grandmother even if you don't want to honor her son.
Im in the exact same predicament my friend, fortunately for you she explained it a lot better than my ex did.
Past trauma never stays hidden forever. It can reveal itself while someone is young and hasn't yet built a life, or it can wait until there are the real gravities of a marriage, career and children to consider. So if she was going to have to experience this eventually it's better than it's happened while she still has time to resolve it without destroying too many other people's lives. For you to wish that she'd just left it untreated for who knows how many more years is kind of messed up. You're only thinking about yourself here. It is a fact that it's difficult (if not impossible) to embark on this kind of healing journey while still trying to keep a romantic partner happy. Perhaps if you could be more supportive her feelings for you would still be there once she's completed treatment.
I've done some weird things on acid, but they were never cruel, cheating, or inherently dangerous.
I laid on the ground in a bathroom with the light off talking to my friends dog for like an hour once.
If they look similar, he could have thought it was OP, but that's impossible to really prove.
Why do you need to insist on leaving? At 20, you just leave.
How long have you dated your BF? How long have you dated in IRL (on Person)?
What is the story of you originally going there and them getting you?
it's difficult to trust
not suitable for serious relationship
run std tests
You're better off breaking up with her, she had no problem lying to you.
she bed with ex and had eager, planned sex
Now you know her character.
tell your Grandma
OP, it might be nice to also create a special solemnity for your grandmother(s). Some grandmas do flower girl duty, or act as bridesmaids, sometimes there's a special dance . . . You can honor your grandmother even if you don't want to honor her son.