Exactly, I got played so hard in my last relationship. And so I made it very clear: no naked feelings if you want something else. Just let me know. I'm not gonna cry, scream, beg, or bash your name, just be honest with me and we'll go out separate ways. I can't shake the feeling that I walked in on something bad this morning. Since the initial pleading of innocence, he's been overly affectionate and caring towards me. He usually is on a daily basis, but today it definitely feels more like he's gaging me in a sense
This is correct. If it was truly a sensory issue he couldn’t save the fun for op alone. Even if he got help, I’d be for his next relationship. He’s already locked in his manipulative behavior towards op and it’s very unlikely a therapist will get him to tolerable in a reasonable amount of time. It’s not OPs job to fix him. Also, and sorry to be a toxic dude and all but this guy has no toughness at all. What happens if he gets sick? A sniffle will render him bedridden. What happens if op gets sick? Think you can rely on him? Any chance he makes it about himself somehow?
His motives are difficult to determine. But if you're just out of a troubled relationship you probably need to be realistic about what you're capable of right now. If you're needing time as a single person to work through your breakup you're not really in the position to have anything more than (yet another) casual arrangement with him. So maybe see where things go. Just don't rush into it because if he's as great as you say he's worth saving until you're totally free and clear of the emotional baggage from your last relationship.
These are the questions of our time.
Exactly, I got played so hard in my last relationship. And so I made it very clear: no naked feelings if you want something else. Just let me know. I'm not gonna cry, scream, beg, or bash your name, just be honest with me and we'll go out separate ways. I can't shake the feeling that I walked in on something bad this morning. Since the initial pleading of innocence, he's been overly affectionate and caring towards me. He usually is on a daily basis, but today it definitely feels more like he's gaging me in a sense
This is correct. If it was truly a sensory issue he couldn’t save the fun for op alone. Even if he got help, I’d be for his next relationship. He’s already locked in his manipulative behavior towards op and it’s very unlikely a therapist will get him to tolerable in a reasonable amount of time. It’s not OPs job to fix him. Also, and sorry to be a toxic dude and all but this guy has no toughness at all. What happens if he gets sick? A sniffle will render him bedridden. What happens if op gets sick? Think you can rely on him? Any chance he makes it about himself somehow?
No because condoning racism shows that both you and your boyfriend are racist. Therefore you all suck.
His motives are difficult to determine. But if you're just out of a troubled relationship you probably need to be realistic about what you're capable of right now. If you're needing time as a single person to work through your breakup you're not really in the position to have anything more than (yet another) casual arrangement with him. So maybe see where things go. Just don't rush into it because if he's as great as you say he's worth saving until you're totally free and clear of the emotional baggage from your last relationship.
That’s funny you said that because that was his response… he thought it was concerning that I took that group seriously…..