You need to be in Al anon or adult children of alcoholics meetings. And/Or therapy but the other meetings will probably be just as good and free.
That’s how you get over it you work on yourself.
A lot of people drink and have no problem.
A bad analogy is like if your husbands dad died in a car wreck and he freaked out every time you got in a car and wanted you to stop driving.
It’s an issue he would need to work on.
Can alcohol become an issue for people, you betcha.
You need to just have a frank conversation and say you can’t be with someone who gets out of control with alcohol and if he decides to go crazy with it you’ll have to leave or online in it.
I’ll say too, often when young people start they go a little crazy for a bit and then calm down and a lot of people don’t drink at all even after going a bit nuts for a year.
If he doesn’t drink now and he is going to bar hop he will be sick as all get out the next day, sometimes that’s all people need to not do it again and sometimes they want more a day or two later.
Does alcoholism run in his family? His grand parents, dad or mom? Drug addiction?
I have asked her if it’s okay if I do this or touch that and she’ll let me know. I’m tired of having to initiate everything and not getting the same energy back like being touched back. It’s hot talking about sex with her because I know it will hurt her feelings. I just want more sexual action/ physical intimacy is something I want and need from my partner
this is a bigger red flag than it seems. If his male ego so fragile that he won't wash his ass, it'll manifest itself in all kind of shitty behaviour down the road. Cut your losses.
He has additional interviews with them later this week I believe.
Thank you!
You need to be in Al anon or adult children of alcoholics meetings. And/Or therapy but the other meetings will probably be just as good and free.
That’s how you get over it you work on yourself.
A lot of people drink and have no problem.
A bad analogy is like if your husbands dad died in a car wreck and he freaked out every time you got in a car and wanted you to stop driving.
It’s an issue he would need to work on.
Can alcohol become an issue for people, you betcha.
You need to just have a frank conversation and say you can’t be with someone who gets out of control with alcohol and if he decides to go crazy with it you’ll have to leave or online in it.
I’ll say too, often when young people start they go a little crazy for a bit and then calm down and a lot of people don’t drink at all even after going a bit nuts for a year.
If he doesn’t drink now and he is going to bar hop he will be sick as all get out the next day, sometimes that’s all people need to not do it again and sometimes they want more a day or two later.
Does alcoholism run in his family? His grand parents, dad or mom? Drug addiction?
I have asked her if it’s okay if I do this or touch that and she’ll let me know. I’m tired of having to initiate everything and not getting the same energy back like being touched back. It’s hot talking about sex with her because I know it will hurt her feelings. I just want more sexual action/ physical intimacy is something I want and need from my partner
Sounds like he did that, and his friend isn’t respecting his answer.
this is a bigger red flag than it seems. If his male ego so fragile that he won't wash his ass, it'll manifest itself in all kind of shitty behaviour down the road. Cut your losses.